Remind me to not sell anything to hot head like you either.
Let me explain to you how today's Paypal policy works, because you clearly seem to be stuck in the past. You have no access to the money UNTIL the buyer has the item in his hands and is completely satisfied with it.
If the buyer actually took the time to inspect his computer and found the issue BEFORE giving the "all is good" green light to PayPal he would have grounds for a refund/claim.
Hahaha! I'm a hot head? That seems a bit like a personal attack, but I can understand that from someone that has shown his views on personal responsibility and ethics.
And, for the record, I sold 7 items on eBay last week. Six paid by Paypal. I think I have pretty good idea on how it works, and it's not like the 'escrow' situation you're describing.
Fail.