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Oh jeeze... what did I get into...

Abstract said:
How does someone that you talk to online "somehow" find your mobile number? :confused:
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That jumped out at me too. If she's so problematic, and as the OP said it was in a chat room, then how did she get your number? Either you have a (foolishly) very detailed FB or MS page or you (also foolishly) gave your number out to a neurotic stranger.

I would suggest doing the mature thing. Avoiding the problem by blocking her completely, including txts, will only work to a point or to a certain age. Life will present you with things you can't ignore and that simply get worse the longer you do, and it's best to deal with it up front and get it over with.
 
This girl sounds like she has real potential to be a picture perfect psycho ex-girlfriend. Avoid her OP; it may be hard but there's no right way to go about it.
 
A lot of people here seem very comfortable with ignoring a girl who is potentially suicidal....
 
Shyfty said:
Out of curiosity, what course of action would you suggest?
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Originally (my post on the first page), I suggested talking to her, even if it means telling her he's not interested and asking her to stop contacting him. Simply ignoring something doesn't make it go away. But, after reading a few more posts I think Peace (post on first page also) gave the best advice, so that's what I'd suggest now.
 
ethical said:
A lot of people here seem very comfortable with ignoring a girl who is potentially suicidal....
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Well ya see that's the thing, she's more than likely not actually suicidal and just very desperate for attention; I've seen people (mostly girls, but I've seen a couple guys do it) use the "I'll commit suicide" ploy quite a few times to garner attention. She seems like the picture perfect case for such a scenario.
 
DesmoPilot said:
Well ya see that's the thing, she's more than likely not actually suicidal and just very desperate for attention;
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You do realise that most "suicidal" people are simply desperate for attention ? That most "suicide attempts" are just cries for help ? :rolleyes: That's basically what suicide is about.

You have a legal obligation to report this to the police. Many places have laws in place that basically would make you an accessory if you knew about it and failed to report it and she does go through with something like suicide or harming herself.

If you want to be rid of her, best advice was given on page 1 : Report it.
 
DesmoPilot said:
Well ya see that's the thing, she's more than likely not actually suicidal and just very desperate for attention; I've seen people (mostly girls, but I've seen a couple guys do it) use the "I'll commit suicide" ploy quite a few times to garner attention. She seems like the picture perfect case for such a scenario.
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"More than likely not", perhaps. But what if she is?
 
Lot of ott reactions here. :rolleyes: For all the moralists scolding the OP, what do you expect him to do? He's a 16 year old kid with his own problems. Yeah he should have let her down gently, and just maybe at most he should contact a parent of hers, but he has no obligation to her. Suggestions of going to the police are complete overkill.

My advice op, ring her to let her down gently and if at all possible contact a parent of hers anonymously.
 
ethical said:
"More than likely not", perhaps. But what if she is?
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You can't load that kind of responsibility onto a 16 year old kid, he met a random girl on the internet which was possibly a silly thing to do. By getting too involved with her he could be bringing massive complications and trauma into his own life. Lets not forget he barely knows the girl!
 
I had the same problem with a girl in my spanish class.. The best thing to do is confront her before things get far out of hand. Ignoring things never solve anything. don't tell her parent that shes going to hurt herself that will only make them more mad at her. You need to call child services or tell a guidance counselor if she being neglected or abused.
 
Maybe the message is: your kid needs diapers.

But seriously, sounds like she needs help.
 
paddy said:
You can't load that kind of responsibility onto a 16 year old kid, he met a random girl on the internet which was possibly a silly thing to do. By getting too involved with her he could be bringing massive complications and trauma into his own life. Lets not forget he barely knows the girl!
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16 isn't that young is it? Maybe it's just me, but even if there's the slightest chance this girl actually feels the way she says she does, I wouldn't want to risk it.
 
TSE said:
Come on now. I was told by 90% of the people to suck it up and go talk to a professional which I did. So why shouldn't she do the same instead of going to a guy like me?

I'm going to tell my parents once they get home.
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I got a better idea
Type this into every msg she sends you

"Your number" Error Invalid Number. Please re-send using a valid 10 digit mobile number or valid short code.
"Her message"

She will think you changed your number :)

Oh, i heard sex is good with physchos.
 
paddy said:
Lot of ott reactions here. :rolleyes: For all the moralists scolding the OP, what do you expect him to do? He's a 16 year old kid with his own problems. Yeah he should have let her down gently, and just maybe at most he should contact a parent of hers, but he has no obligation to her. Suggestions of going to the police are complete overkill.
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In Canada at least that is false. You are obligated by law to help someone in need and if you don't, the charges are criminal in nature.

Reporting to the police makes it all go away easy, why would it be overkill ? Let the Police decide what is and isn't overkill.
 
Ring up the police. The worst that's gonna happen is that they'll have her involuntarily admitted to a psychiatric facility. Don't worry about if she was joking or not. Being there isn't THAT bad. If she was joking, she'll most likely get out in 72 hours. Otherwise they'll keep her there longer. The worst part is being bored to death. I was involuntarily admitted for two weeks. As much as I hated it, the person who called on me did the right thing. Go ahead and call the police. At least where I am, not calling the police can get you in trouble.
 
KnightWRX said:
In Canada at least that is false. You are obligated by law to help someone in need and if you don't, the charges are criminal in nature.

Reporting to the police makes it all go away easy, why would it be overkill ? Let the Police decide what is and isn't overkill.
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Because the OP may be exaggerating his claims, or the girl might be just a whining adolescent. It's not as easy as just going to the police and saying "hey guys, few texts for ya to read there". Loads of formal stuff will have to go through with that, and the OP might be dragging himself through a load of drama for someone he has no connection with.

On a side note, really? You can be charged with a criminal offence for neglecting 'threats' of self harm? I doubt that would likely apply in a case where the relationship between both parties is almost non-existent, and even more so given the age of the parties.
 
tristangage said:
I wonder why the OP has decided not to elaborate on this thread with updates...
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That's a good question. Maybe he forgot about the thread? I'm just curious to know the outcome. Oh well. I quite like TSE so I'll assume the reason he hasn't elaborated is good.
 
KnightWRX said:
In Canada at least that is false. You are obligated by law to help someone in need and if you don't, the charges are criminal in nature.

Reporting to the police makes it all go away easy, why would it be overkill ? Let the Police decide what is and isn't overkill.
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I know nothing about these laws. I think maybe you're overestimating Canadian morality. We only think we're kind, moral beings. Most of us aren't. We're just Americans who think better of ourselves in a different way; a more smug way.

Anyways, given the OP's age and maturity level, and this girl's apparent maturity level, I think it's best to leave it to an authority who can A) handle the responsibility and B) be of more use in a harrowing situation. Sixteen-year-olds are in no shape to be grappling with such intense emotions with such dire consequences. They need to tell someone about it, and pronto. And if the girl doesn't, then yes, TSE should. But it's unwise to expect him to solve this girl's issues on his own. He's a kid. And so is she.
 
Sorry for not updating me, but great suggestions guys.

So I told my parents that she keeps on texting me and simply saying "Hi" and "Talk to me now" about 15 times a day, but they said to ignore it unless she starts threatening to hurt herself again. She really only told me she was going to hurt herself and stuff the first week I quit talking to her.

I also changed the privacy settings on my Facebook and took my cell phone number off of it because apparently my profile was wide open because they keep on changing the privacy settings for it?

What I learned: Never get personal with anybody over the internet ever even if they seem cool and make sure your facebook is private every once in awhile because they keep on changing their privacy settings.
 
TSE said:
What I learned: Never get personal with anybody over the internet ever even if they seem cool and make sure your facebook is private every once in awhile because they keep on changing their privacy settings.
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Or delete your account and tell Zuckerberg to sod off.

That's what I did.
 
cleanup said:
I know nothing about these laws. I think maybe you're overestimating Canadian morality.
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You're right, it's a Quebec thing, in our Charter of rights and Freedom and the penalties are covered under the Civil code. My bad, should've known the Anglos would never have such things.

In my search though I did find out 8 states in the US have the same "Duty to Rescue" type laws. Might be interesting to the OP to look it up as Minnesota is one of those states (quote Wikipedia page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duty_to_rescue#U.S._example) :

Contrary to common law, eight states have laws requiring people to help strangers in peril: Florida,[10] Massachusetts,[11] Minnesota,[11] Ohio,[statute verification needed] Rhode Island,[11] Vermont,[11] Washington,[11] and Wisconsin.[statute verification needed] These laws are also referred to as Good Samaritan laws, despite their difference from laws of the same name that protect individuals that try to help another person.[1] These laws are rarely applied, and are generally ignored by citizens and lawmakers.[1]
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KnightWRX said:
You're right, it's a Quebec thing, in our Charter of rights and Freedom and the penalties are covered under the Civil code. My bad, should've known the Anglos would never have such things.

In my search though I did find out 8 states in the US have the same "Duty to Rescue" type laws. Might be interesting to the OP to look it up as Minnesota is one of those states (quote Wikipedia page http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Duty_to_rescue#U.S._example) :
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I'd a feeling that law might be defunct alright. While well intentioned, they're not really realistic are they?
 
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