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I don't know how to have fun anymore

peter32892 said:
I also live in upstate. Where about do you live? What do you like to do for fun maybe I can suggest some places to go.
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Im in the Schenectady area

mscriv said:
It sounds like your rut is not just social in nature, but as you mention a lack of motivation. Remember the old Nike slogan, "Just Do It." Use the web and seek out things in your area that match up with your interests. The library, museums, sporting events, outdoor activities, art, theatre, etc. See if there are any group activities associated with your particular interests and go for it.

You mention your shy. Don't be afraid to play the "I'm new in town card." Don't be creepy or anything, but when in a social setting ask someone to tell you about the area or show you something. "Hey nice bike... I'm new in town are there any other really good trails to ride around here...? If your genuine, people will respond to you.

Okay volunteer work has been mentioned by several people, so let's get a little more specific. Habitat for Humanity is a program that builds houses for those in need. It's a group activity where you could meet a lot of other people. You could become a Big Brother with the Big Brothers/Big Sisters program and spend some time doing something fun with someone who needs a mentor. Your profile says you like things like basketball, snowboarding, working on your car etc. There are tons of things you could do with a little brother, bike rides, car shows, b-ball at the park, video arcade, movies, etc. If you do it in a public place you will meet other people while your there and maybe make more friends. The YMCA and Boys & Girls Club are always looking for volunteer coaches or something like that. And c'mon, ladies love a guy with a big heart who gives back to his community, so that won't hurt either. ;)

For Antares: I like your "glass is half full" style. You keep looking on the bright side of life my friend and don't give up on the antidepressants. :)
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Thanks for the thoughts. You are right, I just need to do it. Easier said than done but I have to do it if I want different results
 
Flying isn't cheap by most standards, but you don't have to put all the money up front either. You can just pay as you go along. Maybe just take an introductory lesson, see what you think, and go from there?
 
I can help in gibberish, but I don't think learning any language will help you meet people. Your only hope is to take a language course at a proper school, where other people are learning as well. Taking a class is definitely the easiest way to meet people.
 
dukebound85 said:
I am VERY homesick.
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I think everyone goes through this at one point in their lives. The key is to move through it.

Go Dog Go said:
In my experience, if you do interesting things, people will want to do them with you.
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Sage advice.

If you look, there may even be a local singles organization of some sort.

Volunteering, clubs, sports leagues and hobbies are a wonderful way to meet people. If you like reading, your local library may have activities that will interest you.

Find something that you are passionate about and pursue it. :)

Antares said:
Life ultimately leads to nothing but loss.
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Yes it does.

Instead, focus on life and living it. :)

mscriv said:
Remember the old Nike slogan, "Just Do It."
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That's the bottom line.

dmr727 said:
Flying isn't cheap by most standards, but you don't have to put all the money up front either. You can just pay as you go along. Maybe just take an introductory lesson, see what you think, and go from there?
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What a wonderful suggestion. :)

Of course I am a bit biased. ;)

Duke you are located in a beautiful part of the country. Great way to sight see. Just think, you could fly home for a visit once you get your license.

dukebound85 said:
went to a billiards hall with some coworkers last night for a couple hrs which was pretty fun

i am also going to sign up for a softball league through my work

i do like the idea of geocaching though. that sounds really cool. is there a nice app for the iphone concerning this?
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Billiards/Pool halls can be fun places. I enjoy visiting them with my friends when I am back in the states. Fun way to meet folks.

Softball league sounds good!
 
dukebound85 said:
i do like the idea of geocaching though. that sounds really cool. is there a nice app for the iphone concerning this?
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Sweet, I got a bite :D

There are a few apps out there. One is from Groundspeak (the owners of the Geocaching.com website) but they charge $10 for it. There are others, I have friends who are very happy with a couple of tools in particular, I can find out for you if you're interested.

I love this game because it appeals to the tech/geek engineering side as well as gets me outdoors and exploring -- and who doesn't like a good old-fashioned treasure hunt? Great fun, kids and families love it too. Especially if you like logic puzzles, and cloak and dagger spy stuff. Of all the hobbies/interests I've taken up in my lifetime, this is the one that's lasted longest. :)
 
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