Family

[iAlan]

Luv the family. Don't see them enough, once a year at Christmas. The nieces and nephews are growing too quickly not to see them more frequently, but distance doesn't allow - I am in Tokyo my family all over Australia.

Thank god for phones, email and iChat!

 

[noaccess]

I... don't particularly like mine.

It's like they based Arrested Development on it, but left out the kind of stuff that could have harmed the ratings. By that, I mean the relentless blaming and yelling, in addition to the blatant lies, complete dishonesty, manipulation and deceit, that makes any form of honest, assertive communication impossible.

 

[Virgil-TB2]

Just curious how others feel about their family (brothers, sisters, parents). ....

I put number three but I noticed that at various times in my life, each of the options would be equally valid. In other words, I think the poll is kinda useless without correcting for the age-group of the respondent.

A 20 year old that sees their mother only once a year or so, is completely different from a 50 year old that sees their mother equally as often, etc.

 

[motulist]

I put number three but I noticed that at various times in my life, each of the options would be equally valid. In other words, I think the poll is kinda useless without correcting for the age-group of the respondent.

Not only that, but there's a HUGE span between "Love em...cant get enough of being around them. My life revolves around them," and "I keep in touch, and visit for major events (births, deaths, graduations, etc)."

I selected the first option because I'm closer to that than the latter, but neither is accurate. I love my family, and I see them about once a week, and I love them at that level, but when I was living at home I definitely got too much of them. Why is there no space in the poll between 'seeing them at major events only' versus 'my life revolves around them, I can't get enough of them?'

Thus the poll results will be inaccurately skewed way too high toward the "my life revolves around them" option.

 

[mpw]

I vote option two, but if you'd have asked a couple of years ago it'd have been option one.

I'd like to get those times back, but I doubt we'll ever get back to being close. I've gone from seeing my brother everyday, to not having spoken to him since answering the phone at my father's house a few months ago, and it'd been a year since I spoke to him before that nearly.

I actively avoid my other siblings and father as best I can.

It's a huge shame, but people sometimes just can't get along regardless of genetics.

 

[bartelby]

I'm not that close to my family.
I'll ring my parents maybe twice a month. I go to visit them 3 or 4 times a year.
I'll see my sister and my nephew and niece about twice a year.

 

[floriflee]

I hardly see my family--maybe a few times a year, but that's mostly because they all live over 1K miles away on the west coast while I'm in the east. If we were closer I'd see them more often for sure. We IM, email and talk on the phone otherwise on a somewhat regular basis.

 

[nick9191]

Love them, but I since I live with them I see them too much and they drive me frigging crazy.

 

[mpw]

...mostly because they all live over 1K miles away...

I don't see mine despite all but one living within about 1mile!

 

[0098386]

A 20 year old that sees their mother only once a year or so, is completely different from a 50 year old that sees their mother equally as often, etc.

Possibly. I mean one set of my grandparents live about a quarter of a mile away, if that. They're up all the time. Just today my granddad popped round for a chat. My other set of grandparents aren't as mobile and we don't see them often. Maybe once a month for dinner.

 

[mithrilfox]

What exactly is it I'm supposed to appreciate about a stepmother who abused me in unspeakable ways on a near-daily basis for over 10 years and a spineless father who knew full well what was going on yet was too much of a chicken***** to do anything to stop it? Not to mention every other member of that side of the family who was aware of what was going on but made sure I was kept quiet so as to keep the proverbial boat from rocking?

I suppose the "good" is that she didn't manage to kill me. As far as I'm concerned, they can all drop dead in a most painful manner and I'll be only too happy to drop my pants on urinate on their respective graves when the times come.

This is not the ideal place to discuss those kinds of deeply hurtful personal issues.

You should seek out a real life friend that will understand and listen, and work through those issues. It's clear from your post that you harbor a lot of anger and bitterness, and it will only drag you down and hurt you. Harboring a grudge almost always ends up damaging one person's life: the one who has the grudge. Unless you at out that grudge and hurt another person, you are the only one being injured or damaged by your anger/hatred towards them.

 

[echeck]

I didn't vote because there isn't an option for me.

I love my family, but my life doesn't revolve around them. I visit more than a couple times a year too. More like once a quarter. Heh. I only live two hours away from my dad and the in-laws, so we see them fairly often.

I don't see my sister as much since she moved about a year ago, but my brother lives here in town, so we go golfing quite a bit.

I'll actually be visiting my dad and the in-laws this weekend. Haven't seen my dad since February.

 

[BigPrince]

I am 20 years old and I am not close with my family at all.

I have 1 grandmother who I have met three times.
I have 1 grandfather who I have met three times.
I have 1 aunt who I have met three times.
I have 1 cousin who I have met three times.


I have a mother who I despise.
I have a father who which I have a working relationship with.
They are close with each other.

Yes I am a bitter person.

 

[kabunaru]

I like my family. Sometimes I feel separated from them but that's ok. I am the only child of the family and I wish I had a brother or a sister.

 

[Vster]

I love my family. But I didn't realize until I had moved 5 hours away, that I can only handle them every few months! lol

 

[LeahM]

I love them to pieces, sometimes they don't make the right decisions (according to me anyway) but they are family and I know they have my back no matter what. And of course I have theirs. I'm not really close to my cousins though, and I'm lucky if I can guess all my cousins names on my father's side, I don't really hang out with them, and thats kinda unfortunate.

 

[toolbox]

I currently live with my parents. Whom i get on well with. My brother has moved out, i rarely see / speak to.

I reguarly see my mothers parents. I don't ever see my dads side of the family. They kinda anoy me and stress me out so i choose to stay away. When ever my parents go to see them, i always stay here.