Didn't have time to read this entire thread, but why does the OP care about someone getting his IP address in general? (Regardless of how it is gotten.)
What is the larger threat you are worried about?
I am fairly certain the OP was issued a restraining order, and was told to not contact someone. OP most likely created a new email address to email said person and is following him/her on Instagram using a new Instagram account based off his fake (2nd) email address.
All speculation, but I think the most likely reason for this entire thread.