That's for sure. When I get secretive about my e-mail or computer, she knows I probably got her something.
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That's for sure. When I get secretive about my e-mail or computer, she knows I probably got her something.
S hold on, you're upset that he won't let you use something that he bought with his own hard earned money? If you want one so badly then you should get your own If he's just paid all that money to use it then you come along and use it after not paying a dime towards it then I can understand. Its more the fact that you expect to be able to use it rather than it be a privilege to do so. I'm less likely to let someone use something of mine if they think it's their god given right than if they appreciated it.
Not that that's how I'd do things, but I can at least see things from his point of view
Not that that's how I'd do things, but I can at least see things from his point of view
I don't mean personal in the "place we don't show others" sense, I mean personal in the "customized the way I like it and used only by me" sense. It's not that she never uses it, never not a single time; it's that she uses hers, and I use mine. Neither of us has an account on the other's machine. If I ever ask her to email something to me from my computer, then naturally she's going to use it.
I'm not sure what kind of arrangement you have with your spouse or significant other, but after ten years together and eight years of marriage - no, we do not see each other go to the bathroom.
Many marriages are very different based on people.
I can see this situation (realize you're both immature and not ready for a truly fulfilling marriage but at the same time it's either that or nothing) and this is all kinda nerdy based on your posts. It's more like companionship than lust + love.
Just say this: "look, you're my husband and I'm your wife right? And you love me right? So we are on the same team, the same side right? So why are you being so sneaky and greedy when you know I like shiny things? You should share with the people you care about. I like Apple products too yunno, you don't have to take it and hide with it in a cave from me." *pout
Then walk away at a strategically timed moment.
I can see this situation (realize you're both immature and not ready for a truly fulfilling marriage but at the same time it's either that or nothing) and this is all kinda nerdy based on your posts. It's more like companionship than lust + love.
Just say this: "look, you're my husband and I'm your wife right? And you love me right? So we are on the same team, the same side right? So why are you being so sneaky and greedy when you know I like shiny things? You should share with the people you care about. I like Apple products too yunno, you don't have to take it and hide with it in a cave from me." *pout
Then walk away at a strategically timed moment.
Kind of reminds me of a story.
A newly wed couple has finally arrived at the hotel room and are preparing to get down to business. As they undress, the man removes his tuxedo trousers and tosses them over towards his bride.
"Hey put these pants on!" He says. Looking at him in confusion, the bride tells her new husband that those pants are way too big for her to wear and why does he want her to try anyways?
"You're right, they are too big, and remember that" responds the man, "I will always be the one who wears the pants in this relationship.."
Quite miffed by her man's attitude, the new bride reaches under her wedding dress and slips of her size two panties tossing them gently toward her husband's wide open and eager eyes.. "Put these on then." says she.
The new husband looks at her quizically and expresses his dismay.. "I can't get into your panties. I'm too big of a man."
The bride responds, "That's right- and with an attitude like that you never will get into my panties.."
A newly wed couple has finally arrived at the hotel room and are preparing to get down to business. As they undress, the man removes his tuxedo trousers and tosses them over towards his bride.
"Hey put these pants on!" He says. Looking at him in confusion, the bride tells her new husband that those pants are way too big for her to wear and why does he want her to try anyways?
"You're right, they are too big, and remember that" responds the man, "I will always be the one who wears the pants in this relationship.."
Quite miffed by her man's attitude, the new bride reaches under her wedding dress and slips of her size two panties tossing them gently toward her husband's wide open and eager eyes.. "Put these on then." says she.
The new husband looks at her quizically and expresses his dismay.. "I can't get into your panties. I'm too big of a man."
The bride responds, "That's right- and with an attitude like that you never will get into my panties.."
Wow, many of your clearly love sitting in your Ivory Tower and judging everyone else a little too much.
For all we know, he could be using the MBP to create/edit a touching video montage of their relationship as a gift and doesn't want her to see it and ruin the surprise.
Or maybe he's doing delicate cancer-cure research and has signed an agreement with his capital partner that he won't let anyone else touch the machine.
More likely, he just wants to enjoy his new toy and keep it for himself for a while. A little selfish? Perhaps. But as a married man, I can sympathize with it. I bought a MBP earlier this year (with my wife's blessing). I would never deny her the usage of it, but I'll admit that sometimes I get a little annoyed when I want to use it and she's on it.
My only complaint about this particular situation is with the husband's approach; he should have had the stones to express his intentions honestly up front instead of buying the computer behind his wife's back and then insulting her intelligence afterwards.
For all we know, he could be using the MBP to create/edit a touching video montage of their relationship as a gift and doesn't want her to see it and ruin the surprise.
Or maybe he's doing delicate cancer-cure research and has signed an agreement with his capital partner that he won't let anyone else touch the machine.
More likely, he just wants to enjoy his new toy and keep it for himself for a while. A little selfish? Perhaps. But as a married man, I can sympathize with it. I bought a MBP earlier this year (with my wife's blessing). I would never deny her the usage of it, but I'll admit that sometimes I get a little annoyed when I want to use it and she's on it.
My only complaint about this particular situation is with the husband's approach; he should have had the stones to express his intentions honestly up front instead of buying the computer behind his wife's back and then insulting her intelligence afterwards.
I know why your husband could be concerned, one of my friends bought an iPad 2 for him and his wife, she kinda took it over slowly, and now she uses it 85% of the time
My partner lets me touch her boobies. She can use my computers.
Best post, evr.
My partner lets me touch her boobies. She can use my computers.
I bought my wife her own iMac. I get to do much more than just touch her boobies.
I bought my wife her own iMac. I get to do much more than just touch her boobies.
Hehehehehehe, love it.
My partner lets me touch her boobies. She can use my computers.
Yup, same here. It is a small price to pay.
This thread is hilarious. There's a lot more to the story. Heck, I have a guest account on my machine just to keep other people off of my account. Not like it uses any resources unless it's left logged on, and even then, it's probably irrelevant.
I'm not suggesting otherwise. Rather, if a family has one machine and there is an issue with both using it, there's likely something else there. If a family gets two machines, it allows privacy should they choose to have it.
In my world, there isn't anything too shocking about what I've got on my computers. That said, I wouldn't readily share what I've got on my computers because they're my personal works. Likewise, I would expect my significant other to respect that, and allow me the space to share if and when I choose to. If I'd just married something a year ago, no, she's not getting all of the skeletons. If we're married some 20 years...yeah, it likely doesn't matter.
For example, one of my computers contains encoded instructions for the majority of my online accounts. I know my passwords can only be one of 6 possibilities; there is a logic to the passwords, and once you've figured out that logic, you could reasonably crack into one of my types. Or, if one had access to my main computer "The Big Apple", they get the ultimate hints fed to them (some of which are useless, but still). I wouldn't share that with anyone, because i don't believe in sharing passwords with anyone for any reason. I'm never in a position where I need anyone else to log into my accounts for me, thus I see no need for them to be all up in the business.
Easy solution to weird problem: steal his MacBook Pro, take out the hard drive and hide it.
http://www.ifixit.com/Guide/Repair/...body-Early-2011-Hard-Drive-Replacement/5119/1
http://www.ifixit.com/Guide/Repair/...body-Early-2011-Hard-Drive-Replacement/5119/1
This all could have been solved if the OP's husband would have had the brains to just make her a separate account with limited access to his files and make sure she doesn't know his password. IE a guest account - problem solved. His stuff stays hidden, and she is happy... but alas, he was not smart enough to do that, or just wanted to be hard to deal with and/or start an argument.
Either way things seems dim in this situation....
With that said, I wouldn't share a computer with my significant other (in this case my long term bf) because it is a personal thing, BUT I do have extra accounts for guests and whomever, and vice versa just incase we ever do have to use eachothers - but sharing on a regular basis as many people said, can get bothersome, especially since i'm on the comp for work and related things so much (like macrumors! haha) and would get bothered if I couldn't use my computer when I was home. (ie they kept taking it over or something)
But if i'm off at work, and he's home for some reason and his comp is low on battery or temporarily busy then that's what another account is for. I can still keep my privacy (although there really isn't much i care about) and vice versa, but without the "how dare you touch my pretty shiny thing"
Either way things seems dim in this situation....
With that said, I wouldn't share a computer with my significant other (in this case my long term bf) because it is a personal thing, BUT I do have extra accounts for guests and whomever, and vice versa just incase we ever do have to use eachothers - but sharing on a regular basis as many people said, can get bothersome, especially since i'm on the comp for work and related things so much (like macrumors! haha) and would get bothered if I couldn't use my computer when I was home. (ie they kept taking it over or something)
But if i'm off at work, and he's home for some reason and his comp is low on battery or temporarily busy then that's what another account is for. I can still keep my privacy (although there really isn't much i care about) and vice versa, but without the "how dare you touch my pretty shiny thing"
hilarious topic. you made my day. thanks....if i want to make another user account for me, the MBP [that he purchased yesterday] will not be "strained" & will work FINE!
my husband is VERY computer-illiterate. he knows how to turn it off & on, yet decided to buy a macbook pro yesterday. he won't let me use, he won't even let me install any apps, & i am sooooo frustrated!
i'm only familiar with PCs, never had a mac before, but i'm PRETTY sure i can do as much, if not more, than i can on my PC!
this is such a stupid topic, but he even hid it from me LOL mind you, i'm in college for computer science! HE'S CRAZY!!!!
are macs as fragile as he's making it out to be?
okay, venting over. thanks for listening