Ok, I am 38 years old, not a kid.
I met this girl in 2011. It was shocking, she was a waitress, the cutest girl ever, is not only good looking but such tender vibe. She was just a lady when we spoke.
She had family issues, she was abused as a kid, it seems her father or step father had sex with her when he got drunk and with some friends of him. She is from Cuba and in Cuba families are not the same as we know them. You belong to the government and a girl working as a prostitute (they call it tourism) makes in one night what a regular worker makes in a month, so there are schools for prostitution there.
So, she escaped Cuba at 21 and she was 25 when I met her in Miami. She didn't say all that up front, she gave me little clues during the relationship, she was very ashamed and she was overwhelmed that I was family oriented and I was showing respect and listening to her instead of just having sex with her and use her as an object.
She had some panic attacks and stuff when we were getting to know each other during a few months. She was sweet but she had her demons, it was an strange world for me.
She had a friend, 21, a girl who lived with a security guard of a club, he was 41. She told me "he was like a father figure". I never met him before, things were looking strange but... let me give the benefit of the doubt.
She moved with me and 3 days later started to party like crazy with this girl, she got lost all of the sudden for 2 days. When she showed up I was ultra upset. We came down and that day she introduced me to this couple, ghetto style. The man lived ina foreclosure apartment, he was huge.
It seems that "my girl" for being from Cube where everybody is equally ghetto and not by choice, she couldn't distinguish between communism and democratic losers!!!
To make long story short. After 2 weeks with me she moved with them. I was devastated. Now this securty guard had 2 girls living with him, one that looked like Sandra Bullock but way hotter (my girl) and the 21 years old that looked like Scarlett johansson, in a world of drugs and parties. Non of them with any college studies, just poor immigrants, low income.
So, I was devastated because I saw the good in her and all her situation got me for surprise, I didn't know how deep the rabbit whole was. This girl was so smart, she knew 4 languages, she was very warm but it was so hard for her to choose, you know, a person with such insecurity and traumas have their mind so scrambled by her past that need someone to chose for her, I didn't know it was that bad, I was expecting her to make a choice but she was not capable. He friends insisted her to move with them and leave me.
So... a year and a half has passed. No contact since September. She has been living with different people since then, with a kid a year older than her, with a man who was about 50 or 60 years old. The "security guard", the door man actually, always chasing her and using the younger girl to bring her to him.
A mutual friend told me last year, this bouncer was negotiating her with a drug dealer behind her back. I told her and she didn't believe me.
I stopped communicating with her in September. But since January she spoke to a lady who knows me just by coincidence. The lady is a tarot reader with who I spoke last year, and in January this girl end up there and the lady called me and told me everything. She was crying, she spoke about me and felt horrible because her friend have her into drugs and she has no money and do not know what to do and she has no face to see me or contact me after all the warnings I told her were true.
So... it seems she is going to contact me soon. I do not know what she is going to say or her state. All I know is that she was originally so incredible worth it as a person. My fears are her demons taking over again and losing her over parties again, I do not know. The situation is consuming me.
When I saw her I wanted her to be the mother of my kids, but it seems things comes with a price.
So, ma situation is:
I am 38 and this girl was awesome and we had a bond deeper than any I had before. She is 27 right now. She may be probably learning her life's lesson any way.
I could ignore her call and keep with my life ignoring her.
I could answer her and listening to her and take the bullets with the hopes of stabilizing. I am not Superman and if I am, I am under too much kriptonite with the situation.
Let me hear from you.
I met this girl in 2011. It was shocking, she was a waitress, the cutest girl ever, is not only good looking but such tender vibe. She was just a lady when we spoke.
She had family issues, she was abused as a kid, it seems her father or step father had sex with her when he got drunk and with some friends of him. She is from Cuba and in Cuba families are not the same as we know them. You belong to the government and a girl working as a prostitute (they call it tourism) makes in one night what a regular worker makes in a month, so there are schools for prostitution there.
So, she escaped Cuba at 21 and she was 25 when I met her in Miami. She didn't say all that up front, she gave me little clues during the relationship, she was very ashamed and she was overwhelmed that I was family oriented and I was showing respect and listening to her instead of just having sex with her and use her as an object.
She had some panic attacks and stuff when we were getting to know each other during a few months. She was sweet but she had her demons, it was an strange world for me.
She had a friend, 21, a girl who lived with a security guard of a club, he was 41. She told me "he was like a father figure". I never met him before, things were looking strange but... let me give the benefit of the doubt.
She moved with me and 3 days later started to party like crazy with this girl, she got lost all of the sudden for 2 days. When she showed up I was ultra upset. We came down and that day she introduced me to this couple, ghetto style. The man lived ina foreclosure apartment, he was huge.
It seems that "my girl" for being from Cube where everybody is equally ghetto and not by choice, she couldn't distinguish between communism and democratic losers!!!
To make long story short. After 2 weeks with me she moved with them. I was devastated. Now this securty guard had 2 girls living with him, one that looked like Sandra Bullock but way hotter (my girl) and the 21 years old that looked like Scarlett johansson, in a world of drugs and parties. Non of them with any college studies, just poor immigrants, low income.
So, I was devastated because I saw the good in her and all her situation got me for surprise, I didn't know how deep the rabbit whole was. This girl was so smart, she knew 4 languages, she was very warm but it was so hard for her to choose, you know, a person with such insecurity and traumas have their mind so scrambled by her past that need someone to chose for her, I didn't know it was that bad, I was expecting her to make a choice but she was not capable. He friends insisted her to move with them and leave me.
So... a year and a half has passed. No contact since September. She has been living with different people since then, with a kid a year older than her, with a man who was about 50 or 60 years old. The "security guard", the door man actually, always chasing her and using the younger girl to bring her to him.
A mutual friend told me last year, this bouncer was negotiating her with a drug dealer behind her back. I told her and she didn't believe me.
I stopped communicating with her in September. But since January she spoke to a lady who knows me just by coincidence. The lady is a tarot reader with who I spoke last year, and in January this girl end up there and the lady called me and told me everything. She was crying, she spoke about me and felt horrible because her friend have her into drugs and she has no money and do not know what to do and she has no face to see me or contact me after all the warnings I told her were true.
So... it seems she is going to contact me soon. I do not know what she is going to say or her state. All I know is that she was originally so incredible worth it as a person. My fears are her demons taking over again and losing her over parties again, I do not know. The situation is consuming me.
When I saw her I wanted her to be the mother of my kids, but it seems things comes with a price.
So, ma situation is:
I am 38 and this girl was awesome and we had a bond deeper than any I had before. She is 27 right now. She may be probably learning her life's lesson any way.
I could ignore her call and keep with my life ignoring her.
I could answer her and listening to her and take the bullets with the hopes of stabilizing. I am not Superman and if I am, I am under too much kriptonite with the situation.
Let me hear from you.
