Completely agree, I do it because it’s no compromise for me, but yeah, all battery care measures are irrelevant.I've charged my 13 Pro with the little 5w brick, not because I was trying to save battery, but because it was handy. My battery is at 86%.
My best advice is to use your phone however you want, and charge with whatever you want. Replace the battery when it gets to be a problem.
It’s pointless to charge slowly if you’re going to update iOS, because it will obliterate battery life regardless. It’s pointless to do it if you won’t update, because battery health is irrelevant if on the original iOS version.
I just don’t need to charge quickly so I use a 5w, but I wouldn’t hesitate to charge faster if I needed to. It’s not like battery life will get worse on iOS 12 regardless.