I don't know why everyone's saying my OP was rude or hostile. Maybe a little irritated but I didn't insult anybody or call other people names. I said something is annoying (which it is) and all hell breaks lose. Some of you need to take a look in the mirror. Thanks to everyone who responded kindly.
I think the setting should be in messages rather than mail and contacts, that is pretty confusing.
Just like your so called "fanboys" are so willing to defend Apple, people like you are always so willing to jump on the bandwagon to criticize Apple, and in your OP you even attacked Jony Ive personally and you presumed that it was a change that was instated. So you could have come on MR and asked if there was a way to fix this or an option to toggle this, but instead you presumed that you are smarter than Apple and Jony Ive and went on a rant based on your incorrect presumptions. People would have gladly helped if you were humble and asked the question instead of turning a simple oversight into a mistake on Apple's part.
So no, I think you're the one that needs to look in the mirror, because if I had posted earlier, I would not have been courteous either. Anyways I'm glad your problem is resolved.