Great, More Teenaged Drama

[Iscariot]

A big problem I find nowadays is people not making time to pursue challenging and engaging activities outside of their day to day "life" that provide any fullfillment or a sense of accomplishment. People are too wrapped up in their job, school, social circle or girlfriend to pursue anything on an individual level. "Time for ourselves" means time to watch T.V. or play video games, which don't really encompass any personal goals.

My advice would be to pick something you've always wanted to do or wished you could be, and start making it a reality. Take up a sport, train for a 5k or 10k fun run, learn a language. Do something outside of your "life" that will give you a personal sense of accomplishment.

 

[tMac85]

I was rejected by a girl whom I am crazy about, a month or so ago, the very evening that all of my finals were over with. I slept for a few hours, then sat around my dorm all day. I don't know if I ate. I wandered aimlessly around campus for three or more hours that evening, before going back to sleep. Same thing the next day. I just felt so dumb and worthless....I just walked around campus again and again and again.....then I spent an afternoon walking around on some trails in the woods. Gradually, I spent more time outside and less time inside, and I managed to get to the point where I could contain my feelings and people didn't automatically assume I was in a bad mood.

I still feel dumb and worthless, and I'm still crazy about her. But I'm not in a near catatonic state any more

Call her up and invite her to go see a movie!

Or make her some brownie balls! Basically, you bake brownies. When done, let sit for just a minute or three, then cut out the inside and spoon it into a bowl (it's hot!!) throw away the crust (the outer half inch or so). As soon as you can manage it with your hands without burning them, make small balls, and set them on a plate, of smushed brownie. Let them cool. Now heat up a bowl of white chocolate chips, maybe mix in the very tiniest bit of vegetable oil but it's better if you don't. Do this in a bowl in the microwave. Once it's quite liquid, you drop in one ball at a time. Roll it around carefully with a spoon (they can fall apart, so be careful) until it's covered in white chocolate, then drop it on a plate (w/ the spoon! The chocolate stuff is hot!!) Repeat until finished. Let them cool, but they should be eaten close to room temperature. If you take them out of the fridge and try to eat them, it's har dto bite into them.

That'll distract your mind and put it on her at the same time. Then drive to her house and surprise her! She'll love them, unless she hates chocolate.

i cant tell if you are really really serious but this made me laugh really hard. ( the brownie story, that is)


as for you kid. dont sweat the small stuff. I know it sounds crazy but this is highschool. You have (i hope) college to look forward to and the troubles are just about to start. Like a previous post said, if it is meant to be its meant to be. You WILL find someone else if things dont work out. She is just one fish in the sea. Even if you have to swim different currents for a while, the sea isnt going anywhere and you are bound to again swim in each others waters.

good luck

 

[ghall]

A big problem I find nowadays is people not making time to pursue challenging and engaging activities outside of their day to day "life" that provide any fullfillment or a sense of accomplishment. People are too wrapped up in their job, school, social circle or girlfriend to pursue anything on an individual level. "Time for ourselves" means time to watch T.V. or play video games, which don't really encompass any personal goals.

My advice would be to pick something you've always wanted to do or wished you could be, and start making it a reality. Take up a sport, train for a 5k or 10k fun run, learn a language. Do something outside of your "life" that will give you a personal sense of accomplishment.

I think that's a good idea. I think I'm going to take something up. I do enjoy some "me time" but I do need something to accomplish for myself.

But what could I do...?

i cant tell if you are really really serious but this made me laugh really hard. ( the brownie story, that is)


as for you kid. dont sweat the small stuff. I know it sounds crazy but this is highschool. You have (i hope) college to look forward to and the troubles are just about to start. Like a previous post said, if it is meant to be its meant to be. You WILL find someone else if things dont work out. She is just one fish in the sea. Even if you have to swim different currents for a while, the sea isnt going anywhere and you are bound to again swim in each others waters.

good luck

Well all in all things are working out great for us, it's just that this thing has just put a damper on my overall mood.

 

[gauchogolfer]

What the hell does that mean?

Notice the brownie ball recipe about 6 posts above yours...

Good luck with the girl, don't get overly stressed.

Iscariot, I'm troubled by the complete lack of wit and sarcasm in your post; are you doing OK?
(maybe I'm too dense and the entire post was satirical...)

 

[letsgorangers]

But what could I do...?

Read for pleasure, work out or start running (& train for a marathon), tutor children at a local elementary school, go to a place that cooks food for the homeless people in your city and help out, take pictures, get a job.

Turn off your computer and cell phone for a day and do something nice for someone else (someone you don't know!). Get into a routine of using your computer and interest less.

 

[PowerFullMac]

Text her or, if you have access to a computer, e-mail or IM her, or if you use MySpace or Bebo or some trash like that, leave her a comment on it, you will also get to see her as well, well sort of anyway...

Thats what I do anyway, because my girlfriend doesn't to to my school and I wont get to see her again until next weekend! But i'll live... (thank god for MSN, iChat and phones!)

 

[Littleodie914]

...Read for pleasure, work out or start running...

Those are two of the best solutions. I'd recommend running, it's one of the best ways to get stuff out of your head, and believe me when I say you'll feel 100% better when you're done. Remember though, it's not worth timing yourself, setting mileage goals, etc. this early into it. Just toss on some shoes and go running for a little while.

As for the reading, pick a good book that isn't slow, and won't remind you of your current situation.

Maybe, you could jog to your local bookstore or B&N, pick up a book there, and then jog back home and start reading it. Two solutions in one!

 

[Iscariot]

I think that's a good idea. I think I'm going to take something up. I do enjoy some "me time" but I do need something to accomplish for myself.

But what could I do...?

Speaking personally, my outlet is climbing. I'm typically at the indoor rock climbing gym 2-3 times a week. I'm also an active builderer, and I do a little parkour/running on the side. I wish I had discovered my passion for these things years ago when I was young enough to do it in some sort of career related fashion.

 

[.JahJahwarrior.]

Hey, I'm serious about those brownie balls! I've had nothing but compliments on them, no one ever turns down a second one!


As for "what to do" Ghall, I find that whenever I'm frustrated by thoughts of this girl, I go walk. It helps living on a college campus that is laid out in concentric circles....but I might leave my dorm at 10pm and not get back till 2am. The past two afternoons, I have left my dorm at 4pm and walked on some long forgotten trails in the woods until sunset, before walking back to my dorm. So I would advise walking.

 

[3nm]

maybe b/c you are still in junior high or something, but i can't never understand why anyone would base his/her life on his/her bf/gf. my ex did that to me - she'd call every other hour and every three mins if i don't pick up. she said she still loves me when we broke up, but there's differences between love and infatuation.

But what could I do...?

perhaps you could start a personal blog or something.

Get into a routine of using your computer and interest less.

oh wait... that might be a better idea!

 

[Plymouthbreezer]

This will either make or break your relationship... IIRC, you've only been dating for a few months... Hate to sound grim, but not spending time early on can lead to failure. At this age, no one is really committed anyway. Unless you two are goo goo over eachother, it might kinda just fizzle out. You like someone often because you spend time with them - the more time you spend with a member of the opposite sex, the more time you have to possibly develop feelings... It's happened to me many a times over my past 6 years of junior high and high school.

Anyway, I don't know. The opposite side to this applies to couples who have been dating a while - like 2 years plus, and have everything firmly established. In cases were separation occurs in this sort of relationship, the chances of it working out are far far better.

As always, keep us updated.

 

[themadchemist]

Girls?! Shouldn't you be worrying about college applications and SAT II's or something?

 

[Iscariot]

Iscariot, I'm troubled by the complete lack of wit and sarcasm in your post; are you doing OK?
(maybe I'm too dense and the entire post was satirical...)

I have to be serious some of the time. Check out my post in the Bill O'Reilly thread, though :3
(besides, this is basically self-parody.)

 

[Keebler]

ghall, you need to focus on what's beyond senior year. think of something positive and let that motivate you every day to get up and go to school.

people often forget that our lives may be filled with routines - some of which are mundane, but it is up to ourselves to change it. get a job (if you don't have one), focus on helping someone.

ppl also forget that the world doesn't owe them anything (not saying you do) so think about what you can do each day to have a great day. it's up to you. your mood is determined by how you let it 'play' you. are you going to let it win every day if it brings you down or are you going to 'win'? i know that sounds corny as hell, but it's the truth.

this is completely corny, but i do it every day.

When i wake up, I say, "Heck, i'm alive so let's give 'er!" Be happy. life is too short to be worried about school sucking b/c your gf is at another school.

i mean this is in the gentlest way, but " Suck it up man "
hang with a buddy...do your best at homework...cook dinner... do something positive.

it's only life after all. we only get one chance so make the best of it.

i need some butter for the corn, but it's the truth

 

[xodonniedarko]

Dude your girlfriend is still your girlfriend! While school definitely sucks (Then again, i wouldn't know, I don't go! haha!, but my boyfriend does!), just remember you can always see her after school, which us much more than 30 minute lunch break, and that should definitely motivate you more.

 

[0098386]

Me and Caroline have always been a really close couple. We live about 5 or so miles apart but our college was slap bang in between our houses. Seeing each other every day was great. Then we both went to seperate universities, not too far but it does mean a (pricey) train ride. It was tough at first since we would only see each other every weekend, or every 2-3 weeks when we had mountains of coursework. Though we did solidify our relationship for 2 years before university which might have helped.

It's not easy at all. But with the internet it makes it seem closer. Might also help if you both get on a phone plan where it's free to call each other, just a short call every few hours can make it seem like you're closer. It might just be us who ring each other 2-3 times a day and a little "goodnight" phonecall too

The distance is nothing to us now. If anything it's made us stronger. We know each other on a much deeper level, and to concentrate all that physical time apart into weekends can make up for anything