People who turn their lives around

[Macky-Mac]

Okay, so I'm struggling a lot with various financial and emotional issues & stuff at the moment and I'm just wondering:

Do you personally know of anyone who's like was a real car crash, but who managed to turn it around ?

well, there's the neighbors' kid.

He got into pot and alcohol when he was 16, dropped out of high school, and then got into using meth. When he was 18, his parents couldn't take it any more and threw him out of the house. He started living in his car and doing sex for money in order to get drugs. He spent the next couple of years crashing with other meth addicts. In addition to the drugs and prostitution, there was a bit of violence; he got shot once, there were a few fights, and there was a half-hearted suicide attempt along the way.

Finally he decided he was going to die if he continued to do meth, so he started the long process of putting his life back together. It took a couple of trips to rehab but he managed to get off drugs, then after 6 months in a sober-living group home, his parents let him move back home. He started to go to community college but he also started drinking again. When his parents had had their fill of his drinking, they threw him out again. He went back to being a prostitute to support himself.

Fortunately, after about a month, he decided he needed to finally put that whole lifestyle behind him. He started going to AA, moved into a homeless shelter aimed at helping young addicts, found a job and went back to school. Two years later he's still sober, lives with a couple of friends from AA and is going to school while he works part time setting up computers for businesses.

 

[Cromulent]

Okay, so I'm struggling a lot with various financial and emotional issues & stuff at the moment and I'm just wondering:

Do you personally know of anyone who's like was a real car crash, but who managed to turn it around ?

Personally I had issues about 6 months ago and decided that I couldn't go on the way I was. So I sat down and did a shed load of thinking (I'm quite serious when I say I spent 3 or 4 days doing nothing but thinking) in the end I decided to setup my own business.

At the start I had literally no money, but with a small investment from my parents and a lot of work on my part I am now just about to launch. The business really helped me overcome the emotional side of things as it gave me something which I could respect myself for.

I'm not saying it solved all my problems, but I now feel more able to deal with them. I think that even if the business does fail I will have gained an awful lot from the experience, from knowledge in how to run a business, dealing with government agencies, dealing with other businesses, dealing with customers and setting up and running a website. All of which is very important knowledge. I no longer feel scared by the idea of running a business which I think a lot of people feel, which is a shame as it leaves lots of people in unfulfilling work that just causes them unnecessary stress and anxiety.

Not sure if that is any help to you or not.

 

[0098386]

I suppose compared to most this is quite a minor life-turning-round-thingy but a friend of mine was quite a shy girl. Very dependent on her friends and family emotionally, financially etc.
She went off to university, took the decision to live away and it fixed her right up. She's still quite an introverted person but has bucket loads of confidence.

Nobody really effed up that I know.

 

[Junk DNA]

well, there's the neighbors' kid.

He got into pot and alcohol when he was 16,

amazing journey !

 

[Junk DNA]

Personally I had issues about 6 months ago and decided that I couldn't go on the way I was. So I sat down and did a shed load of thinking (I'm quite serious when I say I spent 3 or 4 days doing nothing but thinking) in the end I decided to setup my own business.
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Its a good point to throw into the mix. When I look at my own life I realise that as well as clearing up the financial mess I've made (which will take a few years) at the same time I need to do something that inspires me (in your case starting a business). Because without some inspiration, some new chapter in my life, I doubt that I will have the perseverance to sort out my affairs... I think I'd just slide back in time because I'd be feeling "oh whats the point"