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Lonely teens
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Hey me too...But actually a completely different, except for the last part...You should call her up and be like Shane (that's her internet name), Shane, next thursday we are going to do something so don't make any plans.
Worked for me. Give it a try.
all i have to say hanging out on an internet forum does not help your case at all lol
just go do stuff and youre bound to run into people
just go do stuff and youre bound to run into people
Hey me too...But actually a completely different, except for the last part...You should call her up and be like Shane (that's her internet name), Shane, next thursday we are going to do something so don't make any plans.
Problem is her parents will just throw her for a loop and say they're going somewhere that day at the last minute. And the overprotective boyfriend probably isn't helping.
Do you share friends in common? If so, get together with another friend that maybe her parents know better. Then they won't worry as much. The boyfriend, that really sucks but i mean, what can he do? She has her own rights and life.
Nah, I met her at my job. So I don't know her friends. I agree it is her own life and she seems to know that it is her own life, but she seems to follow what the BF tells her. The whole situation confuses me. She realizes he's a jerk and that she will never marry him, but she doesn't break up permanently with him( they have been on and off). At least she is a young so she can learn from these experiences. I have pretty much become the friend that lends a shoulder for her to rant on.
Not that it is a bad thing.
Are you interested in her as more than a friend? That could complicate things. Do you guys still work together? You can go out to lunch together maybe? Or maybe after work, maybe if there are places close by or something. That way no one is really involved in anything except you two.
No, we don't work together anymore. We both quit( not at the same time). I did make a move towards her, but it failed. She was my first person I made a move towards and the first person I have felt the way I did. So it took me awhile to get over her( in fact, I realized reality just 3 weeks ago.
). Frankly, I wasn't very good at hiding my feelings. Everyone at work knew I had feelings for her. I think the BF saw that too( yet he acts cool with me). So yeah, it is definitely complicating things. But, she is still a very good friend to me and I will miss her when I go to college this fall.
No, we don't work together anymore. We both quit( not at the same time). I did make a move towards her, but it failed. She was my first person I made a move towards and the first person I have felt the way I did. So it took me awhile to get over her( in fact, I realized reality just 3 weeks ago.
Maybe you can stop over her house sometime and just hang out and talk before you go to college. It sounds like it would be awkward but it's not as much as you would think.
HS is a good time to develop some buddies and friends. Having a GF or BF is nice, but not needed. They tend to complicate things.
Try to focus your energy on other things. Learn to be independent. Find ways to entertain yourself and not be dependent on others to enjoy yourself. Get involved with organizations, sports, music and hobbies. These skills will serve you well on your journey through life.
Try to focus your energy on other things. Learn to be independent. Find ways to entertain yourself and not be dependent on others to enjoy yourself. Get involved with organizations, sports, music and hobbies. These skills will serve you well on your journey through life.
I don't know where she lives. She has always come over to my house or met somewhere else. Though she did seem open to me over over to her house sometime when she came to my graduation. Though nothing happened so far. I made the move back in April( that is why I put the
when I said I realized reality 3 weeks ago) when she quit and we have still seen each other occasionally. She acted like I never made the move, but I don't know what to make about that. My naivete wants me to think it is due to her not wanting it to get in the way of our friendship. But, I don't know.
That is good advice, and important. It is hard to follow, especially if all of your friends are getting mates all the time. It puts pressure on you, but you just need to look out for yourself. If you find someone, great, but don't rush it, and don't go out looking for someone. It doesn't work that way usually.
I don't know where she lives. She has always come over to my house or met somewhere else. Though she did seem open to me over over to her house sometime when she came to my graduation. Though nothing happened so far. I made the move back in April( that is why I put the
It is possible that she never acted liek you mad a move because she wasn't really interested in you in that way, but did not want to be obvious, or have to tell you straight out that she wasn't. Call her up or talk to her online and work something out. If you say something stupid you can blame it on this thread...or me...
But I don't think that will be a problem
It is possible that she never acted liek you mad a move because she wasn't really interested in you in that way, but did not want to be obvious, or have to tell you straight out that she wasn't. Call her up or talk to her online and work something out. If you say something stupid you can blame it on this thread...or me...
I did message her saying if she was avoiding me due to knowing I had feelings for her. She responded asking why I felt that way and knows we're friends, but she has been busy with her new job and night class( and now her own business as well) and hasn't had time to hang out with any of her friends. And frankly I would rather have her tell me straight up. I don't like mind games/hidden messages. I never get them.
Most people would, but it is very hard for anyone to be downright and just say it as it is. But see, she's really busy, and I understand how you can see it as her avoiding you, but take her word for it when she says she isn't.
I am taking her word for it. Especially since 2 weeks ago we went out to get something to eat( and give her the birthday present I got her). She explained her situation with me. Though I have another friend saying she is using "being busy" as an excuse not to hang out with me.
And she might be, but the point is, if she is using it as an excuse, you gotta let her. There are many reasons she might not want to see you, maybe for your sake or hers. Maybe she doesn't want you to get your hopes up, especially so close to you leaving, or maybe she doesn't want to get too attached to someone who is leaving in scant over a month. Either way, if it is an excuse, so be it, and if its not, so be it. Just go with the flow.
Yep, peer pressure, whether direct or indirect, can be very strong.
However, once you make a stand within yourself not to be swayed, that is the day you become truly free in thought and actions, and can then follow your own path whatever that may be.
Very wise words.
When you really want something is when you least can find it.
Besides, great relationships are built on friendship first.
Agree.
Well, I'm not completely lonely, but summer is pretty dull.
Looking forward to tomorrow (I'm asking my crush out, and it's band camp!) and then Wednesday (Band Camp dance).
Yeah.
Looking forward to tomorrow (I'm asking my crush out, and it's band camp!) and then Wednesday (Band Camp dance).
Yeah.
Where do I fill out an application to join the "Lonely Teen" thread?
You just have to be lonely...
We accept you in with gracious arms.