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You need to go check them out and decide for yourself, because it depends on what's more important to you: the lighter weight and portability of the mini, or the superior display of the iPad 4. My wife and I upgraded from our old iPad 1's last December, and we both opted for the iPad 4 because of the gorgeous Retina display. Had the mini had Retina, the choice would have been more difficult.
 
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