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My dad died
- Thread starter dukebound85
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I'm sorry for your loss Duke. I know how it feels as I was exactly your age when I lost my dad in 2012. It's not an easy thing to deal with, but it helps if you try to think of the things you got to do with him instead of the ones you missed. In my case I'm extremely happy that my dad got to meet my son and I've made sure to back up the photo of me and my son together with my dad to survive pretty much anything that's not the end of the world.
My sincere condolences.
It takes time., sometimes a lot of time to get through the grieving process.
My father has been gone for 14 years, mother 7 years. I think about my parents multiple times a day...your post opened up the hurt I felt after I lost my mother.
May G-d bless.
It takes time., sometimes a lot of time to get through the grieving process.
My father has been gone for 14 years, mother 7 years. I think about my parents multiple times a day...your post opened up the hurt I felt after I lost my mother.
May G-d bless.
I'm so sorry to hear this news. I've always felt that snow shovelling should be delegated to the state as it is very costly in terms of human life but it's just not the human spirit to sit there and do nothing when you want to do your bit to help.
If I could choose the way I go, it would be while helping a lady.
If I could choose the way I go, it would be while helping a lady.
I am sorry for you, I can imagine how hard it is and I am very scared of that moment too. Sadly it's part of life we have no choice. God bless you.
Sorry about your loss. There is nothing that any of us can say to bring him back or ease your pain.
Do know that time heals wounds and you will survive this.
But it is going to sting for a long while.
I know what you are going through, and it is tough.
Hang in there my friend.
May your dad rest in peace.
It is probably better to go quickly than to wither away with some terrible disease.
Time heals wounds.
It is probably better to go quickly than to wither away with some terrible disease.
Time heals wounds.
Sorry for your loss 
I lost both of my parents 3 years apart several years ago, so I know the pain you must be going through.
I lost both of my parents 3 years apart several years ago, so I know the pain you must be going through.
My sincere sympathies, dukebound85.
I can understand what you mean about the circumstances of your dad's death haunting you. A relative of my wife's, he went in the backyard to cut some wood with a power saw. It got quiet for a while. His wife probably figured he was taking a break. She found him dead on the cold ground. Yup, heart attack. I only knew the guy casually, but it haunts me, the idea that he died out there alone. Life can be cruel that way.
But the cliché that time is the great healer is true. I know that you know that, even if it doesn't feel like that right now. Just keep on moving, going through the motions of your daily life. Sooner or later, it'll start to feel normal again.
I can understand what you mean about the circumstances of your dad's death haunting you. A relative of my wife's, he went in the backyard to cut some wood with a power saw. It got quiet for a while. His wife probably figured he was taking a break. She found him dead on the cold ground. Yup, heart attack. I only knew the guy casually, but it haunts me, the idea that he died out there alone. Life can be cruel that way.
But the cliché that time is the great healer is true. I know that you know that, even if it doesn't feel like that right now. Just keep on moving, going through the motions of your daily life. Sooner or later, it'll start to feel normal again.
I lost my mother Christmas day in 1997 at the age of 70. Although it was expected, it hurt so bad. I cried for months afterwards. My dad, who I didn't get along with after mom died, passed away in 2001 at the age of 86. He was 12 years older than my mom. Still, even though I didn't get along with him in later years, he was a great dad to me when I was young. Unfortunately things went south after mom died. I won't go into details about the negativity , but I do miss him dearly. It sucks that all of us will lose loved ones eventually. All I can say is it does get easier to deal with as time goes by. And yes, I have tears in my eyes right now because some of the pain has returned.. You never get totally over it.
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Aww man, so sorry @dukebound85. Take it one... moment... at... a... time.... Grieving is a process and a choice. Know that you have friends here and please let us know if there is anything we can do.
My sincere condolences.
I lost both of my parents more than 20 years ago. And I was abroad. Could not make to the bed of my dad who like your Father got a heart attack. After our family doctor called me I crossed countries at 200 km/hour. Still was late. A year later got another call, again drove like crazy through countries and borders not to be late. This time I was not late, but my Mother was in coma. After I sat on her bed and hold her hand she died. I think she was waiting for me.
People become adults when they lose their parents.
May your Father rest in peace.
I lost both of my parents more than 20 years ago. And I was abroad. Could not make to the bed of my dad who like your Father got a heart attack. After our family doctor called me I crossed countries at 200 km/hour. Still was late. A year later got another call, again drove like crazy through countries and borders not to be late. This time I was not late, but my Mother was in coma. After I sat on her bed and hold her hand she died. I think she was waiting for me.
People become adults when they lose their parents.
May your Father rest in peace.
