Omg, we're actually witnessing the infamous friendzone from a feminine point of view!
What I can tell is, living with false hopes for a long time is worse than having a "slap on the face" once. I'm the kind of guy that can get "obsessed" by a girl for long periods of time. Not obsessed in the sense of stalking, but rather by not moving along when realizing that there is no way this can develop into a romantic relationship. I feel like there is some hope, but in the end nothing happens, so it would just be better to have the certitude that no, she is not interested, so I would move along.
(Some of you might wonder why I didn't ask her out, it's because I knew she would say no. I guess I didn't want to face the cold hard truth.)
So true. Eventually, every guy gets stuck in a rut like the one described above occasionally.
The main thing is knowing when to give up so that you don't waste years daydreaming about her, even when you know she's not interested, or even after she has rejected any hints you have sent in her direction.
I liked a number of girls in the past, and I thought they liked me as well because they were really nice with me, or nice and flirty.
Eventually, you realize that she isn't nice to you because she's interested, but because she's a nice person.
OP: You may be stringing your friend along unintentionally.
EDIT TO ADD: And then I read the entire thread and realized that this has been mentioned like 20 times already.
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