My sister is 15 and is looking at options for the future as they have career events at school. She says eventually she just wants to be a house wife and marry someone rich which I think is ridiculous.
At the dinner table last night, myself and my Mum got into a heated discussion as I said that my parents should be encouraging her to go to University and purse a career as she can not expect to just marry someone rich. Although my family are really close - they never pushed me to go to University, it was more sort of "We will support to with what you decide" but I tried to explain to my sister that jobs are not as easy to gain anymore because of the current economic climate and the competition is getting harder and that she should try and stand out from the crowd. I myself went to University, finished my Degree and I am now doing my Master's in Finance as well as working for HSBC and I'm a day trader in the stock markets, and I am the first out of the 4 children to go to University. My dream is to go into Investment Banking/Stockbroking when I graduate next January.
What annoys me is that they are paying just short of £20,000 a year to send her to private school where it is expected you go to University...and they are not pushing her at all. I don't mean as in saying she must do Medicine or Law or something, but just generally. I tried to explain that if she didn't know what to do and did a degree in something she enjoyed, then she would have something to fall back on and she would have options. She seems to think I have to easy as I am clever and she doesn't think she will be able to cope.
Am I wrong in thinking she should want more for her life, or am I just being selfish? My Mum always brings out the card that "Not everyone wants a £500k a year job like you do" but I tried to explain that it wasn't to do with money, it was about your own potential. I was told at 16 that I wasn't clever enough to do A-Levels and I just worked harder than ever, but I think she should want to make a name for herself or to at least have ambitions and dreams to work towards.
It's weird as well because my Mum is a doctor and my Dad is a director of a national chemical company so they have pretty good jobs by todays standard. Is there anything I can do to make her realise she shouldn't just waste everything, or do I need to let her realise on her own? I know University isn't for everyone and I know people have been very successful who have not been to University.
*Sorry for the rant by the way, I'm just really annoyed!*
At the dinner table last night, myself and my Mum got into a heated discussion as I said that my parents should be encouraging her to go to University and purse a career as she can not expect to just marry someone rich. Although my family are really close - they never pushed me to go to University, it was more sort of "We will support to with what you decide" but I tried to explain to my sister that jobs are not as easy to gain anymore because of the current economic climate and the competition is getting harder and that she should try and stand out from the crowd. I myself went to University, finished my Degree and I am now doing my Master's in Finance as well as working for HSBC and I'm a day trader in the stock markets, and I am the first out of the 4 children to go to University. My dream is to go into Investment Banking/Stockbroking when I graduate next January.
What annoys me is that they are paying just short of £20,000 a year to send her to private school where it is expected you go to University...and they are not pushing her at all. I don't mean as in saying she must do Medicine or Law or something, but just generally. I tried to explain that if she didn't know what to do and did a degree in something she enjoyed, then she would have something to fall back on and she would have options. She seems to think I have to easy as I am clever and she doesn't think she will be able to cope.
Am I wrong in thinking she should want more for her life, or am I just being selfish? My Mum always brings out the card that "Not everyone wants a £500k a year job like you do" but I tried to explain that it wasn't to do with money, it was about your own potential. I was told at 16 that I wasn't clever enough to do A-Levels and I just worked harder than ever, but I think she should want to make a name for herself or to at least have ambitions and dreams to work towards.
It's weird as well because my Mum is a doctor and my Dad is a director of a national chemical company so they have pretty good jobs by todays standard. Is there anything I can do to make her realise she shouldn't just waste everything, or do I need to let her realise on her own? I know University isn't for everyone and I know people have been very successful who have not been to University.
*Sorry for the rant by the way, I'm just really annoyed!*
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