I've learned a lot reading this topic:
1) grow some balls
One's secondary genitalia has nothing to do with one's tolerance for insults, btw, I did laugh when I got that PM. I wasn't insulted, as it was an immature attempt at riling me off and the culprit has not even responded to my reply, which was in no way insulting just stating the facts to things s/he alluded to.
2) private messages should be private between both parties only
According to the rules, they are.
3) admins can read our PMs anytime they want, they may even read our PMs for fun
Why should they, they have hardly any time at all when they work the regular fora.
4) reporting PMs makes you a snitch
It does not, I learnt it the hard way, even though it was in a more real environment than here. I was in a clinic for people getting away from drug abuse and once I abused drugs with other people while in there (nowadays I look at it as a good learning experience) and two days later I reported myself, but not the others. Due to the regulations, "don't bring drugs into the compound", which I didn't, I would have been let go, as my fake story included myself as the one getting the drugs into the clinic and using it there. One of the others, who did take the drug with me, came forward the next day, but the actual person to bring the drug into the clinic was not even in the clinic due to some problems at home he had to take care of.
We, the ones that came forward, were still protecting that absent person and risking our therapy for it, because we thought, being a snitch is bad. In some circumstances it is, when life and death or some similar circumstances are involved, but in this case, we had to learn, that we are there to protect OURSELVES, that's why many came in the first place, as taking drugs is harming oneself.
In the end we reported that absent person and he got thrown out, turns out, he was using illegal substances to gain muscle strength and was drinking while at home, but still lying about it.
The moral of that story: not every one is a snitch for reporting an irregularity, especially one that harms or will harm oneself.
Sorry for going off the road like this, I just were at that clinic yesterday for our annual reunion - less and less people one knew come though, which is kind of sad.
I get them often but have never reported them. I just got one this morning that I think I'll report for kicks.
As strange as it may sound, I would like to read some of those, just for the kicks of it.
And as you're are a polarising woman (I got caught in it once or twice, until I learnt the charm of it), you might get more of these, I guess anyway.
