Just wait till youre in your 30s...All the single girls that are still good looking have been through divorce and have a kid or two for YOU to raise...
Lol funny but also true!
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Just broke up with my girlfriend.
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Lol funny but also true!
Fortunately I found a good fit for me years ago and worked on every little thing that came up...
OP-Id strongly suggest you re-consider. Unless it was a disagreement over FAITH or RELIGION, or shes a DEM and youre a REPUB, or something along those lines, you may be in for a struggle.
Interesting replies.
How about this? I didn't have fun hanging out with her! We didn't share any passions! I felt guilty every time she sent a mushy text because I didn't feel the same way.
There were no serious problems, just no spark or desire or passion or FUN for me.
Is that enough?
How about this? I didn't have fun hanging out with her! We didn't share any passions! I felt guilty every time she sent a mushy text because I didn't feel the same way.
There were no serious problems, just no spark or desire or passion or FUN for me.
Is that enough?
The question then becomes: wtf were you doing going out with her in the first place?
Well first of all, I was exaggerating a bit in my last post, because a lot of people here didn't seem to understand how confident I am that she's not the one for me.
But the bulk of the answer to that question is that our relationship started online and long distance, and during that time I fell in love with her and we Skyped for literally 4+ hours a day.
For reasons I can't explain, after the first three months, when our relationship was no longer long distance, I never got to feeling about her in-person the way I had felt about her during the Skype days. But now we were three months in, and I was not clear on what I was feeling or what was going on. It's not like I could have said "oh, you're like a different person now that we're not long distance, I'm leaving you." Though I did communicate to her that I feel disoriented by the difference, because I'm into radical honesty.
As the months went on I became more and more uncomfortable being with her because the feelings I had when we were long-distance just weren't coming back. So I broke up with her in May. We got back together the next day though, because I missed her and I was confused and I just couldn't let go.
Between May and now we had a lot of good times together, mostly when I was able to not think about the future at all, and pretend that I am not almost certain that we're not going to end up together. That conversation kept coming up though obviously, because of the way I felt. I always tried to be completely honest with her, but I'm weak, and that weakness combined with the fact that it's technically true that I can't know for Sure how I'll feel in the future, caused me to feel very comfortable and good about being with her in the last several months.
The lack of fun and passion is what I am now perceiving from the perspective of being apart for over a week. For example, on Saturday I did an activity with a friend of mine who shares a certain passion that my girlfriend didn't, and I noticed I was having a lot more fun in the same type of situation than I was with my girlfriend. Just things like that.
In retrospect I feel that you're supposed to be more elated and excited to see your parter, and really loving every minute of it and having things you love to do together.
I used to think that if there were no major problems on paper, that that was a reason to stay in a relationship, but I think there also has to be a spark, and I've just recently learned that.
No offense, but you sound a bit odd to me...Id also suggest talking to a psychologist as you seem to be pretty conflicted about this.
Im not saying you are nuts or anything, but this is pretty unusual behavior for guys...(You are a guy, right?)
Most guys I know never thought that hard over a GF of less than a year...Never-the-less, never be with someone that doesnt make you happy...In the end, theyll make you miserable. (Especially when religion, politics, and kids pop up!)
EDIT:Usually, the one for you makes you excited to be with...So if youve never felt excited, then your "shes the one" is still out there.
Im not saying you are nuts or anything, but this is pretty unusual behavior for guys...(You are a guy, right?)
Most guys I know never thought that hard over a GF of less than a year...Never-the-less, never be with someone that doesnt make you happy...In the end, theyll make you miserable. (Especially when religion, politics, and kids pop up!)
EDIT:Usually, the one for you makes you excited to be with...So if youve never felt excited, then your "shes the one" is still out there.
Well no offense but I'm a human being. I think about things. When I'm with a girl for a few months I'm going to be thinking about whether I see marriage potential. I'm not just going to be like "wheee, I'm getting sex, so all is good."
IMO, you need to be getting to know someone for the first couple of months before even considering whether or not they are wife potential...Don't get serious until youve been through a few problems, seen them at their worst. THATS when you begin considering more serious matters.
Marry your best friend, that's what the pros recommend.
EDIT: Date several girls at the same time...Have some fun getting to know them all. Keep it casual until one begins to grow on you.
Don't fret dude, I broke it off with my fiance 3.5 years ago and thought at the time "what was I thinking/why didn't I stay?" I thought I'd never meet someone who made me happy, and it turns out I did (we've been married for 6mo now and it's been awesome!).
Just focus on making yourself happy, and the right one will find her way to you.
ps. if you're doing the online dating thing (that's how my wife and I met), DON'T use the free sites. why would you want to meet up with someone who is against paying for her online profile? gross
Just focus on making yourself happy, and the right one will find her way to you.
ps. if you're doing the online dating thing (that's how my wife and I met), DON'T use the free sites. why would you want to meet up with someone who is against paying for her online profile? gross
Belated congratulations on the marriage!
I thought OP requested this thread to be locked, or is it the other one.
I bet he's moved onto the next girl by now since it's been about a month and a half.
And there are gross ass guys and girls out there who willingly pay for dating sites. Just an FYI.