This has always bothered me and ive never been able to figure out how to turn myself into an extrovert in the workplace. Socially, Im a bit odd at times some say. I dont like big crowds, they make me uncomfortable and i feel the most relaxed when alone. Its wierd because im a very outgoing person, very chatty and love to learn about others. Some times i can talk too much. But i dont have the best self confidence and i go through on and off depression. Ive gotten professional help for it in the past many times, and ive even attended self help groups with others going through the same thing. its help immensly but to this day i still suffer from chronic depression. So one day i can be super happy and an extrovert, ill say hi to people at work and ask how people are doing. The next day i could be down and in a shell socially and not say hi to everyone. Unfortunately, I have my days where i just come into work and dont want to be bothered by anyone. I just want to do my work, get it done and go home. Theres more to it than this and if i dig deeper, me having no social life and only 1 friend in real life (all my friends are online gamer friends who ive never met) definitely has a part to do with it. I dont go out on weekends, i stay in and the only time i go out is when i run errands. I guess you could label me as a loner. So aside from work, i dont get human interaction. Ive joined hobby groups, meetup.com groups etc and even though i havent made any friends from it yet...95 out of 100 times i say that im going to attend a meetup or event, i back out and dont go and just stay home and play video games or something. Well, i know my coworkers and especially my boss has picked up on it and can tell. Im sure they wonder how i can be so social one day and then the complete opposite the next. Now i dont know what they think of it, but im sure it cant be seen as a good thing. For instance, i know my former boss at my former job hated this about me. They always wanted (and tried constantly by pulling me aside and lecturing me) to be more extroverted. Like even on my good days, ill say hi to people and ask how they are, but thats it. I wont ask how their night was, or how their weekend was, or what they have planned for the upcoming weekend. Id just say hi or good morning and ask how they are. I would always get asked more extensive questions like how my weekend was, what did i do etc. Is anyone else like me? Id love to hesr your story. I dont know how to make myself more extroverted at work, but ive always felt (and still do) that people will look down on me as a person until i do change.