So I was on a date yesterday evening…

[Danfango]

This was a weird one. So I got a date last night. Met in a relatively classy restaurant in London, got on really well. She had an incoming call from her daughter she had to take quickly. When she came back she put her handset on the table. It was a slightly banana shaped Android handset with a cracked screen, peeling screen protector and case that looked like it had been kept in raccoon dung for months. I was sitting there checking my messages and she says “oh so you’re an iPhone user” like I’d literally just got up and started doing nazi salutes. Hey at least my phone doesn’t have a new covid strain developing in the microscopic wasteland around the screen. Rest of the date was rather awkward and we went separate ways rapidly after splitting the bill precisely.

Think dating apps need an android/iOS checkbox.

I don’t get people… ?

Edit: also one of those people who sets a really poorly contrasting background on their Home Screen which means you can even see the icons on it. Really annoys me that does.

 

[ozapple]

Says a lot about our consumerist society when the early indicators of a possible relationship is dictated by the variety of inanimate device they use.

Probably best you went your own ways, this was never going to end well.

 

[DarthVader!]

I don’t get people… ?

She's probably thinking the same thing after you did this:

I’d literally just got up and started doing nazi salutes

I may not be the most knowledgeable regarding dating, but doing anything related to nazis, or disrespecting or belittling their choices pretty much doomed the date.

Think dating apps need an android/iOS checkbox.

Also why judge person simply because they chose a particular phone? Everyone I know who has a successful relationship doesn't seem to judge the little things when there's so much more important parts of getting to know someone and hopefully cultivating a relationship

 

[sebastijan]

I’m the same, I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who is using android or windows. I know this sound silly. Luckily my partner is a mac user.

 

[Nhwhazup]

Hahaha. I do not care what brand someone else uses for a phone. But I would care how they take of or don’t take care of their stuff. Cracked screens and gross phones are a pet peeve of mine.

 

[Danfango]

Hahaha. I could care less what brand someone else uses for a phone. But I would care how they take of or don’t take care of their stuff. Cracked screens and gross phones are a pet peeve of mine.

Yes this was my only objection. I’ve found there’s a correlation between disgusting and poorly looked after phones with disgusting houses and lazy people. I can’t stand either of those but I can tolerate and Android or windows user ?

 

[ozapple]

I know this sound silly

Not to mention superficial, juvenile and shallow.

So you meet a person you’re otherwise very compatible with, but you’d ditch them if they whipped out an android? Words fail me.

 

[Danfango]

Not to mention superficial, juvenile and shallow.

So you meet a person you’re otherwise very compatible with, but you’d ditch them if they whipped out an android? Words fail me.

Well they might not have a lightning charger round their place ?

 

[TechRunner]

My wife and I will be married for 32 years next month, and she dislikes anything Apple immensely, while I have Apple gear scattered among my devices. Sounds like this lady was pretty shallow. Good thing you found this out on the first date!

 

[satcomer]

County yourself Lucky you dogged a bullet! I know my neighbor at the age of 50 had to start over when his Wife cheated on him and then divorced him and took everything including the kids! He had to buy everything thing again and is trying to get another job and basically start over again when he wants to be in his kids future and kids seem to Love him and the oldest when she turned 18 went back to her Dad! Something is very wrong in Marriage Laws and Men have been calling for change!

 

[eyoungren]

I’m the same, I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who is using android or windows. I know this sound silly. Luckily my partner is a mac user.

When I met my wife in 1995 she wanted nothing to do with technology. It was not her thing. Typewriters were her preferred method of document creation. At that time, she was completely closed to learning anything having to do with technology.

I was a PC person. Specifically, a build your own PC/DOS type person.

Windows and Mac were crutches that people used because they didn't want to bother learning how to use the computer correctly - like I was doing with DOS commands.

My wife and I got married in 1997. There have been computers and other tech in the house since because of me. I have dragged my wife kicking and screaming into the modern technology age because it was necessary.

But we are a bilingual tech home. PCs and Macs, iPhone and Android coexist peacefully here. Both my kids understand Mac and PC, Android and iPhone. My wife uses a PC and a Mac and has two phones, iPhone and Android.

…

So you can't be in a relationship with someone who uses Android or Windows?

Okay man, yes, it's a good thing your partner is a Mac user.

 

[DarthVader!]

Well they might not have a lightning charger round their place ?

Something tells me, you'll not have to worry about being invited back to her apartment ?

 

[Danfango]

County yourself Lucky you dogged a bullet! I know my neighbor at the age of 50 had to start over when his Wife cheated on him and then divorced him and took everything including the kids! He had to buy everything thing again and is trying to get another job and basically start over again when he wants to be in his kids future and kids seem to Love him and the oldest when she turned 18 went back to her Dad! Something is very wrong in Marriage Laws and Men have been calling for change!

Er yeah that’s exactly where I am now ?

And my ex wife was an iOS user ?

 

[AJK13K]

This was a weird one. So I got a date last night. Met in a relatively classy restaurant in London, got on really well. She had an incoming call from her daughter she had to take quickly. When she came back she put her handset on the table. It was a slightly banana shaped Android handset with a cracked screen, peeling screen protector and case that looked like it had been kept in raccoon dung for months. I was sitting there checking my messages and she says “oh so you’re an iPhone user” like I’d literally just got up and started doing nazi salutes. Hey at least my phone doesn’t have a new covid strain developing in the microscopic wasteland around the screen. Rest of the date was rather awkward and we went separate ways rapidly after splitting the bill precisely.

Think dating apps need an android/iOS checkbox.

I don’t get people… ?

Edit: also one of those people who sets a really poorly contrasting background on their Home Screen which means you can even see the icons on it. Really annoys me that does.

Based on your description of her phone, I would have concerns about her personal hygiene. You might have gotten a lucky warning that saved you a trip to the doctor.

 

[Killbynumbers]

I’m the same, I couldn’t be in a relationship with someone who is using android or windows. I know this sound silly. Luckily my partner is a mac user.

What if you dated someone who used both Android phones and an iPhone? Many people do, I do daily.

 

[throAU]

Think dating apps need an android/iOS checkbox.

Because someone who is like that about a phone in either direction is .... desirable?

This sort of psychopathy is something you can hopefully pick up from other aspects of their profile or talking to them.

Being like that over a freaking phone is a symptom of far more deep seated issues that are to be avoided.

 

[Juicy Box]

Think dating apps need an android/iOS checkbox.

While I haven't dated in a very long time, I don't think a girl's type of phone would deter me from getting with her for the night.

Even if it was a Zack Morris phone, who cares? It is just a phone.

Something is very wrong in Marriage Laws and Men have been calling for change!

Yeah, it pretty much sucks for men when it comes to divorce most of the time.

I had something similar happen to me a long time ago. My wife (now ex) went nuts and said she couldn't take being married or having kids anymore. She suddenly left me and my two girls, 1 and 3 at the time, and I didn't hear from her for months.

To make a long story short, I filed for divorce and custody for the girls. My wife didn't fight it at all at first. My lawyer calculated a bunch of numbers showing me how much my wife should pay for child support, and also how much I would pay if the girls stayed with her. Her number was like $400 a month, and I would have paid $2000 a month if she got the girls.

But, he warn me that she would most likely not pay anything, as it is very common for the judges to adjust child support lower or wave for women payers.

I never told her that (why would I?), and figure I would just see what happens. When we were getting closer to our divorce hearing, she started getting a little squirrelly, making comments that she might end up taking the girls, and I am sure her thinking that she would have to pay child support played a big part in her changing her mind.

A few weeks prior to the hearing, I made a deal with her, basically, I would wave the child support, if she didn't fight me on custody.

I knew that I would be the better parent for my girls (at least at the time), and in her heart, I think my ex knew it, too. So, losing the potential of child support from my ex was nothing compared to losing my girls, and having them raised by their mother, especially with her not being in the right mind at the time. Also, the potential of me paying a crap load of money in child support, and never getting to see my girls scared me.


Now, I am happily married now to a wonderful woman that treats me very well, and I doubt anything bad would ever happen, but if something did, I am sure I would get the shaft.

 

[eyoungren]

While I haven't dated in a very long time, I don't think a girl's type of phone would deter me from getting with her for the night.

Even if it was a Zack Morris phone, who cares? It is just a phone.

I think OP's point was more that the girl he dated wasn't going to get with HIM for the night because HE had an iPhone (and not an Android, like her). The bias was coming from OP's date, not OP.

 

[Danfango]

I think OP's point was more that the girl he dated wasn't going to get with HIM for the night because HE had an iPhone (and not an Android, like her). The bias was coming from OP's date, not OP.

Yeah that. Also her phone was disgusting ?

 

[Juicy Box]

I think OP's point was more that the girl he dated wasn't going to get with HIM for the night because HE had an iPhone (and not an Android, like her). The bias was coming from OP's date, not OP.

Maybe...

But, that sounds as if the OP had more of a problem with her and not the type of phone she was using, which I can totally understand.

If it was just that and the problem with with her and not the OS that one uses, what I don't get is the comment about filtering the OS one uses in dating apps:

Think dating apps need an android/iOS checkbox.

Sounds like OS did play a part in the OP's dating preferences, especially since the OP noted other things that annoy him about people's phones (contrasting background).

BTW, I am not knocking the OP for their preferences what is important when it comes to a potential mate, everyone is different. I am just saying a brand of phone wouldn't deter me. The condition of the phone wouldn't deter me that much either, at least to a point.

Yeah that. Also her phone was disgusting ?

This kind of reminds me of my wife a while back, before we were married. She is a psychotherapist, and when she was early in her career, she did in-home counseling to low-income clients. (pretty much the norm for her career)

Some were people that just fallen on hard times, and needed help getting back on their feet. Most were multi-generational dependents of the government, with no motivation or incentive to get back on their feet.

My wife would tell me that almost every client that fit the latter group would never have their electric bills and rent paid, but would alway have money for smokes, the newest iPhone, and an expensive TV.

My wife on the other hand was using an iPhone 5, with a cracked screen. I put packing tape on the screen to prevent her fingers from getting cut.

She, like most people in her career, didn't make much money. Being a social worker is more of a calling than something to make a living, especially since there is so much educational and certification requirements. So, she said she would keep using her cracked iPhone until it fully broke.

She would get comments from her clients, stuff about the cracked screen and them suggesting her get a new iPhone. This kind of annoyed her.

I ended up giving her my 5s when the 6s Plus came out, which she cracked as well. I then got her a SE1 when they launched, and a Otterbox Defender case. She has yet to crack that one, and I a few weeks ago, I got she the SE3 with the same case to replace her again SE1.

The point is, brand and condition isn't exactly the best indicator of the type of person, imo.

 

[eyoungren]

Maybe...

But, that sounds as if the OP had more of a problem with her and not the type of phone she was using, which I can totally understand.

If it was just that and the problem with with her and not the OS that one uses, what I don't get is the comment about filtering the OS one uses in dating apps:

I took that as a joke, but who knows except OP.

Sounds like OS did play a part in the OP's dating preferences, especially since the OP noted other things that annoy him about people's phones (contrasting background).

I think it only played a part after the date made her comment about his iPhone. At that point both knew the date wasn't going anywhere and only then did OP (who was irritated) note the condition of her phone. I doubt it would have mattered if they had hit things off.

But, again, just my viewpoint of the matter.

BTW, I am not knocking the OP for their preferences what is important when it comes to a potential mate, everyone is different. I am just saying a brand of phone wouldn't deter me. The condition of the phone wouldn't deter me that much either, at least to a point.

This kind of reminds me of my wife a while back, before we were married. She is a psychotherapist, and when she was early in her career, she did in-home counseling to low-income clients. (pretty much the norm for her career)

Some were people that just fallen on hard times, and needed help getting back on their feet. Most were multi-generational dependents of the government, with no motivation or incentive to get back on their feet.

My wife would tell me that almost every client that fit the latter group would never have their electric bills and rent paid, but would alway have money for smokes, the newest iPhone, and an expensive TV.

My wife on the other hand was using an iPhone 5, with a cracked screen. I put packing tape on the screen to prevent her fingers from getting cut.

She, like most people in her career, didn't make much money. Being a social worker is more of a calling than something to make a living, especially since there is so much educational and certification requirements. So, she said she would keep using her cracked iPhone until it fully broke.

She would get comments from her clients, stuff about the cracked screen and them suggesting her get a new iPhone. This kind of annoyed her.

I ended up giving her my 5s when the 6s Plus came out, which she cracked as well. I then got her a SE1 when they launched, and a Otterbox Defender case. She has yet to crack that one, and I a few weeks ago, I got she the SE3 with the same case to replace her again SE1.

The point is, brand and condition isn't exactly the best indicator of the type of person, imo.

Each of us have things we choose to overlook simply because we love the other person. God knows there are things I do that irritate the hell out of my wife and vice-versa.

I do not have your wife's experiences or her type of job, but my own limited contact with similar types of people is roughly the same. I do find that in my own experiences either myself or my kids are the ones with the 'out of date' iPhones or computers or whatever. Over the years I've picked my kids up from school I've seen a number of junior high and highschool kids with better phones than I own.

 

[Danfango]

Brand is not an indicator of the person for sure. Condition is from direct experience. To qualify the original point, she was very well off, so she could afford to look after it and spend the time to clean it.

People who look after things tend to be more empathic, reliable and trustworthy from experience. This isn’t related to income at all but their general outlook on life. Also people who buy a 24 month contract phone, smash it in the first week and spend the next 23 months with a cracked screen show signs of shortsighted thinking which is worrying.

A fine example is my ex wife who within 2 months managed to dunk two sets of wired earphones down the toilet. I bought her some AirPods last year for her birthday (we are still on friend terms) and she lost the case within two days of getting it. She just upgraded her SE to a 13 Pro as well and has cracked the back already because she doesn’t want to use a case ?

 

[Isamilis]

A phone has been the closest thing for everyone nowadays. Hence I can understand OP perspective, that one’s personality (at least at glance) can be viewed from his/her phone (I think, it’s more on how different are they treat their phone, rather than OS difference).

 

[Juicy Box]

This isn’t related to income at all but their general outlook on life.

Maybe I wasn't clear about this in my post, but I wasn't make a comment about one's income. My post was about one's priorities. Example, not paying the electric bill, but always having money for a nice phone, the lottery, multiple pets, cigarettes, drugs, etc.

This wasn't income, as there are plenty of responsible, low-income people, but a subset of low-income people that prioritize things that I think most people wouldn't consider important. This could also be true for any income level, but that wasn't the clientele that my wife was helping in the mid-2010's.

So, similar to general outlook on life, but more focused on priorities and responsibilities.

 

[jdoll021]

I may not be the most knowledgeable regarding dating, but…

Considering your one and only relationship ended with you force choking her nearly to death before getting your butt whooped by a dude with a glorified flashlight…yeah I’d say you’re not very knowledgeable on relationships. ?

Sorry, couldn’t help it. It was right there for the taking. ?