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I want to ask out a girl...

Maccin475 said:
Pre-planned kiss?..

That always works out, doesn't it?
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No, not really pre planning it, but lets face it. He needs to step out of the friend-zone, right? And a kiss is a great way to tell if there's chemistry between two people.

So, i'm not suggesting that he plan everything to a T, but grow a set, and take a chance. Life's too short not to.
 
mgargan1 said:
No, not really pre planning it, but lets face it. He needs to step out of the friend-zone, right? And a kiss is a great way to tell if there's chemistry between two people.

So, i'm not suggesting that he plan everything to a T, but grow a set, and take a chance. Life's too short not to.
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Oh yeah, I absolutely agree with you that he needs to do something to cast himself out of that friend zone, but going in with the intention of kissing will only make him appear more awkward. I'd say go with the flow, and if he feels like the moment is right then move in for a kiss.
 
Sorry I forgot to update this thread.

Since school started she has kinda distanced herself from me and it kinda turns out her friends don't like me and she thinks her friends are more important to her than me so we aren't even really friends anymore. Another kid was telling me that her friends were talking about me behind my back and she just agreed with them. :(

I got over it awhile ago though.
 
man, i was just gonna post that u seemed like a really nice genuine dude & wish u the best. i didnt think ppl like that existed. i know im not that way, or at least i dont feel that way. oh well, glad you could shrug it off. btw, HS girls are, on the whole, evil at worst, incredibly insecure at best. she might not be the former but it sounds like she's def the latter & has given into peer pressure. look at it as her loss. then call her the c-word when no girls (most of all her) are around. very good tonic for rejection, esp if no bourbon is available.
 
yanquis said:
man, i was just gonna post that u seemed like a really nice genuine dude & wish u the best. i didnt think ppl like that existed. i know im not that way, or at least i dont feel that way. oh well, glad you could shrug it off. btw, HS girls are, on the whole, evil at worst, incredibly insecure at best. she might not be the former but it sounds like she's def the latter & has given into peer pressure. look at it as her loss. then call her the c-word when no girls (most of all her) are around. very good tonic for rejection, esp if no bourbon is available.
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this

her loss... don't even lose a second of sleep over her.
 
Maccin475 said:
Oh yeah, I absolutely agree with you that he needs to do something to cast himself out of that friend zone, but going in with the intention of kissing will only make him appear more awkward. I'd say go with the flow, and if he feels like the moment is right then move in for a kiss.
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Well... I guess I should have prefaced by saying, if you get the vibe that she's into you too.

I agree, the kiss, just for the sake of the kiss is no bueno. But, I'm still standing by my initial post, that a kiss needs to happen in order for one to get out of the friend zone. And a great way to do that is, after a great night, just saying, hey... i gotta see something, and then slyly kiss her.
 
Just take it in stride TSE. You'll find someone in your future as you are doing what you need to do and that's work on yourself.
 
Don't Worry if You haven't Found True Love Yet!

Dear TSE,

I was sorry to hear about your travails. You do seem genuine and caring. I think all of us have been in your position before.

For what it's worth, here's my perspective on the HS dating scene: the point is to get to know yourself, other people, and to figure out what makes for the right match for you. You can't have much control over when you'll meet "the one for you." More than likely--as a statistical matter--you won't meet the person you'll marry in high school. So, in the meantime, you would ideally enter into different kinds of relationships with many different people--some romantic and some not.

No doubt, your heart will get broken and you may break some hearts. But you'll learn things along the way; and this will help you do better next time at starting, maintaining, and, if necessary, ending relationships. In particular, you might note all of the qualities of this lady that made her attractive to you, and then do your best to emulate them.

You can't be entirely carefree, as you need to think seriously about the significant consequences that could follow from your decisions. But romance should generally be enjoyable--and I think it can be if we remember that most of us mean the best but are just trying to figure things out as we go along.

Take care, keep your chin up, and good luck! :)
 
By the sounds of it, she wasen't even a true friend in the first place.

She's like Windows Vista: unreliable, annoying, and not worth the time and hassle :D
 
iPhone 62S said:
By the sounds of it, she wasen't even a true friend in the first place.

She's like Windows Vista: unreliable, annoying, and not worth the time and hassle :D
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don't forget about the viruses :p

OP forget about her and go have some fun
 
Sorry how things turned out, she wasnt a real friend thats for sure. But for the future heres a girls point of view; if you are interest and you want to ask a girl out, then just ask, just spill it out. There is no magic about this. Good luck. :)
 
Re :

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Ask her out but do not try to outright kiss her. If you do that, she will feel alienated and as if you just want "something" else out of it.

I went to the club last night and ended up dancing with this one girl most of the night, very beautiful and she had the most amazing eyes. But some guys started coming up and dancing with her and he just outright kissed he before he moved on to his next "prey". I defended her saying she was my "girlfriend" and I didn't appreciate him acting like an animal, he just left and I didn't see him the rest of the night.

She was very happy I did that, but I never did kiss her when the night came to a close. I suggest you do the same, avoid it, a kiss isn't everything. But don't be afraid to ask her out.
 
Zombie Acorn said:
You are already friendzoned if she is giving you a haircut. All you are going to do is create an awkward situation.
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Though it sounds like you need to get rejected a couple times to get used to it, so maybe you should go for it anyway.
 
TSE said:
Sorry I forgot to update this thread.

Since school started she has kinda distanced herself from me and it kinda turns out her friends don't like me and she thinks her friends are more important to her than me so we aren't even really friends anymore. Another kid was telling me that her friends were talking about me behind my back and she just agreed with them. :(

I got over it awhile ago though.
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Wow, that sucks. Sorry about that.

If it makes you feel any better, the girl I like and I are in the same situation.
Except she goes to a different school than me, and I guess we lost our friendship when I moved.
 
bearbear said:
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Though it sounds like you need to get rejected a couple times to get used to it, so maybe you should go for it anyway.
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yeah, a general rule of thumb about relationships is that girls will never, ever cut the hair of a guy they like, i mean, dont u read the frickin bible???
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