Question for single guys

[tringo]

"You know, like nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, computer hacking skills... Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills. " Pretty much sums it up I guess.

No, but there was a post earlier which I felt summed it up perfectly. Most girls do want a challenge. I played the "hard-to-get" card and the plan went perfectly to a T. Then I gradually fell in love with the girl despite my best efforts and now that I'm not "hard-to-get" any more she has lost interest.

 

[Oryan]

in my experience, it seems like only the "jerks" get the girls b/c they actually go for it and try and date the girl instead of being thier friend. nice guys finish last b/c they dont push their agenda and give more merit to the girl than themselves. girls like a challenge, not a male "girlfriend"

I agree completely. As far as I know, my last girlfriend had previously dated mostly "jerks". (I can't say for sure as I've never met any of them. I consider myself to be in the nice guy category.) When she realized our relationship had lasted much longer than any of her other ones she kinda freaked out thinking it was about time I should lose interest in her. She ended up leaving me because she was so set I was would break up with her. Of course now she is dating a "jerk" again.

 

[Abstract]

Well I'm not sure its so much that, but they're wondering how all these other jerks could possibly get the girls when they know that they would treat them so much better than them. (The way they deserve to be treated).

Yeah, but then how would these single "nice guys" treat girls? How do girls deserve to be treated?

This is the line I hear all the time from girls, "I think my bf is cheating on me and he's an ass but I still love him and he said he will change." How is someone going to compete with that.

Yeah, that is strange. I want don't want to say "Girls are stupid", but sometimes they are.

Here's a real situation that my friend is going through right now, although I think she smartened up last Wednesday when I set her straight:

"[Abstract], here's my situation.......(blah blah blah blah)......(blah blah blah blah)...........So do you think he already has a girlfriend and is cheating on her with me? Am I "The Other Woman?"

Me: Of course you are, foo! I pity foos like you.


I guess there are a lot of single guys who are nicer than that, but how some ass-clowns can get 2 girlfriends is beyond me. In that way, I feel for the single guys who actually are "nice guys." But I guess everyone thinks he's a nice guy, judging from most of the replies in this thread. "I'm a nice guy. Even some of my female friends have told me so." Haha......yes, that's confirmation that you're nicer than average.

No, but there was a post earlier which I felt summed it up perfectly. Most girls do want a challenge. I played the "hard-to-get" card and the plan went perfectly to a T. Then I gradually fell in love with the girl despite my best efforts and now that I'm not "hard-to-get" any more she has lost interest.

But not all girls are that complicated. I just never get involved with girls like that. Avoid.

 

[Grakkle]

But not all girls are that complicated. I just never get involved with girls like that. Avoid.

Me too. If I have to play constant mind-games just to get a girl to stay with me, I'm not interested.

 

[devilot]

Just remember, there is a difference between being nice and being a pushover. I think that some people think that they are being nice, when in fact they are just setting themselves up for situations that allow someone else to take advantage of them.

Women want you to respect them, and they want to be able to respect you.

I <3 you.

This is the line I hear all the time from girls, "I think my bf is cheating on me and he's an ass but I still love him and he said he will change." How is someone going to compete with that.

Take a psychology course. Learn about the Power and Control Wheel. There are so many factors. Not to mention, negative reinforcement is one of the most effective forms of conditioning. ( And why with the victim blame?!)

 

[Bobdude161]

I'm single, but I don't think I'm nice. I can be a real ***hole. I tell them I'll call them and ends up I never do. Or they start to have a huge interest in me, I freak out and I just push them away. I can be nice from time to time but when they start getting clingy, I back away. I seem to like girls that have no to little interest in me. I'm messed up.

 

[SkyBell]

I'm single, but I'm not a guy.

I like my chances on these forums.

 

[princealfie]

I'm single, but I'm not a guy.

I like my chances on these forums.

Just a question for the lady.

Do you feel jealous of foreign women?

 

[sushi]

FWIW, I was a nice guy to the girls that I dated. Too nice in my buddies minds. They would constantly tell me that I need to be more of an a__hole and jerk when dating. That was the key to the hot girls.

In my mind, I had trouble arguing with their logic. After all the proof was in the pudding so to speak. They had the hot girls.

So I adapted. Gave up being myself and tried their method. Got a lot more girls, but none of the relationships worked out. Thank God it didn't work for me and I finally woke up.

Switched back to my normal self and ended up being the luckiest man on Earth!

I just needed to find the right person for me. Which I did!

 

[meaculpa20v]

I know the secret to getting girls as a nice guy. You have to be a cowboy. Every girl just want a cowboy.

So, just sell all your possessions and go work on a ranch for a couple of years and you'll be good

 

[sushi]

I know the secret to getting girls as a nice guy. You have to be a cowboy. Every girl just want a cowboy.

So, just sell all your possessions and go work on a ranch for a couple of years and you'll be good

Interesting solution. You might just be on to something there!

 

[xsedrinam]

I know the secret to getting girls as a nice guy. You have to be a cowboy. Every girl just want a cowboy.

So, just sell all your possessions and go work on a ranch for a couple of years and you'll be good

"Mama don't let your babies grow up to be cowboys". Willie Nelson might take issue with that.

 

[adroit]

Here is my question....

Why does guys like mean girls. There are plenty of really nice girls out there but all of you nice guys never seem interested in them.

 

[After G]

Here's what gets me:

The "jerks" sometimes aren't jerks with their GFs but are jerks when around other people.

Anyway, definitely single ... but nice depends on what you mean.
Don't have a gf because I'm not looking for one whether they are nice or not.