Someone please tell my husband...

Discussion in 'MacBook Pro' started by JSmith858, Jul 30, 2011.

  1. JSmith858 macrumors newbie

    Jul 30, 2011
    ...if i want to make another user account for me, the MBP [that he purchased yesterday] will not be "strained" & will work FINE!

    my husband is VERY computer-illiterate. he knows how to turn it off & on, yet decided to buy a macbook pro yesterday. he won't let me use, he won't even let me install any apps, & i am sooooo frustrated!

    i'm only familiar with PCs, never had a mac before, but i'm PRETTY sure i can do as much, if not more, than i can on my PC!

    this is such a stupid topic, but he even hid it from me LOL mind you, i'm in college for computer science! HE'S CRAZY!!!!

    are macs as fragile as he's making it out to be?

    okay, venting over. thanks for listening :D
  2. blevins321 macrumors 68030

    Dec 24, 2010
    Winnipeg, MB
    No, it'll be fine. Mac file systems don't get fragmented. And the Mac OS handles multiple users perfectly fine. Honest suggestion- try getting him a "Mac for Dummies" book to help get up to speed on the basics.
  3. davidwarren macrumors 6502a

    Aug 28, 2007
    I imagine it's not so much he is concerned with you creating a new user account so much as he is concerned with you taking over his new toy!
  4. wpotere Guest

    Oct 7, 2010
    Tell your husband to try it! I have a 2008 Macbook and it runs two accounts as well with no lag. Even with both logged in there is no lag.
  5. acurafan macrumors 6502a

    Sep 16, 2008
    so get your own mbp, and don't let him create an account on yours. don't get mad, get even.
  6. palpatine macrumors 68040

    May 3, 2011
    not to make a mountain out of a molehill, but his deceit (we all know that any computer in the last decade or so can easily handle different users) and controlling behavior (hiding the computer he bought with your money) would make me furious, and i would be confronting him about that.

    sure, get your own computer, but don't let him treat you that way. as nancy says:

    you keep lying, when you oughta be truthin'/ and you keep losin' when you oughta not bet, /you keep samin' when you oughta be a changin'/ now what's right is right, but you ain't been right yet/ these boots are made for walking, and that's just what they'll do / one of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you...
  7. JSmith858 thread starter macrumors newbie

    Jul 30, 2011
    thanks for the replies, everyone :cool:

    good thinkin'!

    you may be right!

    i'm broke :eek: but i do want one once i graduate!

    i'm not furious, but more annoyed! IF he paid for it with my money, i would be furious! we have separate accounts & pay our own bills, so i guess i can't get too mad :eek: i like that song, though!
  8. palpatine macrumors 68040

    May 3, 2011
    separate accounts? yikes. well, i know of married couples that do the same thing, but you are entitled to half of his assets in a divorce (and he is entitled to half of yours) so that is kind of like saying to your spouse that the only way they are going to get their hands on your stuff is if they divorce you :(

    the song is great. sing it in the mornings, kick him out of bed, and tell him to take better care of you. seriously. i would be so ashamed if i had treated my partner the way he is treating you :(
  9. Apple OC macrumors 68040

    Apple OC

    Oct 14, 2010
    tell him if he will not share his MBP ... you will not share yours either :D

    this works for most women ... men get lonely quick :eek:
  10. Tomorrow macrumors 604


    Mar 2, 2008
    Always a day away
    On the one hand, if he's so computer illiterate, you could create yourself an account and he'd never know. :D

    On the other hand - sharing a laptop? I can understand his apprehension. My wife and I don't share computers, either - especially not a laptop. Seems like too personal an item for sharing.
  11. palpatine macrumors 68040

    May 3, 2011
    not sharing a laptop is totally cool. after all, only one person can use it at a time, so there is bound to be friction. buying a new laptop and then telling your partner that they "can't" use it and hiding it is very disturbing...

    we have several computers and rarely share them except on vacations or some other time when we are away from home. it is personal. however, it is not so personal that we "can't" share and i need to hide it.
  12. JSmith858 thread starter macrumors newbie

    Jul 30, 2011
    separate accounts work for us. we've never had a problem :) he can be immature, though!


    good point on that one!!

    when i meant share, i meant just for "play". i've got my own laptop i love (sony vaio) that i use for everything. we work opposite shifts, so the only time i'd play with his is when he's not home b/c when he is, i'd have enough respect to stay off of it! :cool:
  13. -tWv- macrumors 68000


    May 11, 2009
    Wait until the novelty wears off and then ask him. He just wants to play around with his new toy :)
  14. palpatine macrumors 68040

    May 3, 2011
    whatever works for you guys sounds fine to me, of course, but it sounds to me like you are getting a bad deal out of this.

    well, i still don't like how he is treating you by coming up with this dubious reasoning and hiding it, but if you are cool with it....
  15. blevins321 macrumors 68030

    Dec 24, 2010
    Winnipeg, MB
    Another possible reason is that he hasn't figured out how to hide his porn yet.
  16. greenchiliman macrumors 6502

    Jul 29, 2010
    Not to give another piece of advice, but it sounds like this computer situation is a symptom of a problem within your relationship. Guessing this type of thing comes up about other things too.

    About the computer, look at the programs are running like crazy photo editing, video editing, running windows too. An extra email account is nothing. It's like driving your Corvette only in residential areas cause you aren't sure if can go on the freeway.
  17. palpatine macrumors 68040

    May 3, 2011
    i thought about that too. but, they are using separate accounts, so it shouldn't be an issue. perhaps he doesn't realize that he can have naked women on his wallpaper and you would never have to know. that's a lot of lying and work for porn, but guys can get weird about that kind of stuff.
  18. skier777 macrumors 6502

    Jul 3, 2010
    unless theres a prenup, but i doubt that as the OP says she is "broke."
  19. palpatine macrumors 68040

    May 3, 2011
    most regular folks don't bother with prenups, so i assumed she didn't have one. my point was more about the messages that separate accounts send and the almost inevitable situation in which one partner is disadvantaged by income disparities. usually it is the woman who suffers (lower average income earning potential), but regardless, you have two people basically living as roommates with benefits, and there is a comparatively low level of commitment (emotional, physical, but not financial).

    lots of couples make it work for them, and that is great, but in this case the computer seems like one example of a larger problem (as someone else noted) about control issues and really a fundamental lack of respect. it's difficult to interpret such a thing through the purchase of a mac, and so i may be way off, but it is something to keep in mind.
  20. JSmith858 thread starter macrumors newbie

    Jul 30, 2011
    thanks for the therapy session, guys LOL i enjoy this forum already :cool:

    true! we'll see ;)

    i never mentioned what i have ;) (i see where you're coming from, though :) )

    if anyone should be worried, it should be me LOL i share porn links with him! we've been through 2 deployments. ENOUGH SAID! lol

    we don't have a perfect marriage by any means. farrrr from it...

    broke to me means no networth & that i do not have! neither does he ;)
  21. h00ligan macrumors 68030

    Apr 10, 2003
    A hot desert
    Are you dating down to grade school? Wow.
  22. palpatine macrumors 68040

    May 3, 2011
    good answers. it seems like he is fortunate to have such a patient wife. hope he knows it :)
  23. mrwonkers macrumors 6502


    Oct 31, 2004
    Tell him if he won't you let you have an account that he won't be having any access to your coochicoo.....

  24. Titanium81 macrumors 6502a


    Jun 23, 2011
    I think that would change things very fast!
  25. Titanium81 macrumors 6502a


    Jun 23, 2011
    I have wanted a MacBook Pro for a while but got my wife one first.

    That way when I decided (have enough $$$) to get one there wont be anything to complain about. :)

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