Don't try to get out of one lie with another. Make your own decision as an adult and fess up. You'll feel better and your parents will respect you for it.
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Resolved recently bought an iPad mini 2 and my parents think that I won it
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I just returned it and got my money back. Now the hard part of telling them. I don't think they will care too much because I got all my money back it was just that they would be wondering why I had the impulse to buy it in the first place and I don't even really know why I bought it other than having a smaller screen.
As for other posts on here, when I mentioned tesla, it was just an analogy. I am not buying one and my whole experience I posted on here was real. I am going to give my iPad 3 away and just have my air 2 and I am going to be happy.
As for other posts on here, when I mentioned tesla, it was just an analogy. I am not buying one and my whole experience I posted on here was real. I am going to give my iPad 3 away and just have my air 2 and I am going to be happy.
The real problem as I see it. Is not the lie. It's that you bought the iPad mini 2. You should have bit the bullet and gotten the 4 with 2 gb ram. Haha.
Seems you made a good choice in the end. i don't know your parents but they should understand you're young and really not think much of it.
Seems you made a good choice in the end. i don't know your parents but they should understand you're young and really not think much of it.
I don't think the issue is the iPad or the lie. It is that you have yet to mentally become an adult. Why aren't more people saying this?
Because we aren't rude.
It really makes my wonder why some people really are so mean on this forum. It makes me wonder why I even set up an account on here anyways. I have been a member for about a year and all I asked was what would you do and everyone says that this is bs which it isn't and also saying I need to become an adult. I made a mistake when I bought it and I am trying to fix it. I am an adult it is just that I have strict parents who tend to tell me what I can and can't spend my money on. I know it is my money to spend and I need to let them know that.
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I like people like you who aren't rude like others. It looks like we were thinking the same thing when we both posted our posts about other being rude and kinda mean.
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I like people like you who aren't rude like others. It looks like we were thinking the same thing when we both posted our posts about other being rude and kinda mean.
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My son is 19, and he currently still lives with us; which I encourage. He works part time, and is full time in college. He knows what his responsibilities are and I don't tell what he can and can't spend his money on. He drives a car that I pay for, but he pays insurance for him to be covered. While he's in college, he can continue to use that vehicle.
Whenever he asks for advice about money, or doing this or that, I will gladly give my opinion on it, and hope he makes choices that are in his best interest.
So, if he buys something that costs him a lot of money, well, that's his choice. I respect that it is his money, and he respects that he has his own choices as long as he lives up to his responsibilities in our house. What I won't tolerate is deception/lies. Period. When that road is taken, then he will only be able to use the vehicle for school and work. I trust him, but when that trust is broken, I will put him in a learning endeavor.
Don't lie. It won't help.
My advice would be to keep the iPad or not, but at the very least, I would talk to them about what you told them and let them know the lie wasn't a well thought out idea. Apologize for the lie, explain the very reason for the lie (because they are over controlling finance parents lol) and learn from this experience. There is a lesson in this for them to learn as well. They need to be less controlling and let you live to learn things from your own choices, not strictly on their choices.
Whenever he asks for advice about money, or doing this or that, I will gladly give my opinion on it, and hope he makes choices that are in his best interest.
So, if he buys something that costs him a lot of money, well, that's his choice. I respect that it is his money, and he respects that he has his own choices as long as he lives up to his responsibilities in our house. What I won't tolerate is deception/lies. Period. When that road is taken, then he will only be able to use the vehicle for school and work. I trust him, but when that trust is broken, I will put him in a learning endeavor.
Don't lie. It won't help.
My advice would be to keep the iPad or not, but at the very least, I would talk to them about what you told them and let them know the lie wasn't a well thought out idea. Apologize for the lie, explain the very reason for the lie (because they are over controlling finance parents lol) and learn from this experience. There is a lesson in this for them to learn as well. They need to be less controlling and let you live to learn things from your own choices, not strictly on their choices.
I have a friend who still lives at home while he finishes school, and his parents are crazy. They caught him playing WoW and destroyed his computer that he bought with his own money. He goes to college full time and is keeping his grades up, and has a part-time job, but his parents think any free time he has he should be studying or working.
It sucks, but since he lives at home for free, he has to abide by their rules. So I know where you're coming from with strict parents.
Well, you did ask for help with a personal situation. If you had just asked whether you should keep your mini or not, and people told you to grow up and be adult, that would be rude. But you asked what to do about lying to your parents, so saying you need to act like an adult seems to me like a valid answer, if a bit direct.
@Jerhen Random thought - perhaps print out this thread and show it to your parents when you tell them the truth. If you have trouble speaking with them comfortably and frankly face to face, it might help. Your posts seem pretty honest and reflective, maybe your parents reading them and seeing the inner struggle and guilt you had will find it endearing. Despite the nastiness of this forum sometimes, many people do use it as a sort of therapeutic outlet; a journal. I think showing them the posts will allow them to gain some insight into your thinking.
Later I am going to tell them and I will possibly put on here how they react. Since I took it back, I don't think they will care as much but they need to learn to not be so controlling.
This post should not even be relevant. No reason to whine to your parents...if you are over 18 do what you want...you are grown
I can relate to the OP. Despite being 23 years old, employed and responsible with my money it doesn't stop people judging my purchases and I wonder if that will ever change. I too have either downplayed or outright hidden some of my expensive purchases of new gadgets to close family members. Sometimes it's just easier to hide these kind of things than deal with the inevitable criticism/disapproving comments you get if you're 100% honest.
I disagree. Honesty is better than lying. Lying will snowball into much worse effects than just being honest. Especially when you're being honest about something the parents shouldn't have any control over anyways.
My son bought himself a gun. I had an unused gun, same caliber, that he was more than welcome to use whenever he wanted. I told him I didn't agree with spending the money on that, but it is his money and that is that. He didn't give it a second thought after my opinion. Done. If he had lied to me about how he got it, that would have pushed away the trust I have in him and would affect the decisions I made with him in the future. Him buying something I didn't agree with won't.
You don't know him, his family, or his situation beyond this one instance. There may indeed be some family/personal issues that need to be addressed, but if anyone says they are entirely without personal issues they are either not human, or in denial. Yes, I suggested that the OP shouldn't have to justify the purchase if it's his own money, but beyond that, I think it's presumptuous to tell the OP how to live his life.
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...And still has practically all of the same functionality of the newest, much more expensive technology. It may stutter at times and certainly isn't as fast, but when you think about it, a Mini 2 can run any app that any other iPad can.
Well, looks like OP deleted all their posts, without telling us how they resolved the situation. How very adult.
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