Actually, to my mind, the entire thread is a - what can one say? - "a weird one".
Seriously, you judge people on their mobile phones (okay, "cell phones", to Our Transatlantic Cousins)?
I am lost for words.
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Seriously, you judge people on their mobile phones (okay, "cell phones", to Our Transatlantic Cousins)?
I am lost for words.
Seriously, not sure why anyone would care what phone operating system someone they’re on a date with is using. If that’s a deal breaker I’d suggest there are some “weird” priorities in what one is looking for in another. Strangely enough this is not uncommon today according to a survey.
The same survey a while back that indicated 86% of women thought negatively of men with cracked screens on their phones.
I suppose one could draw the conclusion if someone won’t fix their phone they won’t take care of other problems in life. Or as the OP said they are probably not reliable.
I suspect that’s reading pretty far into things. Maybe they haven’t had the time to get their phone fixed, or it’s not a financial priority, or don’t know how to get it fixed, or they can’t fix the phone without sending it off, or they’re waiting a month until they’re eligible for an upgrade.
It might be funny to be jokingly and idiosyncratically judgmental about the condition of their phone, but maybe you should judge the person on who they are as a person and not their phone.
Apple only has about 55% market share in the US and well under 30% globally. Food for thought.
As a bit of a car guy, I was disgusted when I found out this girl I was seeing in college drove a Prius (with the car, not her). Besides good gas mileage, there are really no redeeming qualities of a Prius. But why should I care? Turns out in the winter she drove her parents spare Land Cruiser- much cooler. That was over 10 years ago… now we’re married. And she hasn’t driven a Prius in many, many years.
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Having never owned one, I've always thought the Prius was cool! Especially the higher end ones.As a bit of a car guy, I was disgusted when I found out this girl I was seeing in college drove a Prius (with the car, not her). Besides good gas mileage, there are really no redeeming qualities of a Prius. But why should I care? Turns out in the winter she drove her parents spare Land Cruiser- much cooler. That was over 10 years ago… now we’re married. And she hasn’t driven a Prius in many, many years.
Now, someone driving a Pontiac Aztec…we need to talk!
PS. Hi A!!!!!
Back in High School I knew a Janitor because he played baseball with my older brother back in Day! He confided him and others fight over whom will clean to boys from girl locker rooms because the boys was so much cleaner!
I still get va kick out of what he said even years later!That made me laugh, great description! But if she was concerned with the phone you used, best you went separate ways...
And bathrooms in restaurants..... MUCH worse disasters were had to be found a plenty in the Ladies loo when I worked in restaurants.Back in High School I knew a Janitor because he played baseball with my older brother back in Day! He confided him and others fight over whom will clean to boys from girl locker rooms because the boys was so much cleaner!
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By the way..... Can Palm Pilot users and Windows CE users ever really be compatible in the long run?
I don't know about this gender blaming for the worst lack of cleanliness. I've seen plenty of disasters in the men's locker room at the college fitness center and pool. There's plenty to go around in both groups.
Yeah there's no winners there.
Although I spent a couple of nights in a unisex hostel with the only other people being 11 women and there was poo high up the wall in the bathroom. That takes some skill that men clearly don't have as I've only seen that below waist height 🤢
Curious.
I'm not so sure that I would place much credibility (or worth) on such surveys; for that matter, often, when crafting surveys, the answers depend on the questions asked, and precisely how the questions are framed, as well as the priorities of the people who have asked these questions (and commissioned the surveys).
Well, in any case, perhaps oddly enough, a guy with a cracked phone screen (this has been known to happen to my brother, a lawyer, whom I adore - he is left handed, and has been known to drop phones by accident) is not something that I would view in a negative light. Instead, I would content myself with the observation that, perhaps, a protective case for the phone might have been a good idea.
Having said that, I prefer a cracked screen to a spotless screen wielded by an uptight, and judgmental individual.
More to the point, I'm old school; I'm of the opinion that mobile phones (cell phones) should be banned entirely from the coffee shop (table of the coffee shop), pub, or while dining in a restaurant, or dinner table at home.
Put the phones away (irrespective of whether it is a battered antique complete with cracked screen or an antiseptic, immaculate, and absurdly up to date version) and engage in cultivating or nurturing the (dying) art of intelligent and interesting (dare one say even witty?) conversation.
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Indeed. God forbid that we actually talk face-to-face at the table! /s
I put my phone away when at the table and stick it on do not disturb but at an advancing age, you do have the odd interruption you may have to deal with. At least in the UK it's socially acceptable to apologise then deal with the odd teenager related drama. I certainly don't have a problem with it myself.
I think there can be a middle ground, although I certainly see your perspective. My sister and I were raised with the idea that there was nothing brought to the table except yourself. I probably would have accepted that a lot better, but the company at the table wasn't the greatest. I'm guessing my parents realized that at some point when we were teens and my sister and I more or less began to eat meals on our own schedules. This was well before cellphones ever came in to the house. Perhaps part of the reason that when I eat on my own the TV is on and there is reading material (a book or a computer).
Our own children were raised that while devices were allowed at the table (simply because we happened to be carrying them), attention was to be given to the conversation at hand. My kids are 18 and 13 now and their cellphones as well as ours are present at the table. However, they are secondary to the conversation - pulled out primarily to either prove a point or show information about something we may already be discussing.
Once, my son got sick at the table (when he was about 11 I think) and in order not to have him throw up his dinner in front of us (grandparents included) or rush him off to the bathroom, I handed him my phone (he didn't have one then) and had him play a game. In a few minutes, because his concentration was averted from what he felt to the game, he got better. When I knew he was okay, I took the phone back and he resumed the conversation with grandma and grandpa. Both my parents, who I knew were disapproved entirely of anything at the table (see above) did approve of this tactic. It minimized any interruptions and kept him at the table (grandma was even watching him play the game).
I'm just bringing this up because I think it just comes down to respect. Despite devices at the table, used sparingly, the conversation and each person there is respected and everyone is engaged with each other.
Sounds like you dodged a bullet to me…figuratively, of course.
Yes, I wouldn’t throw too much weight behind such a survey. It might be a negative but I doubt for most people it would actually be a deal breaker if you otherwise like the person.
Totally agree with cell phone use when it comes to meals, meetings, etc. It amazes me when you see a group of people out to dinner and they’re all on their phones with no one talking to each other.
What in the actual... I think it's safe to say you dodged a bullet/life lesson.
My wife was the original iPhone user. I had a Blackberry and was happy with it, except for the fact I usually got about 6 months out of them before they were junk. Same with the Razr's before it.
So she goes and gets one. It is OK, but doesn't look durable enough for me. Then I break another BB. So I figured, why not give it a try. Can't be any worse. So the 3G was out by then and that is what I got.
Since then, I have only broken 2 iPhones and one was just the back glass so I kept using it.
She also got the first Mac of the household, a 2011 Mini.
We are mostly Apple now, but I do have a nice Samsung tablet that I use in my SXS as a GPS. The programs I use aren't available in iOS. Plus would rather take a $200Samsung out into the woods vs a $1000 iPad.
I am awaiting Apple to ship my replacement 11 Pro Max. Not only did I shatter the back glass to almost powder last week the impact was enough to crack the front screen from underneath (the phone landed on it's back on concrete).
I don't use cases, but I do have AC+ (which with my carrier includes theft and loss).
That is only the second phone I've damaged like this and in both cases I was not feeling well so my guard was down. It's a shame, because that was a decent phone but according to the serial Apple emailed me, this new one was built in March 2022. My previous one sat for two years until I bought it in 2021 (made in 2019).
Dating is so complicated with social media and search engines. Any chance you told her something about you which she texted to her daughter, who then creeped you and found something concerning? So she called your date and was like "OMG mom I googled that guy and _______________!!!!!!" Game over. Not implying you're been charged with crimes against humanity or anything, but maybe you're Facebook friends with your date's ex? Maybe there's a photo of you at Seaworld and she's into saving whales? Maybe you work at a company her daughter got fired from? Who knows.
I'm so glad Google wasn't a big thing back when I was dating. Googling my name would have turned up another guy--same name--who was on the FBI's 10 Most Wanted list. It was a 😲😶😨😱 moment when I first googled my name, during the find yourself on google crazy a few years back.
I feel for people who share the same name as someone famous or infamous [in my case].
Gees!
I thought I had problems with my email address!
Ernest and Elayne - Netflix, XFinity and Sally Beauty Supply want to speak with you!
I've been in a group chat I never volunteered for…that stopped when I told the group who I was and where after they texted everyone the door code to get into the rental house they all went in on.
And I get mistaken for a beer distributor in Seattle because since we share the same name, people assume my email is his. No, I cannot get anyone free beer!
🚩🚩🚩 wow really? As a gent on a first date i wouldn't let her pay a cent. Its embarrassing to split a bill on a date.
Standard here in the UK. Its to make sure there is no unfairness and/or obligation from to either party.
I actually share my name with a male pornstar. This turns out not to be an advantage 🤔
(my name is not Dan for reference)
A high valued man should act like a leader and confidence. Asking a woman to pay half of the bill simply will lower your standards. Its not as if you are buying a car.