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Actually Textfree Unlimited now does use a real phone number. When you register you pick the number from a list for your area code. You will be using a different phone number for texting and if people call that number they will hear a message telling them it is not for voice. Currently Textfree does not have MMS, but they are getting it soon.

I have told all my contacts what the number is for texting and I will soon be canceling my AT&T text plan, saving me money.

Oh, Textfree Unlimited does have a small ad at the bottom of the screen. If you don't want ads, you have to pay $6 per year to remove them. The ads don't bother me, so all my texting is totally free!

I do know that, but I'd rather just use my own number with a generic ring tone. I'm a minimalist and like to keep things simple.
 
1) You can't do it now because Steve doesn't think you need to. When he decides you need it he'll put it in the next rev and introduce the feature on stage as if nobody has ever done anything like it before.

2) The best alert tone (IMO) is the one my son is using on his Xenon. It's the alert tone from Metal Gear Solid. It's awesome. http://audiko.net/ringtone/mgs/alert?ring=493784&featured=
 
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