Sticky situation

[yojitani]

I get the feeling that we don't know everything that's going on here, perhaps you don't want to reveal everything? I would say though that because it's your dad, with whom you seem to have a good relationship, I would give him the money to prevent something happening immediately that could make things worse, but also get him to find some legal representation. From what I'm reading, your father is not being given due process.

 

[leekohler]

If you lend money to a friend or a family member in need, give it to them with the assumption you won't see it again. Otherwise, it will just cause problems. Hopefully, they pay it back. But if they don't, be prepared to let it go. However, if they fail to pay it back, don't ever lend them money again.

 

[Macky-Mac]

and what did you decide to do?

 

[Rodimus Prime]

and what did you decide to do?

yes I think we would all like to know this.

I have a friend who has semilure things happen to him. His family was broke and took his hard earned money and it really hurt him and his credit because he need the money to pay for some things.

I was talking with him and he agreed in the idea his family did not need to know how much he had and he needed it in a complete different bank that they did not know about. That way they would have to go though him to get any money (he would give it knowing he would never see it again) and he would state if he could afford it or not.

Also remember take care of your self first then worry about your parents. You could tell the honest truth in your case and state you could not afford it. From what it sounds like your parents do not ever need to know what is in your accounts because they will only hit you up. You have to become the gate keeper.


I will be honest with you my parents know my account balance and that is only because they current and should never need to touch my account since they are in better shape than me and I using them for help in what to do with the money.

In your first few months after you get a job try to build up a savings and do it early on so you will be one of the few people in the US that has 3-6 months expense in savings. A good practice to have and much easier to start early instead of later. Let me tell you it nice to have a heathly amount of money for those times when you have fork out a few extra 100 to something like car repairs/maintaince and you can shrug it off and not have to worry about where they money will come from (or have to figure it out)

 

[LeahM]

So... what did happen?