Girls: You are or You look beautiful ?

[MacVixen]

Has a female chimed in with advice yet?

As a girl, I can tell you that if she's acting normal now, then something else was on her mind that day. You didn't say anything wrong, and unless your girl is a psycho-in-training, she should not have been bothered by your compliment. However, I would definitely advise you to pay more attention to her body language. If she reacts like this again to a compliment you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with her. I would also advise you to NOT implement some of the advice in this thread - not unless you want to lose your pretty girlfriend right-quick Good luck!

 

[MegaMillions]

We are sitting in this thread discussing what she might be feeling, what might have bothered her, what she might be thinking, what you should or shouldn't say, how she might have interpreted what you said, etc, etc, etc.

If you can't just ask her all the questions that we're pondering in this thread, and get honest answers from her, then she's being emotionally manipulative, passive aggressive, and you shouldn't put up with that.

 

[ravenvii]

Just drop-kick her and say "I'M ALPHA!"

She'll love you.

(Just in case: JOKE.)

 

[andrewsd]

If she changes her behavior like that and pit of boiling oil (metaphorically) if she is like that with you.

edit: If a woman reacts like that to you saying something a little bit "wrong" then she is either emotionally manipulative, or emotionally fragile. The great news is, you don't have to put up with this. There are women who don't do this out there. Believe me. They're not the majority, but they're out there. Real, mature, honest women.

Ya, But the only problem with this is That is is true and they are really hard to come by..Tell me where are they at?

oh and as others have stated move on and get a new girl.

 

[iJohnHenry]

She is a nice person, btw. I don't think could be that...

I guess it's all about her beauty worry!

Thanks for your advice mate!

Drop the "mate", mate.

You missed my meaning. She has heard all her life how pretty she is, but she wants to be acknowledged for more than that.

And the ugly reference was aimed at her detractors, not at her.

 

[Wowzera]

My advice is going to be harsh, so take it how you want.

Wear the pants. Be the male. If I give a woman a compliment, they know that they deserve it. Sure, it is nice to tell your significant other, girlfriend (or whatever), that they look beautiful all the time. But if you say this all the time, it becomes natural for them to hear it, and they don't appreciate it as much.

Save the compliments for when they're deserved. If, in that case, she took it the wrong way, that is her problem. If you feel bad about it, you are being weak. If you're with a strong woman, and you act weak, she will leave you for something else.

These are just my experiences. I believe woman want a man who is strong, says what he means and means what he says. I've had 2 girls I've loved in my life (other than family), and I would tell them rarely. They knew it, but for me to tell them "I love you", it would have to be the right time. Not when I hang up the phone with them, go to work, etc. They know I love them, or I wouldn't be there.

Our relationship is good at all, we don't praise each other each hour, I just told that because it is my custom, when a woman arrives a meeting, I usually welcome her with a single praise.
Thanks for your advice

Has a female chimed in with advice yet?

As a girl, I can tell you that if she's acting normal now, then something else was on her mind that day. You didn't say anything wrong, and unless your girl is a psycho-in-training, she should not have been bothered by your compliment. However, I would definitely advise you to pay more attention to her body language. If she reacts like this again to a compliment you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with her. I would also advise you to NOT implement some of the advice in this thread - not unless you want to lose your pretty girlfriend right-quick Good luck!

She is ok now, but, as I have stated, she is weak about "offenses" like: ugly, strange, etc.
Hahahaha, yea, don't worry about that, I didn't even touch about that day, was just that moment!
Thanks!

We are sitting in this thread discussing what she might be feeling, what might have bothered her, what she might be thinking, what you should or shouldn't say, how she might have interpreted what you said, etc, etc, etc.

If you can't just ask her all the questions that we're pondering in this thread, and get honest answers from her, then she's being emotionally manipulative, passive aggressive, and you shouldn't put up with that.

The point of this thread is about how dangerous can be a praise like: You look beautiful, instead of You are beautiful. That may be a women weackness or something else..

Drop the "mate", mate.

You missed my meaning. She has heard all her life how pretty she is, but she wants to be acknowledged for more than that.

And the ugly reference was aimed at her detractors, not at her.

I will be following your advice, but could be a little strange to say she's smart when she comes to a date
Thanks

 

[MegaMillions]

The point of this thread is about how dangerous can be a praise like: You look beautiful, instead of You are beautiful. That may be a women weackness or something else..

That is my point. If praising a woman can be "dangerous" then there is some serious **** **** going on. She's one of the following: Emotionally demented, emotionally fragile, or emotionally manipulative. Don't put up with having to walk on eggs.

 

[LeahM]

Me: " Serious? You appear to be a little boring "
Her: " No, no... Let's go ? "

So she got offended when you said 'you look beautiful' but she was fine when you told her she was boring.

Why not greet her without using the 'you are/look" and just greet her saying 'hey beautiful'

 

[Wowzera]

So she got offended when you said 'you look beautiful' but she was fine when you told her she was boring.

Why not greet her without using the 'you are/look" and just greet her saying 'hey beautiful'

I edited the main post, I didn't say she was boring, I said: bored. Sorry for my english mistake

I will try to avoid calling her beautiful or what ever, so I will get out of troubles, even it being weird

Thanks for your advice

 

[eyesawred2]

As I female I must say...

you are putting way to much thought into this. If you say something sweet she should say something sweet back. Wait... is this an american girl your dealing with? If so, just treat her like crap for a few days and then when she cries about you being "soooo insensitive" call her fat, demand sex and a sandwhich. She will love you forever.

 

[Wowzera]

you are putting way to much thought into this. If you say something sweet she should say something sweet back. Wait... is this an american girl your dealing with? If so, just treat her like crap for a few days and then when she cries about you being "soooo insensitive" call her fat, demand sex and a sandwhich. She will love you forever.

Wow!

You are very sincere for a woman!
Anyways, she does not match this style!
Thank you very much anyways, I guess it's the first woman on this thread!

 

[iBlue]

..., I guess it's the first woman on this thread!

Errr, no. I posted earlier in this thread and that "goddess" bit under my username should indicate that I am female. MacVixen also announced straight away she is a she. I thought I remembered another too.

Not that it matters, your girlfriend is the one woman who can tell you most accurately what she is feeling/thinking. The rest of us can only guess.

 

[Wowzera]

Errr, no. I posted earlier in this thread and that "goddess" bit under my username should indicate that I am female. MacVixen also announced straight away she is a she. I thought I remembered another too.

Not that it matters, your girlfriend is the one woman who can tell you most accurately what she is feeling/thinking. The rest of us can only guess.

Yep, we are very happy now, no problems so far
I didn't notice that, I saw your post, but didn't notice you are a woman. Sorry.

Thank you very much everyone

 

[iBlue]

Yep, we are very happy now, no problems so far
I didn't notice that, I saw your post, but didn't notice you are a woman. Sorry.

Thank you very much everyone

Oh no worries. This is a technology-ish forum, the default gender assumption is almost always male. I even default to that too unless I notice otherwise.