Some More Anecdotes
Okay, so with everything I mentioned earlier, I saw MUCH improved battery life with the iPhone 4, but still not the rock solid life before (overnight went from 98% to 94% with iTunes store enabled - really pointless to turn off unless you never get/update apps - and mail fetching, location services on). iPad 2 went from 98 to 97%. All background apps (in bottom bar) were killed. Again, nothing to cry about, but with my first gen iPad, I'm still sitting at 100% battery after installing 4.3 and with all push, notifications, Ping, etc. all still enabled - after about 2 days. THAT's the type of battery life we expect!
Now, I should mention that my iPad 2 is a "restore" of my first-gen iPad settings (I'm desperately trying not to have to reduplicate HOURS of work in setting up my iPad). I've read that such restores can mess up battery issues, so below are some other suggestions:
1. First, for iPad 2 users using the "smart cover," try disabling the auto-on/off feature. This makes some slight difference its seems. On that note, make sure for Pete's Sake to have the "auto-lock" on (not passcode lock, but autolock). Mine is now set to 2 min, just like my original iPad.
2. Also, try to do a couple (2-3 in a row) "hard resets" (hold home button and power button together until device restarts. No data is lost.). This seems to have made a HUGE difference on my iPad2/iPhone 4 in standby mode, though somewhat less in actual use. In fact, I'm gradually restoring functions (e.g. push notifications, Store, etc.) on iPad2 and noticing that battery in standby seems to be holding strong like the original iPad. (Two hours+ on standby with notifications, apple store, mail fetch, location all on and percentage hasn't budged! Fingers-crossed!). I'll update later.
iTunes Store has taken over as the frontrunner as far as suspects, followed by FaceTime, then Find My iPod. Gamecenter is also a player. It appears that it's really an amalgam of all of these, including I guess Ping.
But the question remains, what else is different about iPad vs. iPhone 4 and iPad 2 using IOS 4.3 causing poorer battery performance, especially during use? Cameras, facetime, (processor)??? Whatever it is, I hope a software patch does the trick.