She doesn't want to say yes
Does she even know what the question is? Because I sure as hell don't.
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Does she even know what the question is? Because I sure as hell don't.
It's kinda complicated...
We have been really good friends for the last 2 and a bit years.
I asked her out again a couple of weeks ago, but she really doesn't want a boyfriend, and she doesn't want anything to change.
I really don't know what to do. I can't see myself with anyone else, though she can't see herself with anyone...
No wonder no one understands your first post.
You need to forget about going any further on this. She's probably not attracted to you in that way and that's her nice way of telling you. She likes you as a friend.
yes totally agree with you there. based on first hand experience - i can tell you that she doesnt like you tooz. sorry to say it
girls dont like guys and not tell them...
My girlfriend takes things hard.....and unfortunately, I don't mean that sexually.
She's emotional, so if something goes wrong, she feels guilty about it even if it's out of her control. She's a teacher, and of course, this means she deals with a lot of brats who don't want to listen to her or do anything with their lives. I have told her, "You can't save them all", and she agrees with me. However, agreeing with me doesn't change anything. This is who she is, and this is how she will react on some instances.
I think it's nice that she's thoughtful and empathises with others. She feels. She has feelings. Fantastic! On the other hand, I'm one of those "Don't sweat the small stuff" type of people, so things usually don't stick to me. She's not like that, and it's hard for me to deal with what I'd consider to be over-reactions to problems and issues that she should be able to shake off.
Uh.....otherwise, I don't find anything about her too much to bear.
Well there's a lie if I've ever heard one. She doesn't want to be with you, but she also hasn't found the right person yet, so of course she doesn't to date. Based on what I just said, who would she date?
She's emotional, so if something goes wrong, she feels guilty about it even if it's out of her control. She's a teacher, and of course, this means she deals with a lot of brats who don't want to listen to her or do anything with their lives. I have told her, "You can't save them all", and she agrees with me. However, agreeing with me doesn't change anything. This is who she is, and this is how she will react on some instances.
I think it's nice that she's thoughtful and empathises with others. She feels. She has feelings. Fantastic! On the other hand, I'm one of those "Don't sweat the small stuff" type of people, so things usually don't stick to me. She's not like that, and it's hard for me to deal with what I'd consider to be over-reactions to problems and issues that she should be able to shake off.
Uh.....otherwise, I don't find anything about her too much to bear.
Well there's a lie if I've ever heard one.
She doesn't want to be with you, but she also hasn't found the right person yet, so of course she doesn't to date. Based on what I just said, who would she date?
This is a classic lie. It's womanese for she cant see herself with YOU. Sorry.
You need to move on...and quick. Be unavailable/scarce to her, find other women who want what you have to offer. Life is too short to be settling for friendships...especially given the fact that most female friendships tend to be selfish.
You're not really friends IMHO, you're just settling for the friendship role whilst remaining hopeful that it'll lead to something else.
100% exactly right. Awesome post.
Edit: I'll update my situation. I dropped her. Got too annoying (the one sided selfishness). Life is too short (Kat Williams).
... she likes to put her ass right up against me in bed, but hates having blankets over her back so I end up fighting to get her to move away so I'm not freezing. She says she's always been like that but I'm pretty sure it's something that's popped up within the last two years or so.
I should probably provide some extra details.
Both of us are extreme introverts. Niether of us have had a girl/boyfriend before, ever. She really only has about 10 good friends (of which I am one). People have said that we would make a great couple, and that is one of the reasons why she doesn't wan't a boyfriend. She HATES being told what to do. she also hates dresses, but that's a different story.
we are both 16.
I have decided to drop the 'going out' thing, and will just see where the friendship takes us.
Both of us are extreme introverts. Niether of us have had a girl/boyfriend before, ever. She really only has about 10 good friends (of which I am one). People have said that we would make a great couple, and that is one of the reasons why she doesn't wan't a boyfriend. She HATES being told what to do. she also hates dresses, but that's a different story.
we are both 16.
I have decided to drop the 'going out' thing, and will just see where the friendship takes us.
So either I am taking things to heart too much or I am hooking up with some pretty self-centered girls. Maybe I'm self centered. Anyway, needed to vent once again.
Don't sweat it. There is plenty of time.
Get involved with school, clubs and community events and don't worry about dating. Enjoy life.
Ahh, the ole "Butterball Turkey Butt". Yep, this can be a problem. Just give it a few decades and her hormones will change. Of course, all this means for you is that the freezing will change to sweating.
