My GF snoops through my phone..any apps available?

[Dastion]

It's entirely possible your GF doesn't have trust issues, she's just nosy and wants to know what you talk to people about. It's worse if she thinks you might be cheating. Usually it's the people who are always suspicious of their spouses who actually do the cheating.

As to finding out when she's doing it, when you close your phone and set it down, go to an app that doesn't have multi tasking of some sort. As in, any app that when you reopen it doesn't jump back to the state or place it was in. That will be a dead giveaway.

Also, just out a lock on your texting app. If she's claiming she isn't doing it, then how will she know you've locked it? When she brings it up, finally, tell her flat out that you dislike her going through your private conversations with friends behind your back. But tell her you'll let her read all of your texts anytime she asks.

I also like the fake SMS idea with a friend. A better way to do it would be to use HER number, naming her something else obviously sexual so she doesn't realize they came from her phone at first glance. Send yourself a couple of flirty texts from her phone, and then end it with "I know you're reading this <GF's name>..." combined with careful selection of both where you closed your phone and where your SMS app was at when you last got in it it should be easy to know if she's been snooping.

 

[kevintech]

what about if you want to hide from your girlfriend that you ARE cheating? is there an app for that?

 

[rwilliams]

Also, just out a lock on your texting app. If she's claiming she isn't doing it, then how will she know you've locked it? When she brings it up, finally, tell her flat out that you dislike her going through your private conversations with friends behind your back. But tell her you'll let her read all of your texts anytime she asks.

A good, trusting, secure woman would never ask to read such things. I swear, either guys don't know what a GOOD woman is anymore, or they lose all backbone out of fear that she might *gasp* leave.

 

[lucifiel]

A better way to do it would be to use HER number, naming her something else obviously sexual so she doesn't realize they came from her phone at first glance. Send yourself a couple of flirty texts from her phone, and then end it with "I know you're reading this <GF's name>..." combined with careful selection of both where you closed your phone and where your SMS app was at when you last got in it it should be easy to know if she's been snooping.

nahahahaha awesome idea.

*sigh* this is strange thread.

 

[ohaithar]

Didn't read the whole thread, but go try Locktopus from Cydia or a new gf.

 

[goMac]

Set a new lock code, and don't tell it to her like you did last time.

And stop freaking out over it, it just makes it look like you have something to hide.

Unless you do, then you have more problems.

 

[yentrog31]

"Who can you trust?

Do you think your best friend would read your email while you where not looking?
Would your flat mate check out who you have been calling lately?
Do you think your girlfriend or boyfriend would read your text messages if you left your phone with them while you took a shower?
A new british study says 67% of women check their boyfriends phones regularly.

With iTrust you can find out would snoop around on your phone while you are not looking."

There's an app for that.

http://www.jorgnsn.com/iTrust.php

 

[0970373]

Well, wasn't expecting this on a Macrumors forum.

Womanly advice here...

To everyone saying he needs a new GF, he obviously loves her as they are engaged. So quit telling him he need so break up with her. Geez. Tricking her or making her feel like an idiot isn't going to help.

OP: She has trust issues and probably doesn't know how to work through them. There's no app for that...sounds like you guys need couples counseling before you get married. :/

Good luck.

 

[OrangeSVTguy]

Well, wasn't expecting this on a Macrumors forum.

Womanly advice here...

To everyone saying he needs a new GF, he obviously loves her as they are engaged. So quit telling him he need so break up with her. Geez. Tricking her or making her feel like an idiot isn't going to help.

OP: She has trust issues and probably doesn't know how to work through them. There's no app for that...sounds like you guys need couples counseling before you get married. :/

Good luck.

Best advice yet.

Girlfriend 1.1. Just needs a new firmware update

I do think there are apps out there that can take a picture when you log onto it. This way you can show proof if she used it as it will have her mugshot on it. If you have nothing to hide then it really doesn't matter or I don't think you need any type of recorder or logger. Knowing that she accessed it would be more ideal so you can catch her in a lie?

 

[applefanDrew]

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Well, wasn't expecting this on a Macrumors forum.

Womanly advice here...

To everyone saying he needs a new GF, he obviously loves her as they are engaged. So quit telling him he need so break up with her. Geez. Tricking her or making her feel like an idiot isn't going to help.

OP: She has trust issues and probably doesn't know how to work through them. There's no app for that...sounds like you guys need couples counseling before you get married. :/

Good luck.

Best advice yet.

Girlfriend 1.1. Just needs a new firmware update

I do think there are apps out there that can take a picture when you log onto it. This way you can show proof if she used it as it will have her mugshot on it. If you have nothing to hide then it really doesn't matter or I don't think you need any type of recorder or logger. Knowing that she accessed it would be more ideal so you can catch her in a lie?

Dude, lol at the firmware update.

 

[labman]

Best advice yet.

Girlfriend 1.1. Just needs a new firmware update

I do think there are apps out there that can take a picture when you log onto it. This way you can show proof if she used it as it will have her mugshot on it. If you have nothing to hide then it really doesn't matter or I don't think you need any type of recorder or logger. Knowing that she accessed it would be more ideal so you can catch her in a lie?

Hmm will he still be able to get Facetime with the update?

 

[coochiekuta]

"did you touch my phone?"

"no"

asked and answered. if you dont have proof, why not accept the answer? the lack of trust begets more of it i guess.

if you SUSPECT but have no proof then you really need to lock your phone. if it is ever locked out you will know someone tried to get into it.

however without proof you should take her word.
if you havent, let her know that going through your phone is akin to if you were to go through her purse. she will get the picture. again, if you have proof.

 

[the diego]

I wouldn't want to use this app all the time, but to prove a point get the Big Brother app and lock your phone with a code she does not know. It will snap her pic and time stamp it when she tries to unlock it.

BTW, I've always heard if someone doesn't trust their SO they are more likely to be cheaters themselves.

 

[daneoni]

I'm all for the 'test'/'trick', sometimes people need to be caught red handed/physically shown how ridiculous they are being before the message gets driven home.

OP there's no particular app for exactly what you're trying to achieve unless you ultimately lock your phone and your gf won't cease and desist from carrying out her habits either.

 

[applefanDrew]

Hmm will he still be able to get Facetime with the update?

I wonder if he'll be able to get anything else after that firmware update?

 

[TJone]

Well, wasn't expecting this on a Macrumors forum.

Especially the iPhone Hacks section. Maybe she just needs a tweak. Tweak her nipples next time she snoops as a punishment. Problem solved.

 

[ItsJustafnPhone]

Well, wasn't expecting this on a Macrumors forum.

Womanly advice here...

To everyone saying he needs a new GF, he obviously loves her as they are engaged. So quit telling him he need so break up with her. Geez. Tricking her or making her feel like an idiot isn't going to help.

OP: She has trust issues and probably doesn't know how to work through them. There's no app for that...sounds like you guys need couples counseling before you get married. :/

Good luck.

To add to this, no one in a healthy relationship should ever have to ask for this kind of thing. two people in a relationship are entitled to their own autonomy and privacy. You shouldn't have to know 100% of what the other person is doing as long as it doesn't hurt the other partner. If my GF wants to get a pedicure or a treatment for athletes foot then she is owed that privacy

similarly text messages, facebook, e-mails should never be shared, you are allowed to interface with your friends and family without the fear of having to explain your every move.

explain this to her, do couples therapy but if she doesn't drop it, things will only get worse as she ages and feels even less secure with herself

 

[BulletToothTony]

you can add the source: "www.sinfuliphonerepo.com" and get iProtect from cydia

but trust me.. your GF will want even more to get into those folders.. maybe the best thing to do would be to rename them something like ESPN and change the icon.. that's what i would do

 

[spork183]

http://www.girlfriendapp.com/

Install Girlfriend Keeper. Everytime she checks your phone, adjust the sliders down...

 

[freedevil]

http://www.girlfriendapp.com/

Install Girlfriend Keeper. Everytime she checks your phone, adjust the sliders down...

I wish it was real lol

 

[The Highlander]

If you got nothing to hide ... then you are sweating the small stuff.

If you do have stuff to hide ... then you are not the one for her.

good luck

That is NOT cool advice...

Sometimes you have nothing to hide, but it's that she wont understand what she will find or misinterpret what she finds... VERY different.

Truth lies in the head and the one receiving the information. In the end its just an interpretation of reality.

Sometimes women are a bit insecure... I have my encounters with my girlfriend. Doesn't mean she has to go... Doesn't mean I have to lock it up. Still... I rather she didn't feel the desire to look through my things... When she does.. I don't like it either.. Still.. Nothing to hide anyways.

 

[0970373]

That is NOT cool advice...

Sometimes you have nothing to hide, but it's that she wont understand what she will find or misinterpret what she finds... VERY different.

Truth lies in the head and the one receiving the information. In the end its just an interpretation of reality.

Sometimes women are a bit insecure... I have my encounters with my girlfriend. Doesn't mean she has to go... Doesn't mean I have to lock it up. Still... I rather she didn't feel the desire to look through my things... When she does.. I don't like it either.. Still.. Nothing to hide anyways.

Totally agree with the 1st part. And also...men can be VERY insecure as well. This actually happened to me also w/ an ex-BF. The flip side is...maybe the OP is the one who doesn't believe she isn't snooping. Either way...there's more going on than this forum can help with.

 

[heisenberg123]

A good, trusting, secure woman would never ask to read such things. I swear, either guys don't know what a GOOD woman is anymore, or they lose all backbone out of fear that she might *gasp* leave.

you got that right, i think it has to do with all the estrogen they put in our food nowadays, men have become little wimps around girls

 

[polobreaka]

why not just install iprotect and lock out the apps you know she snoops at. when she hits the road block, she'll eventually ask you why did you lock this app, then you ask her why shes looking through your phone.

 

[andy9l]

Without trying to sound like a relationship counsellor, which I most certainly am not;

Why not just talk to her? Just say that you know she's been on your phone because you were doing something previously. There's no need to make a big deal out of it, just why she does it and then just laugh about it and allow her to do it if neither of you mind it (but drop the lying). Proving her wrong or 'catching her red-handed' will make her feel stupid - that'll never end well.

I've been with my girlfriend 3 years and we both 'snoop' around each other's phones - although 'snooping' isn't really the right word. She'll often leave me something silly somewhere in one of my apps which I'll find later on. The same goes for her HTC Desire - I like to leave her silly notes etc. in her apps; an on-going prank you could say. We've got nothing to hide or be worried about, it's just a bit of fun.