Just become friends with whomever your roommate is? That way, even if they're home when you are, it doesn't matter
That's not true. Everyone needs space, even from friends. If you live with a friend and they're always home when you are, that will ruin the friendship.
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buy him some movie tickets ... or get your own place ... the thing is with sharing a house ... other people live there
Living there =/= never leaving.
That's not living.
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He's there because he lives there. If you want an empty house, you don't have roommates.
He wants space, not an empty house. NORMAL people leave the house sometimes. It's perfectly reasonable to want a NORMAL roommate.
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Pretty sure your argument can be flipped round to you as well.
You're both in the same boat.
His roommate gets to have some space. He doesn't. They're nowhere near in the same boat.
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well, he lives there......so why wouldn't he be home?
if you don't like the fact that your roommate is home, then maybe you're not really good roommate material yourself.....perhaps you should look for your own place
and there's nothing wrong with wanting your own place
Being good roommate material doesn't mean being okay with someone being there ALL THE TIME. That's not even healthy.
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Hardly. I am very seldomly at my place. Though when I am, he is always there. On the otherhand, he usually has the place all to himself and it is quite evident.
So no, can't really be flipped
It's not the fact that he's lives there that I have an issue with. It is just that he is always there. I have had room mates where they weren't there all the time and it was nice when everyone was home as it was a rare occurrence. Quite different than every time I walk in, the guy is lounging about lol.
I guess all I am trying to say is that it is nice to have a balance in that regard when it comes from roommates lol
Exactly. Balance is important. Normal roommates are NOT ALWAYS there.
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I lived in a house with 8 guys in college and had a great time, never a dull moment. You should just get roommates you actually like spending time with.
No matter how much you like spending time with someone, you will not want them home when you are ALL THE TIME. That's not healthy, it's not normal, and it will cause you to have being around them.
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If you go into a living situation with roommates with the expectation of never seeing them then you either need to find a suitable house with a floor plan that allows for limited interaction or don't have roommates. I'm not sure why you're surprised that you run into your roommmate(s) when you're home. Next time, if you must live with others, find one who has a specific schedule that limits the amount of time you must interact. Otherwise, it is silly to rant about the presence of a roommate who is obviously only pissing you off because he lives there.
You're missing the point. His roommate is ALWAYS there when he's there.
You see, in most/normal/healthy roommate situations, there are occasions where your roommate isn't there when you are. There is a healthy, balanced gray area between ALWAYS being home and NEVER being home.
You should only share a living space with people who live within that healthy balance.
[doublepost=1464214516][/doublepost]Anyway, it's clear to me that a lot of people here have boundary issues and don't understand what a healthy roommate situation is supposed to look like.
Do what I did: kick him out and find a normal roommate.
