Any women here? I think those of you yelling about "personal responsibility" might be men like my husband with those generous pockets alotted to men's clothing. At least going by the comments here.
Yes, I admit it is far more rare for my husband to lose or misplace things than it is for me. They're all either in his pocket or on the kitchen counter or a shelf in his home office or his nightstand. Whenever he strays and puts something somewhere other than those places, all hell breaks loose and we become search and rescue squad members, because if his things aren't in their designated places, OMG, someome must have summoned a poltergeist who stole them. My meticulous husband could not have possibly misplaced something!
For women, it's often a different story. Our clothes have vestigial pockets that are just there for appearances...unless we opt to wear the dreaded "mom jeans" that make our butts look huge and dumpy even if we are skinny. I'm not skinny anymore, so I only wear those jeans when I'm working in the yard.
Even so, I can barely fit my iPhone SE comfortably into the pockets. I find myself often in the middle of chores and having to stop everything to tend to some kid initiated disaster or emergency and often just leave my stuff wherever, with my mind on what could be inducing the bloodcurdling shrieks now.
So we leave our things on various work surfaces throughout the house and the kids and grandkids borrow them and they end up far from where we remember leaving them. Yes, you can train your kids to put things back from where they borrowed them, but even the most well intentioned kids get distracted. Or you need something back before the kids get a chance to return them.
I can't of course speak for all women, but I know from looking around at my peers that I can speak for many of us. We have to stuff our iPhones and earbuds in purses. We often coordinate our purses to our clothes. Sometimes it's easy to leave a set of earbuds in one purse if we are in a hurry and then forget which purse we left it in. I did that with my neon green Beats wireless earbuds...which are so glaringly green you'd think they would be immune from loss. But they remained MIA for months.
Yes, our possessions are somewhere in the house...but where exactly? Not everyone is living in a minimalist modern apartment. I live in a rambling three story country house with a family for whom I am always finding lost socks, sports equipment, school supplies that can be hiding in any of a number of rooms.
I am all for personal responsibility and do my utmost to both practice and preach it. But life happens. Life is messy and chaotic at times. I would therefore not presume that everyone lives the same as I do, and in turn, presume to say their needs are inferior to mine.
Yes, I admit it is far more rare for my husband to lose or misplace things than it is for me. They're all either in his pocket or on the kitchen counter or a shelf in his home office or his nightstand. Whenever he strays and puts something somewhere other than those places, all hell breaks loose and we become search and rescue squad members, because if his things aren't in their designated places, OMG, someome must have summoned a poltergeist who stole them. My meticulous husband could not have possibly misplaced something!
For women, it's often a different story. Our clothes have vestigial pockets that are just there for appearances...unless we opt to wear the dreaded "mom jeans" that make our butts look huge and dumpy even if we are skinny. I'm not skinny anymore, so I only wear those jeans when I'm working in the yard.
Even so, I can barely fit my iPhone SE comfortably into the pockets. I find myself often in the middle of chores and having to stop everything to tend to some kid initiated disaster or emergency and often just leave my stuff wherever, with my mind on what could be inducing the bloodcurdling shrieks now.
So we leave our things on various work surfaces throughout the house and the kids and grandkids borrow them and they end up far from where we remember leaving them. Yes, you can train your kids to put things back from where they borrowed them, but even the most well intentioned kids get distracted. Or you need something back before the kids get a chance to return them.
I can't of course speak for all women, but I know from looking around at my peers that I can speak for many of us. We have to stuff our iPhones and earbuds in purses. We often coordinate our purses to our clothes. Sometimes it's easy to leave a set of earbuds in one purse if we are in a hurry and then forget which purse we left it in. I did that with my neon green Beats wireless earbuds...which are so glaringly green you'd think they would be immune from loss. But they remained MIA for months.
Yes, our possessions are somewhere in the house...but where exactly? Not everyone is living in a minimalist modern apartment. I live in a rambling three story country house with a family for whom I am always finding lost socks, sports equipment, school supplies that can be hiding in any of a number of rooms.
I am all for personal responsibility and do my utmost to both practice and preach it. But life happens. Life is messy and chaotic at times. I would therefore not presume that everyone lives the same as I do, and in turn, presume to say their needs are inferior to mine.
