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How to be Unique

Hi guys,

Thanks again for your help. I would like to provide you with a little update.

My male gay friend brought his male gay friend into my work, I served them both at the till, and after work we all went out. My friends' friend apparently said that he really liked me. This really really cheered me up... I didn't feel that anyone could ever like me. I've text him and I'm gonna see where it goes.

I was out with my friend and my friends friend today in Glasgow and I decided to take them to my University. We got on the subway and arrived at the Uni. I never knew the Uni had a park. My friends friend did. So we went a walk in the park, and it was so beautiful. It was sunny, tree's were lovely, there were squirrels doing squirrel things, a river, a bridge, ducks. It was just beautiful. I wish I had a camera with me. I want to go back (perhaps after uni one day) and take pictures of it all. I have a camera but the battery latch is broken and needs held in place, but I have had it for 3 years and think it's time I got something better. So I"m gonna get a camera, and start taking pictures... pictures of the uni, park, nature etc. This is gonna be my 'thing'. I have had an interest in photography for a while now. This isn't something that I'm doing to be cool, I'm doing it because I like it. I would like to become a little more refined than point and click though and using iPhoto. I would like to learn Photoshop Elements.

Here are some pictures I took last year which I'm proud of:



My favourite:





I just got a text from my friends friend saying he really likes me :eek:.

The guy who I mentioned in my previous posts - the one I said I really really liked, well I still really really like him. But I'm thinking about him less. When I start thinking about how perfect everything in his life is, I just say, "SO WHAT?!". He isn't that special, I've just made him out to be. I'm just gonna be more myself with him, and if he doesn't like me then it's his loss.

I am making some changes to my personality. If that's possible. Minor changes. Things I'm not happy with. Certain things I say. I'm gonna stop complaining about people to other people. I'm going to smile more and be a little more reserved.

I have been asked (yesterday) by my dad's friend if I can tutor his 7 year old daughter (maths). I am studying maths at Uni and want to be a high school maths teacher. I don't know if I can teach a 7 year old and come across at that level, but I'm gonna try.

I went to Uni yesterday and spoke with my advisor. I have picked what courses I'm doing next year, and I'm picking up entrepreneurship. I don't know what it is, but it's business related and stuff and sounds really interesting. I'm looking forward to doing it.
 
Great to hear you're feeling better and have found something that you want to do for yourself, not for someone else.

Now get out there and enjoy life, and take more photos like the ones you've taken.

And good luck with that bloke.

(btw the photography forum here seems quite good if you're looking for advice on cameras)

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Well I feel I need to share with you all what happened today. It's left me feeling... weird.

My friends friend text me today asking if I wanted to meet him and we could do something. I met him and I took him to a bar that I am comfortable in. We both sat at a table and talked for a while about stuff, about each other etc. The conversation started to go a little dry, and I couldn't think of anything else to say, so I suggested that we go and see a movie (considering I work there and get in with a guest for free). Went and got tickets for Pulse (I'd give it 6 out of 10). We sat down and about 45 minutes into the movie he puts his hand on my bicep area on my arm. He shortly asked if I was OK and if I was alright with him doing that. I said yeah, but I felt really uneasy. I like him but I've never had a relationship with a guy yet. He then rested his head on my shoulder. When he done that I had this burning sensation over my neck. Do you ever get that when something happens that shocks you or something? I felt really really uneasy and I don't know why. I'm not used to the whole relationship thing and just felt as if it was going too fast, but christ he was only resting his head on my shoulder.

I knew the night was gonna end with a kiss, I knew it, as soon as he rested his head on my shoulder. I've never kissed a guy before (or at least in this point of the story). I was tense, nervous and aware of everything around me when watching the movie and found myself reacting to the scary bits in the movie more than I normally would because I was so nervous.

I drove him home and we talked. When I got to his house, I parked the car, took the car out of gear and put the handbreak on (god I sure give the details!). He said thank you for night and he had a really good time. Then he said, "Can I ask you something?" I'm thinking to myself at this point "here it comes!!!". I said 'What?". He said "Can I kiss you?". I laughed a bit and said "Yeah". We kissed for a few moments. It was better than I thought it would be. I pulled away, breaking the kiss and he said 'Thank you" and hugged me. He then left, and I drove home.

This is all new to me. I have no idea how I feel, at all. The guy is sweet, said that in his last relationship people walked over him and used him etc. I'm not like that at all. I don't use people or walk over people to get what I want. He has a good sense of humour. I just don't know if I feel anything...

Shaun.
 
If everyone is unique... ;)

Don't worry about it too much. There's better things to do than being "different." Like enjoying life.
 
Obviously in a sense we're all unique... but in the sense you mean... being truly different and interesting, I think the honest truth is that you either are or you aren't that type of person, and you can't decide to become a person of that kind.

Mind you that those who you admire because they are so cool and interesting are often much less happy than your average run-of-the-mill person. So if you happen to not be one of those fascinating avantgardists of life... accept yourself the way you are and be happy, and sooner or later the kinds of people who match with you will start flocking around you if you're just happy with yourself.
 
I totally agree with josh on page one just be yourself, I have freinds that do all the hip stuff wear all the hip clothing and they just think its cool and the thing is I think it is stupid to live liek that cause then you would be everchanging cause the worlds fashions and styles change everyday. I recently went to a club last week with some friends and they all dressed up and got all spiffy (looking like duece bigalow male gigalow) and I wore jeans and a nice button up shirt and had as much fun as they did.

I would say just do what you want in life if that is looking like everyone else and acting like them or if you want to be yourself then there you go.

if you think your life is boring at 19 then man you are in for some rough times lol cause getting a job and house and all the other stuff that comes with it, your going to have to find a way to have fun and live life no matter how boring you think it is.

I wouldnt say I live a exciting life I work and hang with friends when I am not out of town on business and I spoil my niece and nephew :D .
 
I think "being unique" is over-rated. I prefer not to stand out in the crowd like a sour thumb, drawing unwanted attention. Sometimes, just blending in could be a good way to get ahead in the society. There are many "marketing machines" at work which promote uniqueness to the young and old. That type of uniqueness is so shallow and fake.

If you are filthy rich, you could be eccentric (the extreme end of being unique) to your heart's content (as you would be set financially regardless what the other people or entire country or world would think of you). But, being unique for the sake of being unique won't work in the long term.
 
FearFactor47 said:
Well I feel I need to share with you all what happened today. It's left me feeling... weird.

My friends friend text me today asking if I wanted to meet him and we could do something. I met him and I took him to a bar that I am comfortable in. We both sat at a table and talked for a while about stuff, about each other etc. The conversation started to go a little dry, and I couldn't think of anything else to say, so I suggested that we go and see a movie (considering I work there and get in with a guest for free). Went and got tickets for Pulse (I'd give it 6 out of 10). We sat down and about 45 minutes into the movie he puts his hand on my bicep area on my arm. He shortly asked if I was OK and if I was alright with him doing that. I said yeah, but I felt really uneasy. I like him but I've never had a relationship with a guy yet. He then rested his head on my shoulder. When he done that I had this burning sensation over my neck. Do you ever get that when something happens that shocks you or something? I felt really really uneasy and I don't know why. I'm not used to the whole relationship thing and just felt as if it was going too fast, but christ he was only resting his head on my shoulder.

I knew the night was gonna end with a kiss, I knew it, as soon as he rested his head on my shoulder. I've never kissed a guy before (or at least in this point of the story). I was tense, nervous and aware of everything around me when watching the movie and found myself reacting to the scary bits in the movie more than I normally would because I was so nervous.

I drove him home and we talked. When I got to his house, I parked the car, took the car out of gear and put the handbreak on (god I sure give the details!). He said thank you for night and he had a really good time. Then he said, "Can I ask you something?" I'm thinking to myself at this point "here it comes!!!". I said 'What?". He said "Can I kiss you?". I laughed a bit and said "Yeah". We kissed for a few moments. It was better than I thought it would be. I pulled away, breaking the kiss and he said 'Thank you" and hugged me. He then left, and I drove home.

This is all new to me. I have no idea how I feel, at all. The guy is sweet, said that in his last relationship people walked over him and used him etc. I'm not like that at all. I don't use people or walk over people to get what I want. He has a good sense of humour. I just don't know if I feel anything...

Shaun.
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You probably feel all weird because of what society's expectations are telling you in your head and that those things are "not okay." Maybe its your body telling you, "hey man, your straight".. :rolleyes:
 
Live life to the full. Don't be reserved, do crazy things when you want to and be boring when you want to. you cant impress everybody so dont even ty to.
 
Hey :)

To be honest, i think you need to think of those kids in Africa who have no family, no home, no food, no education, and are dying from diseases and then think about yourself...you are so lucky to have been born where you have been, so lucky to have food and be able to take comfort for granted...and when you realise exactly how bad some people have it in this world, then you will be happy with how your life is and how you are.
You must remember that there is always someone in a worse-off situation than yourself and if they dont feel sorry for themselves then you don't have the right to either!
Just enjoy life, its too short to waste in sadness!

And if you don't already have a dream, then think about what you want in life and work towards it!...
And always be nice and helpful to everyone so you feel good about yourself and how much you are worth to people!


Love XOXO
 
Try the things you never had the guts to, be one of the few people who doesn't give a crap about what other people will think of them, every now and again spend a day in the park reading a book in the sun. Read something completely different for a change.

Walk places and really take in your environment, have you every just spent a day exploring on foot seeing what's just on your doorstep? Don't week in week out do the same things with your friends, be the one to make them do something new.

If you can't ice skate/swim/cook/cycle learn. Make friends with the person no one else will go near. Say thankyou when anyone does something for you, even if it's their job niegh responsibility to. Talk to old people, when you're old you'll appreciate it when someone talks to you.

Don't wear what you feel you need to to fit in with your friends or meet expectations.

Don't get up tight about stuff, it's not worth it.

Make plans to travel the world some day, some day I'll travel through south america, I've always wanted to and some day I will. I know that.

Edit: just noticed you live in scotland, climb some hills/mountains. It's fun.

Do some volenteer work. Seriously.



Life starts when you become comfortable with who you are, this is harder for some people than others but it's nearly always possible.
 
Y'all realize this thread was started in September of '06, right? :p The OP might be in a whole different state of mind now...
 
xPismo said:
i suggest better living through chemestry. Contact your local pusher or doctor... ask for some fun new stuff. Then go outside.
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Lulz.


You need to go on a vision quest. Ask your parents to fly you to Italy and backpack around Tuscany. Or go to New York or LA and take a film making seminar. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or somewhere and help people. Do some stuff to put things into perspective.

This is starting to sound like one of those mastercasrd commercials.

Backpack thru Tuscany: $3000
Film Making seminar: $1500
Volunteer at soup kitchen: $0

finding out who you are: Priceless
 
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