You're right, trust is keep. I trust my wife so much that I don't care if she has access to anything. I don't feel the need to hide anything or anything from her. Trust.
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Need to monitor son's internet activity
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In that case, you trust your wife but she doesn't trust you. Again, if she feels the need to monitor your private activity, there's a clear lack of trust there. It's not "hiding" anything - not everything you want kept private is bad.
Also, as someone else mentioned I believe, monitoring is ineffective once the person being monitored knows they are being monitored. It creates a false sense of trust.
She trusts me, and we each don't care if we know. Not once has she asked me for anything, I set up 1Password and said "you might need this if something happens to me" and she did the same. How is that her not trusting me? I willingly gave it to her, because I do not care if she knows, and she doesn't care if I know.
If our phones ring, one of us will tell the other to just answer it. Do we care? No. I don't care if she answers my phone and I've answered her phone many times too. Why is it so strange that we just don't care? Why should we care?
Give me 1 good thing I need to keep private from her.
AGAIN IF you have Family Sharing set up, you're on each others Find My Friends, AND all of your iDevices are in each others Find My Phones anyways... WE DO NOT CARE that this set up is like this, and that's my point of this... What's the big freaked deal? Seriously? This is a form of trust, and neither of us cares that we can see where each other is, if we uses each others phone for whatever reason, or anything.
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To the OP, check out Accountable2You. It can be installed on iOS, Android, Mac, and Windows. It can be set up to provide daily or weekly reports that are emailed to you. There are also instant alerts based on the restrictions that you set up. On iOS it is a stand alone browser, you will need to disable Safari to make it effective.
As much as you're kidding and it did make me chuckle, I actually agree with it.
I know when I have kids I'll just leave them to it, it's going to happen one way or another. If it's not at your house, it'll be at a friends house. I'll just make sure they understand what they've been looking at and how it's not anything like most people's real life. I'll raise my kids the way I was raised, trained in morality, trust and openness (and self preservation but that's an aside) if they end up anything like me I'll be delighted.
**feel free to stop reading now, morphine kicked in, long waffling rambling incoming ***
Personally I had my first encounter with such material when I was four and we discovered my friends brothers stash of magazines, which we promptly pilfered.
I got through a good few of those mags and by God even at that age it was an eye opener.
My dad did catch us with them though, I got 50p (decent amount in 1978) and he took the magazines, I never saw them again
Even when the Internet rolled along and I got my first dial up modem I was never monitored at all, my parents were of the same opinion I am, what's going to happen will happen regardless. I won't deny that I looked at my fair share of material over the years that was incredibly age inappropriate.
I wasn't always a goody two shoes growing up either, but thanks to severe training from my parents, I knew when and how to behave.
I've experienced a lot in my short but colourful life and I wouldn't change a bit of it, I lived through it that's the main thing.
But here I am, 42 years later, a well adjusted happily married man (she's 10 years my junior, though she claims to be more of a grownup than me, nonsense
) respected member of the community, reasonably successful businessman (and I make apps on the side, thank god I don't rely on that money ) and about to start a family of my own.So basically, so I finally shut up and don't continue with my life's story. Oh but what fun that would be, the things I could tell you
but what goes on tour stays on tour. My point is forcing restrictions on kids isn't always necessarily the way to go. Educate them, make sure they have a strong sense of morals, openness, trust and by god the rest will take care of itself. We can't chain them up 24 hours a day so instead we need to know we can trust them and forcefully depriving them of something will just make them want to do it all the more. And they will.
Ok, very light headed, medication in full swing, time for pink floyd
4 pages, 2 weeks of irrelevant "advice". OP posted once and never again
I think the real solution to this issue is tackling why you want to be spying on your children and invading their privacy. I know from personal experience and those ebony i have worked with that depending on the age of the individual they may be looking up things they are questioning and need to discover and understand for themselves before they approach you the parent to discuss. They may be also things you are not ready to understand or accept. Privacy is good thing and should be respected. The only time MGM software should be used is in a work or public environment such as a learning centre where certain activity is not allowed. But a child using their parents device within reason should have the respect of their family enough to allow them their privacy.
That is my feelings anyway.
That is my feelings anyway.
That's probably not a good idea to jailbreak it:
http://9to5mac.com/2016/07/30/pangu-jailbreak-potential-hack/
Since you can not rest assured while your son is using the Internet, then why do you still allow them to use it? I suggest that you move his device into a public place and you can check what he is viewing at anytime. You can indeed use some kind of monitoring tool like iKeyMonitor to spy on him, but as far as I know, almost all the monitoring apps need you to jailbreak the target device. What's more, they might cost you lots of money.
Not sure if anyone has said this yet, but you need to think a little more up-stream. The router is your home's gateway to the internet (unless he's using mobile data). If your router supports it (my mid range £50 does), enable internet monitoring to see what websites and servers are being connected to from his iPad's IP address.
This thread is dead. Either the OP was a troll or he couldn't be bothered to check for a response.
