I would counter that if they got the task accomplished with 8GB of RAM, then 8GB of RAM was enough. Is not occasionally using swap worth an additional $400? The Air maxes out at 24GB anyway so swap would have needed to be used regardless to satisfy 32GB requirement.
While it is true that SSDs will wear out over time, the simple truth is that the lifespan of a typical SSD with today's technology is measured in years in a heavy use environment. Most probably heavier use than even a power user will subject an SSD. Your assertion is based on early SSDs and is really not valid today.
How Long do SSDs Last
BackBlaze does extensive studies on drive statistics and failures. I suspect their knowledge and data is much more relevant than your opinion. The key takeaway is:
If 8GB works, it works. Using swap is not going to shorten the life of the machine. The fact the MacOS was able to take an app that requires 32GB on Windows (and failed), and runs that app in 8GB indicates that memory management, including the use of swap, is managed quite well.
Apple starting a base configuration of 8GB indicates that Apple probably knows more about their systems, their OS, than others that are preaching "get more memory".
Just use the machine as needed. Don't worry about the technical underpinnings. If you want more memory, get it. If you feel that extra money is better spent elsewhere, then do it.