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Mom suspected with cheating on dad, should I medal?
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It's not a matter of "I'm alright, Jack".
It's a matter of "whatever happens between a couple in a relationship and/or two consentient adults in a bedroom is their own business".
Corollary: "don't meddle with it and nobody will hate you".
yea I would not spy on your parents as you could get in trouble potentially... and if you gve her the mb, don't you think it's hers? I mean she gave you clothes/food/toys and the like growing up and I am sure you thought they were yours lol
I wouldn't interfere to the extent you are suggesting but would rather just sit down with your parents and air your concerns and leave it at that. Let them take it from there.
BTW, Gloosywhite....your replies are hilarious in a not so flattering way of thinking
I wouldn't interfere to the extent you are suggesting but would rather just sit down with your parents and air your concerns and leave it at that. Let them take it from there.
BTW, Gloosywhite....your replies are hilarious in a not so flattering way of thinking
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"Warning" never works
First and foremost, you have no idea what, if anything, your dad knows. Maybe he is ok with everything.
But really the bottom line is that warning people about their choice in romantic partners fails 99% of the time the person is so in denial that they will say you don't know what you are talking about, or you don't know what you are talking about, or they know they shouldn't be doing x, but are going to do it anyway.
It sucks, but us homo sapiens aren't exactly a 100% rational bunch, esp. when it comes to selecting romantic partners.
First and foremost, you have no idea what, if anything, your dad knows. Maybe he is ok with everything.
But really the bottom line is that warning people about their choice in romantic partners fails 99% of the time the person is so in denial that they will say you don't know what you are talking about, or you don't know what you are talking about, or they know they shouldn't be doing x, but are going to do it anyway.
It sucks, but us homo sapiens aren't exactly a 100% rational bunch, esp. when it comes to selecting romantic partners.
I guarantee you the situation is not as black/white good guy/bad guy as you're making it seem. When people seek emotional fulfillment outside of their marriage, it's almost always because they're not getting it from their husband or wife. So I'd be careful about casting your mom as the absolute villain and your father as the poor cuckold. It's more likely a little of both.
That said, I think you should stay out of it. Their personal relationship with each other really doesn't concern you. I know that's hard to digest, but it's true. Recording her conversations and trying to read her texts from backups is going way, way too far into the creepy realm. You're their son, not their friend or confidante.
That said, I think you should stay out of it. Their personal relationship with each other really doesn't concern you. I know that's hard to digest, but it's true. Recording her conversations and trying to read her texts from backups is going way, way too far into the creepy realm. You're their son, not their friend or confidante.
The Queen doth protest truth of veracity in Spades.
All the more reason to simply talk to them without judgement about what's going on and offer any support you can. No doubt it's an emotionally charged situation that is quite difficult to bear. I really hope you have friends or other family around that you can share this burden with.
No one's head is in the sand. People are telling this poster to mind his own business, which is what more people should do in life.
Someone so little concerned about the vows she took when she got married (namely to remain faithful to the guy busting his hump to keep her in her lifestyle) is similarly not going to have much regard for dignity, hers or anyone else's.
We read your post. For someone who says he would do anything for his family, you sure are nasty about it and not too concerned with keeping it together. If I were your parent, I'd smack the crap out of you for sticking your nose where it doesn't belong.
Letting your parents handle their own problems is not ignoring your family.
I'm nasty because of the rest of the posts. I have been in this position and I did confront the parent. They divorced and quit living a stupid lie that drug the family through dirt. Sometimes parents act like children and need to be treated as such. FYI, my dad tried slapping me once, it didn't go well for him.
My point is that this is now family business and it should be handled. What happens if the father finds out later comes unhinged taking someones life? By simply intervening before it goes to far he could derail a possibly toxic situation. I'm not saying they will stay together, but at least they can move on.
Pass the buck, let someone else deal with all the 'difficult stuff'. Selfish to the end, as are 95% of the people on this thread. Spineless and selfish.
No wonder the world is in such a mess, when noone has the balls to take a stand, and do what is right.
It's nothing less than I expect from the modern world: "I'm alright, Jack". Well that's okay, as long as you're fine and dandy, that's all that matters. Welcome to the modern world, where noone stands up for morality, because they've lost touch with the concept, and are too afraid to step in, and make a change.
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I suggest we end it here. It's beginning to go nowhere.
Give glossywhite the last (irrational) word.
Not at all. Again, it's called minding one's own business.
And what is one supposed to do in this case? Hmm? You still haven't said.
Idiots? Really? That's all you got? What change is the OP exactly supposed to make here?
Mom suspected with cheating on dad, should I medal?
I'd don't know, how many times a week do your practice your event??
And fix the thread title, if you ever appear again.
I'd don't know, how many times a week do your practice your event??
And fix the thread title, if you ever appear again.
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Yeah....it wasn't pretty. Sorry about that OP, hopefully some of the advice that was given will be helpful.
Looks like the thread will go back to being reasonable again....
Alrighty then... Although I agreed with Glossy that he should intervene, I don't agree with the name calling and insults. There is no need for it. My opinion is that he should intervene (by speaking with his mother) but that is it, my opinion.
Glossy my friend, you are on your own at this point.
Glossy my friend, you are on your own at this point.
What a sad "golden rule". The times when you need the most advice normally happens to be the time when you less want it.
We are not talking about two strangers fighting here. It's the OP parents, and I believe he has the right and responsibility (even more so now that he is older) to try and make something to prevent them from divorcing.
Nonetheless, don't spy on them. That won't get you anywhere. Just talk directly to them and tell them what you think, and offer your help.
Please keep the posts on-topic and free of insults and name-calling or the thread will be heading to Wasteland.
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I personally wouldn't get involved if I didn't know the whole story and I've found with parents, you rarely get that.
Very true.
And with the OP's age, the possibility that his Mother is entering menopause should not be discounted.
I have been witness so some strange behaviour, due to hormonal imbalance.
Perhaps a visit to her GP might not be amiss?