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The untested presumption herein is that you wouldn't have still been just fine on your Verizon phone, had it not been mmWave enabled.... My secondary line on Verizon had mmWave though, and still worked just fine. I believe AT&T and Verizon have mmWave at Nissan Stadium, while T-Mobile only has midband 5G.
The primary reason that mmWave improves connectivity in crowded venues is that the network has to be designed to work around the short range issues; you do that by installing more network nodes... lots of them. By default, that means that any carrier using mmWave to cover a stadium or similar venue is also required to install huge fiber upgrades to their entire backbone for that venue in order to handle all of those nodes. This inherently benefits all of Verizon's/AT&T's customers at the venue, not just mmWave customers, because those nodes are typically multi-band enabled.
Thus, even in the total absence of mmWave, if T-Mobile were to mirror that approach by upgrading their backbone at those venues and installing their own small cells throughout, the comparison would change dramatically. The problem is, of course, two fold: 1) it's not cheap to commit to those kinds of upgrades, and 2) they'd have to negotiate with the venue owners for access to the facility. These things obviously didn't happen in your case, possibly because the facility may have already promised exclusive rights to another carrier, or possibly because T-Mobile concluded that the ROI just isn't where it needs to be.
TLDR: Your real problem wasn't with midband vs mmWave... it's with T-Mobile's crappy backbone at that venue.