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I misused the word lovely, now things are awkward

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ThatiPhoneKid

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Ok so today I’m shopping in my super market and I get to the checkout and forget to get baked beans so I asked the lady on the checkout if she could get someone to get me the baked beans, a women gets the baked beans and brings them to me and I say “lovely, thank you.” Then I say “lovely” again which to me means great but I have a feeling this women things I fancy her now just by the face she pulled, do you think she thinks I am wierd or totally in love with her or will she just think nothing of it?
 
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Well, first question I have for you is - was she lovely (attractive) ?

If she does think you fancy her, is that such a bad thing ?
 
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maculateConception said:
Well, first question I have for you is - was she lovely (attractive) ?

If she does think you fancy her, is that such a bad thing ?
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I never meant it as in she’s lovely I just said lovely, thank you. Lovely. Just worried she will start thinking I fancy her because I really don’t lol thanks for the reply man

It would be a bad thing if she thinks I fancy her because I know her boyfriend and he is notorious for getting in to fights
 
ThatiPhoneKid said:
Ok so today I’m shopping in my super market and I get to the checkout and forget to get baked beans so I asked the lady on the checkout if she could get someone to get me the baked beans, a women gets the baked beans and brings them to me and I say “lovely, thank you.” Then I say “lovely” again which to me means great but I have a feeling this women things I fancy her now just by the face she pulled, do you think she thinks I am wierd or totally in love with her or will she just think nothing of it?
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So are things actually awkward in some way? Or you simply think that they might be based on your feeling of how you are recalling that interaction?
 
ThatiPhoneKid said:
Ok so today I’m shopping in my super market and I get to the checkout and forget to get baked beans so I asked the lady on the checkout if she could get someone to get me the baked beans, a women gets the baked beans and brings them to me and I say “lovely, thank you.” Then I say “lovely” again which to me means great but I have a feeling this women things I fancy her now just by the face she pulled, do you think she thinks I am wierd or totally in love with her or will she just think nothing of it?
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You must be a very self conscious person to be worried about such a thing. The majority of us would just ignore the pulled facial expression and get on with our lives.
 
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You cant misuse the word 'lovely'. Its just that kind of a word, like 'fantastic'. It doesnt really matter what the woman at the counter thinks or anyone else thinks of your vocabulary, just feel free to use it in every situation you feel is relevant, sarcastic, complementary or otherwise.
 
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You cant misuse the word 'lovely'. Its just that kind of a word, like 'fantastic'. It doesnt really matter what the woman at the counter thinks or anyone else thinks of your vocabulary, just feel free to use it in every situation you feel is relevant, sarcastic, complementary or otherwise.
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Krayzkat said:
She’s probably thinking you are quite camp, saying lovely all the time.

Next time call everyone ‘darling’ while pouting your lips.
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All of that made me think of this:

 
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Scepticalscribe said:
I love - all puns intended - how men assume attraction from a simple pleasant encounter in a coffee shop or checkout. No, she is not attracted to you.

She is busy and trying to get stuff through that till accurately and rapidly. And politely. Just because she is professional and polite - which is her job - does not signal attraction.

She probably thought either 1) you were a needy nuisance - after all, you took up extra time, with your request, or demand, that someone fetch your baked beans - you took up more time and attention and resources than other customers - and required special service - or,

2) that you were a condescending, entitled prat. There are many ways of saying thank you, some of which come across as genuinely grateful ad respectful, and there are others which come across as entitled, patronising and condescending.

Either way, she probably wished you on your way and away from her till as fast as possible.

And, by the way, why not excise 'lovely' from your vocabulary in such circumstances and express yourself more precisely? What is wrong with 'great'? Then, there can be no misunderstanding about misdirected romantic thoughts.
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Reminds me of a friend of mine (who was a long time singleton at the time), who was convinced the bar maid at our regular pub fancied him.
To be frank she was well out of his league, and just a friendly person to the customers.

To the OP my advice is don't give it a second thought. I'm sure she hasn't!
 
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Thanks for all your replies guys, I have a girlfriend and am not attracted to this women but I just got worried because one of my male friends said lovely thanks to another man once when he got him something and he got the wrong idea and I just don’t want this women to get the wrong idea, thanks.

I wasn’t calling her lovely either I was just saying lovely as in great, thanks, wished I would have just said great now lol
 
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RedKite said:
I grew up in the US but moved to U.K. when I was 20. Here it’s just part of the dialect so I guess it depends where you’re from.
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I’m from uk also I just like saying lovely lol, if someone gave me a pen in school I’d go lovely, thanks even if they was a boy because to me that’s a nice way of saying great thanks, I wasn’t worried then that everyone would think I fancy them, just think I’m being silly, thanks for your reply
 
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I’m from uk also I just like saying lovely lol, if someone gave me a pen in school I’d go lovely, thanks even if they was a boy because to me that’s a nice way of saying great thanks, I wasn’t worried then that everyone would think I fancy them, just think I’m being silly, thanks for your reply
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Then all is well! Good luck on your adventure.
 
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Krayzkat said:
Just keep saying lovely all the time but add in a “jubbly” afterwards.
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Lol this is funny, so do you guys think she just thinks nothing of it or does she think I fancy her or is it common for people to say “ ah lovely, thank you” when someone does something nice for you, i just thought I was being polite
 
Just let it go and don't obsess about it
If you continually make it awkward around her the next few times you see her by over analyzing what she is thinking... that is when she will think you fancy her
If you are just casual and indifferent around her, she will know you don't and not even give it a thought

I don't think it is an issue now... but you can make it an issue going forward by your obsessive behavior

Unless she fancies you and was looking for the slightest clue or a sign that you had feelings too LOL
Then you are screwed
 
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