Bad idea. That's a sure way to get your heart stomped on. Whatever happens the friendship will never be the same.
Make her come to you.
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Telling a Friend That I Like Her
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Bad idea. That's a sure way to get your heart stomped on. Whatever happens the friendship will never be the same.
Make her come to you.
That's a risk you got to take.
And keep waiting for the rest of your life?
Waiting rarely works. Often that's a decision you will regret afterwards. Sooner than later she will meet someone else and that's when you say "I should have asked her when I had the chance". I've been there and I still regret that I didn't ask when I had the chance. I rather make my move ASAP and move on if it didn't work.
That's a risk you got to take.
And keep waiting for the rest of your life?
I didn't say "wait" I said MAKE her come to you, as in draw her affections. You don't have to spill your guts and wear your heart on your sleeve. There is no game in that. Women liked to be pursued but you have to hint at something they may want as well.
I think you don't really like her but this is something more of a you're spending quite a while with her, you've had a lot of good times and this is what you get. Subconciously you want to see what will happen between you two on a different level, where you see her more than a friend like level
Everyone has been through this, I mean everyone. In high-school I had a crush in most of handsome female friends.. Some lasted longer some shorter.
One thing I have to ask you. How does she look at you? Are you the cool, really funny guy who is a bit crazy? Describe yourself how your best friends and the girl you like see you. What do you think?
Just out of curiosity, how old are you anyway?
Everyone has been through this, I mean everyone. In high-school I had a crush in most of handsome female friends.. Some lasted longer some shorter.
One thing I have to ask you. How does she look at you? Are you the cool, really funny guy who is a bit crazy? Describe yourself how your best friends and the girl you like see you. What do you think?
Just out of curiosity, how old are you anyway?
Well he lives in the dorms, but is in his third year of college, and attends dry parties. So age is really up in the air.
Between 19 and 21 would be my guess.
Instead how about you casually say "want to have sex?
" I know a bit out there but it works (if you have charm and are British with a British accent in the US )... although it does work as yuou can turn it into friends with benefits Totally true although a few can turn into a friends with benefits thing
And WTF is a dry party? if your in college you should be drinking regardless if you are under 21
Ah, beer. Beer goggles may make the OP more attractive, at least for a while. Beer goggles, and Halloween. *high five*
And obeygiant is right. You need to plant the idea that she may have more than friendship feelings for you in her brain before asking her out (like Inception). If you just asked her out of the blue, she'd be really really surprised and not know what to say. If you show her a bit of affection and note how she reacts (i.e. either positively towards it, or "what the hell is he doing? Get me out of here!"), you'll know whether to bother asking her. You won't get rejected, and your friendship may not change much, if at all.
And obeygiant is right. You need to plant the idea that she may have more than friendship feelings for you in her brain before asking her out (like Inception). If you just asked her out of the blue, she'd be really really surprised and not know what to say. If you show her a bit of affection and note how she reacts (i.e. either positively towards it, or "what the hell is he doing? Get me out of here!"), you'll know whether to bother asking her. You won't get rejected, and your friendship may not change much, if at all.
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OK, your sitting there, enjoying your coffee (Starbucks excepted), and you reach-out and offer your open palm to her.
No words need be spoken, but her reaction will tell you what you desire to know.
No words need be spoken, but her reaction will tell you what you desire to know.
She kept the party dry because she doesn't like alcohol. Yes I mean it, she doesn't drink at all. I drank too much over the new years so I've been trying to cut down my alcohol consumption.
I'm 20, and the legal age here is 19 (I don't live in the states)...so yeah I drink from time to time.
Well she thinks I'm funny. "You are so funny." My friends treat me as an entertainer. They expect jokes from me.
I'm glad you mean "fancy." I was worried that you'd become so insecure you think you need to tell your friends you like them.
No easy answer to this, I'm afraid. I could tell you a story about the time I finally mustered up the courage to tell a friend how I felt about her... and ended up getting therapy/ a lecture from her mother. But then there was also the time I did the same (different person) and we had a fantastic relationship for 5 years.
Like others have said, things will change once you've said something. It might be to your liking, it might not. One thing though, what is your gut feeling about how she feels about you? Does she make eye contact with you at unexpected times (like when you walk into a room or when your talking [midstream])? It's difficult to explain but I think you'd feel it if she had similar feelings. You might not trust your impression, btw.
No easy answer to this, I'm afraid. I could tell you a story about the time I finally mustered up the courage to tell a friend how I felt about her... and ended up getting therapy/ a lecture from her mother. But then there was also the time I did the same (different person) and we had a fantastic relationship for 5 years.
Like others have said, things will change once you've said something. It might be to your liking, it might not. One thing though, what is your gut feeling about how she feels about you? Does she make eye contact with you at unexpected times (like when you walk into a room or when your talking [midstream])? It's difficult to explain but I think you'd feel it if she had similar feelings. You might not trust your impression, btw.
