I will thank each of you individually, but off the top - SUCCESS!
245 GB available now! Amazing!
I don't know why, but all the while, last night, while in Disk Utility, I somehow could not see in the 'view' drop down the option to 'show APFS snapshots'. Until this morning! Then I clicked on the '...', and delete worked, and I have the desired result.
Not that you need to know my personal business, but I've been stressed to the max. Won a legal battle with a condo where they would not fix a common element leak they were responsible for that destroyed much of our condo, for months. A two year battle from the day we moved in. Now resolved, condo sold in a depressed market, but proceeds in the bank, have a nice apartment now. So much work to get here. Then my 6 lb 17 year old amazing Yorkie I had to put down on March 28th, almost a month now, a huge loss, unbelievably sad, but getting another one in the next few weeks. Firefox failed on this M2 while in the midst of buying investments, could not solve it, so had to go with my second choice of browsers (Safari) and re-establish all my banking bookmarks and passwords. Took a lot of work. And my hearing is going and I have full tinnitus with no solution in sight and one of my first loves (stereo) is now not as fun. The joys of approaching the age of 70.
But the forum has really come through for me and I really appreciate that!
Ben - right from the start, solid, patient advice! Thank you!
V0lume4 - thanks for the suggestion!
eddjedi - thank you!
genexx - a lot of amazing interesting details, I appreciate that!
Alameda - Time Machine 'is not enabled', I've always hated it. It might be SuperDuper backup that is doing it, but that's never been the case with SuperDuper, and this snapshot issue doesn't exist on my 2018 Intel, on my M2, on my MacBook.
What Ben J. added to genexx - APFS snapshots can be created by any application - fascinating. So I never spent much time observing remaining space on my drive, it always seemed to improve whenever I cleaned out files in Photos or Music. I bought the 2018 Mac Mini used with a tiny internal drive in 2018, much of the drive was taken up by 'Other' and that was easy to recover. Staying with Sequoia now, Roon and MinimServer etc are now stable for serving music around the apartment, and, well, I hate the look of aqua. Icons look stupid on my iPhone. But that's another matter for another day.
Thank you MacRumour Community!
Dave