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does remote desktop save what is going on so I can see it later? How does it do this?
I have not tried this, so I am not sure.

But what you can do, is have it running on a small window on your desktop. When you see something happening you can enlarge the window.

Also would it ever pop up on the computer I'm trying to monitor showing it is active or that there is an update etc?
If she has an Admin account, create a new Admin account.

Change hers from Administrative to Managed. Then use Parental Controls to limit what she can do application wise including updates.

Then when she is not around, you can log into the Administrative account via ARD and do the updates, or just sit at her computer and do them.
 
I have not tried this, so I am not sure.

But what you can do, is have it running on a small window on your desktop. When you see something happening you can enlarge the window.


If she has an Admin account, create a new Admin account.

Change hers from Administrative to Managed. Then use Parental Controls to limit what she can do application wise including updates.

Then when she is not around, you can log into the Administrative account via ARD and do the updates, or just sit at her computer and do them.

That won't work with her since she knows she can update the mac herself. She will know something is up right away. She's pretty smart.
 
This logKext seems to be the best so far, but I can't find any detailed instructions of how to work it.

I'm not even sure how to install it. Which computer do I install it in?
 
I tried logkext (just for curiosity as nobody else uses my laptop its pointless for me) and it works. Its a sensitive topic because this will also show you any username and passwords that are typed. All you need is admin rights and the admin password on the computer. Unless she does a search for "logkext" she wont find it. Once its actvated you just open terminal type in a couple of commands and the file opens for you to look through. Full instructions come in an file with the app.


This logKext seems to be the best so far, but I can't find any detailed instructions of how to work it.

I'm not even sure how to install it. Which computer do I install it in?
 
Nothing surprises me more when a parent would risk their child's well-being to accommodate their need to chat to their friends online. :rolleyes:

OP, download the software already linked and start reading the user manual. It's a wonderful thing.

Edit:
I tried logkext (just for curiosity as nobody else uses my laptop its pointless for me) and it works. Its a sensitive topic because this will also show you any username and passwords that are typed. All you need is admin rights and the admin password on the computer. Unless she does a search for "logkext" she wont find it. Once its actvated you just open terminal type in a couple of commands and the file opens for you to look through. Full instructions come in an file with the app.

Homeboy took care of it for you. Happy parenting ... or logging I should say.
 
I tried logkext (just for curiosity as nobody else uses my laptop its pointless for me) and it works. Its a sensitive topic because this will also show you any username and passwords that are typed. All you need is admin rights and the admin password on the computer. Unless she does a search for "logkext" she wont find it. Once its actvated you just open terminal type in a couple of commands and the file opens for you to look through. Full instructions come in an file with the app.
I've used this before. It works. But you must be on the computer to see it.

That won't work with her since she knows she can update the mac herself. She will know something is up right away. She's pretty smart.
Just tell her that you want to take over updating the computer, and are creating a new account to do that, and turning hers into a managed account and limit her access to some of the utilities.

Anyhow, you're the father. Grow a set. Parenting isn't easy.

Been there done that. So I can say it.
 
Seems like you're more interested in finding out who and what she is doing then preventing her from doing it in the first place.

Parental Controls stops the issues you're complaining about dead in their tracks. They talk to who you allow them to, go to the websites YOU approve and use the Apps that you let them use.

Oh, and it's free and built into the OS.
 
one thing you could do is change her passwords for all the services you don't won't her to use, and redirect them to your email address.
or you can find out what her pass word is and logon to her accounts, that way you should be able to monitor it
 
That won't work with her since she knows she can update the mac herself. She will know something is up right away. She's pretty smart.
So, you don't want her to know that you are spying on her? How about telling her that you are going to be installing monitoring software on her computer and that you don't want her doing anything on it that you wouldn't approve of? She might learn to trust you more if you are forthright with her than if you are sneaking around on her, the very thing you believe she is doing to you.
 
It looks like your problem is not software related.

You may monitor the exchanges, but that is a significant breach of trust. Even if you manage to divert this instance of her talking to older guys, the problem will simply find another way of manifesting itself (what about phone? email? other computers?).

If you are so worried, you need to go to the root cause and talk/have someone talk to her.
 
She's pretty smart.
She may be pretty smart, but you want to keep her from being really dumb, correct?

So, you don't want her to know that you are spying on her? How about telling her that you are going to be installing monitoring software on her computer and that you don't want her doing anything on it that you wouldn't approve of? She might learn to trust you more if you are forthright with her than if you are sneaking around on her, the very thing you believe she is doing to you.
Well said.

It looks like your problem is not software related.
Beginning to look like this.

Passive101, if you spy on your daughter, then confront her with the information gathered from spying, she may never trust you again because you went behind her back. If you use one of the tools mentioned above in the thread, and find something out, then just have a general discussion with your daughter about the pros and cons of the Internet and meeting people on line, then it will work. Spying is a two edged sword.

Suggest that you be upfront with your daughter and not go behind her back. And if she doesn't appear to want to change her ways, then make her account a limited (managed) one and use Parental Controls to limit her access to what you want her to have access. She may be pissed at you, but at least she knows you were forthright with her.
 
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