I work in a hospital. I see it daily. It's never pleasant, especially when you see grieving family and friends. I have to be honest though, I am completely desensitized to it now... it's part of life, and unfortunately, part of my daily routine.
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As someone who had childhood cancer, I can tell you your perspective changes and the little bs that people argue over, you’re just over it.
That said, there’s a lot more I want to do. The difference is I don’t think “one day”. I just do it.
even when I couldn’t find anyone to go with me to nyc to see an exhibit at the met—I went by myself.
am I afraid to die? Some days its more about afraid I wouldn’t have the time to accomplish everything I want to. Other days I reflect back and realize I’ve done a lot for someone my age and I’m ok.
but I love life.
it’s just resignation of knowing the end will not be in my control by choice.
That said, there’s a lot more I want to do. The difference is I don’t think “one day”. I just do it.
even when I couldn’t find anyone to go with me to nyc to see an exhibit at the met—I went by myself.
am I afraid to die? Some days its more about afraid I wouldn’t have the time to accomplish everything I want to. Other days I reflect back and realize I’ve done a lot for someone my age and I’m ok.
but I love life.
it’s just resignation of knowing the end will not be in my control by choice.
An interesting topic, whatever the intent of bringing it up.
For me, there’s plenty left to do in this life, and I’ll keep doing it until I can’t. My former fear of death seems to be evolving into something like anticipation of, and curiosity about, a great event at an unknown future point. As someone raised with religion, and then schooled in the sciences, I maintain a reasonably open mind about what it involves, and what might result from it.
Looking back, I really can’t think of anything to put on my bucket list. I’ve done, and am participating in, more than I had ever expected.
So I’m good with it, whenever it happens. I’m just not in a hurry.
For me, there’s plenty left to do in this life, and I’ll keep doing it until I can’t. My former fear of death seems to be evolving into something like anticipation of, and curiosity about, a great event at an unknown future point. As someone raised with religion, and then schooled in the sciences, I maintain a reasonably open mind about what it involves, and what might result from it.
Looking back, I really can’t think of anything to put on my bucket list. I’ve done, and am participating in, more than I had ever expected.
So I’m good with it, whenever it happens. I’m just not in a hurry.
I'm in no hurry myself, as I had a scare two years ago but feel I haven't taken the chance to live since then, too caught up in numerous worries. I surley do not want to end up being kept alive as my father was the last month or so of his life.
An interesting topic, but - on this subject matter - might I take this opportunity to suggest, or to recommend, to everyone (especially those who may have assets) that they take the time and trouble to prepare (and have witnessed by a lawyer) a will, even if it is only two lines in length.
You will save your relatives/family/friends - those to whom you wish to leave assets - a lot of grief, both metaphorically and literally, (especially when they will probably not need further complications on your death) if you do so.
Relatives of my mother, two of her siblings, both unmarried, - well, one a widow without children, the other a clergyman - both educated, intelligent, well-read and widely travelled people, died intestate. Candidly, it left a bit of a mess, (not that anything was contested), one that took years to fully clear up.
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No one gets outta' here alive. Rather then be afraid of death, be inspired by the only life you know you're going have. After all,
“Remember, when you are dead, you do not know you are dead. It is only painful for others.
The same applies when you are stupid.”
― Ricky Gervais
“Remember, when you are dead, you do not know you are dead. It is only painful for others.
The same applies when you are stupid.”
― Ricky Gervais
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Always a good idea. Another good idea..... if you have various savings accounts, CDs, stock shares, your 401k, and even those investment-insurance plans such as annuities...... please take a few minutes to make sure you have designated a BENEFICIARY!! In many cases, when you open those accounts, they do not force you to designate a beneficiary. It's just an option to designate one at the time of account opening. But when people don't designate a beneficiary right away, many of them forget to do it soon after.
I long ago accepted the fact that death is inevitable. It comes to us all, good and bad. Some tiny part of me once held out the hint of a hope that somehow, in my case, an exception might be made. But the more I thought on it, the more I saw of life, the more I accepted the inevitable fate that awaits us all.
I don't want to die soon. I think I've got a lot of things I'd still like to do. Places to go, experiences to enjoy. Gifts to give.
But I accept the fact that a time will come when I simply can't do those things. And when that time comes, I pray I'll have the courage and presence of mind to accept the inevitable, and leave this world with a measure of the grace and humour that I hope I've exhibited while living it.
Death is not a failure. Nobody ever "lost a battle" with cancer, or heart disease. The only "failure" is failing to live while one can.
I don't want to die soon. I think I've got a lot of things I'd still like to do. Places to go, experiences to enjoy. Gifts to give.
But I accept the fact that a time will come when I simply can't do those things. And when that time comes, I pray I'll have the courage and presence of mind to accept the inevitable, and leave this world with a measure of the grace and humour that I hope I've exhibited while living it.
Death is not a failure. Nobody ever "lost a battle" with cancer, or heart disease. The only "failure" is failing to live while one can.
You can't be certain unless you've been there. There is strong possibility the spiritual world exists. Doesn't have to be religious stuff but i strongly believe after your die, your soul or spirit goes "somewhere "
That’s what is great about belief, you can believe for or against the after life, cause belief is all we got.
Well, as a catholic I also got purgatory, that is that place in which Android OS runs on last gen iPhones!
Of course I can’t be sure, but one can’t continually hang onto something that time and time again seems grossly flawed.
How can the billions of this planet all have differing spirituality and yet all end up in the same place.
But what is more important to me, is to, whilst here not force dogma upon others.
No one is forcing anything on others , i replied to your post because you are not being realistic. How do you know what lies beyond death ? No one knows, absolutely no one.
Im curious as to why you think there is a "strong possibility the spiritual world exists"? Belief itself doesn't add credence to the idea and there is no actual evidence to support it, so where does the "strong" aspect of that come from?
In a very famous book that lots of people over the past 2,000 (or so) years have read (I don’t think this under the political thread as I have that turned off, so I just want to be politically correct as not to offend) the description of death is much like going to sleep and awaking to another reality. I take comfort in the promises of this book and in the hope of eternal bliss.
However, if I am honest, I still feel fear. Mostly because of the nature of the unknown. Will my family be okay when I leave them? What will eternity be like? Etc. lots of questions will be answered in a moment.
As both a civilian and a member of the armed forces, I have seen death. Been affronted with it face to face. To know that at one moment a person was alive and breathing and the next lifeless and limp can do nothing but strike a sense of fear (or awe at the very least) in a sane individual.
However, if I am honest, I still feel fear. Mostly because of the nature of the unknown. Will my family be okay when I leave them? What will eternity be like? Etc. lots of questions will be answered in a moment.
As both a civilian and a member of the armed forces, I have seen death. Been affronted with it face to face. To know that at one moment a person was alive and breathing and the next lifeless and limp can do nothing but strike a sense of fear (or awe at the very least) in a sane individual.
Many that I have talked to over the years have a similar context of not accomplishing something they consider meaningful.
As I get further along, if I had a wish to my younger self it would be to have had more kids and have a larger family to enjoy things with.
As I get further along, if I had a wish to my younger self it would be to have had more kids and have a larger family to enjoy things with.
We just had the one. Then we lost her. So personally I wish I'd had none. Save all the pain.