I think a lot of Apple apologists are doing the same thing they have done for decades.
Tahoe just overwhelms the system for no apparent reason whatsoever. Liquid Glass/translucency or whatever effect they use should NOT impede performance. It is even taking away precious GPU/CPU cycles from M series chips, which would rather go to more important things like apps that are running in the foreground.
I also do significant work in Google Chrome (Google Suite and Web App based workflows), while folks may say Chrome is a GPU/CPU/Memory hog, I disagree, because my same workflow is perfectly fine on the same machine(s) in Sequoia. Even if you quit Chrome and only run pro software like Creative Cloud (Photoshop, After Effects, etc) there is a significant performance drop. My timeline playheads just jump around erratically and tasks like previews in AE are just slow which breaks my concentration/workflow and makes me really angry.
This is simple A/B testing. Are we saying that later versions of Tahoe won't make performance better? No, what we're saying is no amount of Liquid Crass is worth the extra horsepower that's being eaten away here.
I remember when Leopard came out I had a higher end G5, and even by .3 it didn't run this bad or slow down my workflow. I use my Macs professionally for a living and they need to do certain things with my workflow.
I'm so glad I went back to Sequoia. I wish I had a backup of it so I didn't just waste 2 days restoring it manually. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise though, I made a fresh install and move stuff over manually and I hadn't done a fresh install of macOS in years.