What kind of parents spies on their children text messages? That’s just wrong on so many levels ... boundaries people. if you don’t trust them enough to use their own phone privately. Maybe look yourself in the mirror and question what you did wrong rasing them.
Well I have 2 kids. I have a son and a daughter. My son has complex special needs. He is able to use a phone/ipad and has no problems understanding the steps needed to use a device, however he is unable to understand that most people are nasty, selfish and evil. I have a daughter who is smart but sadly too nice and I worry she is easy to manipulate by evil people. Sexual predators are very cunning and able to manipulate even clever kids.
So it is a case of trysting my kids...I don't trust all of you!
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What you mean take their phones away totally and let them grow up, as children have done for the past couple of million years as well rounded, normal human beings, without worrying, and staying up and night due to what someone may say about them, or needing to broadcast their every action to social media for their friends to see?
Yes. Let's take the dam phones away and let them grow up as well adjusted people before the curse of the mobile phone it thrust into their lives.
Technology is not the problem, the application of it is.
I have a daughter and she uses a mobile phone and a laptop and I have a son who uses a iPad. he has special needs and my daughter is a genius but too nice and idealistic. So my son is too trusting and could be abused early if I were not here to monitor him. My daughter is too nice and would fall victim to manipulative and cunning predators if i were not here to monitor her either.
In the meantime I let them use tech but I do my best to educate them both and teach them that technology can set you free and improve our lives if used right and responsibly
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I'm a mother and obviously I'm concerned about where my kids are and what they are exposed to now with all kind of social media and private chat apps and stuff we did not have when I was a kid. That said, this is also a double edged sword, because while I want to make sure my daughter is safe and know where she is, she must also be able to have some privacy from me. She must be allowed to have a diary I don't snoop in, and be able to confide in friends and even teachers without me knowing every minute detail. Otherwise I fear she won't grow up to become an independant individual person when she grows up.
I saw this thing today when I looked at what else exist in this surveilance world and found
https://www.flexispy.com/en/employee-monitoring.htm and to be frank that scared me. In scandinavia, the smart watches for kids that are available had similar poor security to what is described in this leak, and as a parent, I find it a lot more scary when police say they found kids smart watch login details in pedo circles than me not knowing within an inch where my kid is at all times.
My daughter and I are friends on the iPhone friend app. She can see where I am, and I can see where she is. I try to be balanced on this.
As a parent myself I understand what you are saying and agree up to a point. However I see with one of your points the opposite can be true. You said that with scandinavian smart watches, there were login credentials found in pedo circles. if that is true then that will happen if you do something and monitor your kids a little or if you do nothing. So you may as well do something in my view.
Pedophiles are very cunning, very clever and able to manipulate kids as well as their parents.
We had a celebrity in the UK called Jimmy Saville who fooled so many people for decades despite being one of the world's worst pedophiles.
He did so by being deceitful and able to manipulate people. he pulled the wool over many people's eyes as they all do.
So I would rather have a backup plan, but with the right caveats in pale such as making sure that the security is as good as can be(research research and more research into what product/service you use). Also giving the kids enough privacy and trust as a balance.
I will give you an example with my kids.
I have a son with special needs and a daughter who is very clever but too nice and too willing to see the good in people. So i trust my kids..I just do not trust anyone else.
I therefore have given my son an iPad and he knows how to use it but I place restrictions on it(through settings on iPad) and my daughter has an iPhone and in both cases I tell them that I have to have access to the devices and they can not block that.
I agree to not snoop on what they do, the exception being that I will do so If I think for one moment that something is wrong or should anything bad happen. In return for the degree of freedom I allow them they have to talk to me about certain things. Such as anyone talking to them online trying to get them to do certain things. Such a send pics of themselves naked or not.
or go into chat rooms etc etc..I also do teach them about sexual grooming and the clever ways pedophile use to gain trust etc.
I guess that I am lucky in as much as I used to be in the Army and know how to deal with certain types of bad actors, including pedophiles and know the methods they use.
Though it is hard isn't it, trying to strike that balance between giving our kids freedom and protecting them.