Tracking wife on find my phone

[jca24]

Funny story... when my wife goes shopping either in town or out of town, I can track her from my iPad at home to see wherever she is at and what malls or stores she goes to. I also track her on her way back home to see how close to home she is. It's a very accurate tracking street by street. She thinks it's eerie being able to be tracked like that. She isn't doing anything out of the ordinary though. And then from my iPad I take a picture of what stores she has been to and where she is at the time and I show her the pics when she gets home. She thinks I am spying on her, but it's all in fun. She is just amazed how I can do that. I told her at least if she gets kidnapped or hijacked I will be able to find her.... or maybe I won't...

And when you go to track her and there is no signal, phone is off, you will know she is at her boyfriends place. lol, humor

 

[BenTrovato]

I can't believe people are touting that Find my iPhone is a safety net! What society do you live in where you can buy $700 phones but are worried when you go out to the point that you feel safer knowing someone can track you? Weird.

 

[nox5]

The truth is women don't mind it but man do.

 

[Serelus]

Agreed 110%

When Photostream first came out I quite innocently setup my iPhone and my wife's iPad to share the stream, thinking that it would be nice to be able to share photos when one of us was out shopping (for example). But when she saw that I could see her pictures she completely freaked out! Maybe I wasn't good at explaining the imagined benefits of being able to share pictures, but she couldn't believe that anybody would actually want this feature; she said none of her friends would ever want such a thing. I tried to explain to her that I know couples who have always shared email addresses (I know several), and she couldn't believe that either. To her it was a complete invasion of privacy and trust, and I had to respect that.

My advice: DON'T DO IT!

Uhmm except there's a difference in what the OP is using the feature for and what are you using the feature for.

See OP was using it for something else than it is actually meant, while you're using it for something it is supposed to. I've never setup photostream for me and my girlfriend, but if she'd freak out about that i'd definitely ask what it is she has to hide then.

 

[I7guy]

This is the exact same way we use it!

We don't see it as anything creepy or invasion of privacy. We just embrace the fact this technology exists and use it to our advantage.

Exactly. You hit the nail squarely on the head with this.

 

[Saint.Icon]

Funny story... when my wife goes shopping either in town or out of town, I can track her from my iPad at home to see wherever she is at and what malls or stores she goes to. I also track her on her way back home to see how close to home she is. It's a very accurate tracking street by street. She thinks it's eerie being able to be tracked like that. She isn't doing anything out of the ordinary though. And then from my iPad I take a picture of what stores she has been to and where she is at the time and I show her the pics when she gets home. She thinks I am spying on her, but it's all in fun. She is just amazed how I can do that. I told her at least if she gets kidnapped or hijacked I will be able to find her.... or maybe I won't...

Way to be a control freak. I'd imagine when her attorney finds this thread that she'll get everything in the divorce.

 

[Jessica Lares]

Don't be creepy. There is no excuse to be tracking anyone who's just going to the store.

 

[Menel]

I can't believe people are touting that Find my iPhone is a safety net! What society do you live in where you can buy $700 phones but are worried when you go out to the point that you feel safer knowing someone can track you? Weird.

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[C DM]

If you do best to keep it to yourself. What's the poky of sharing it with random people online or anyone anyway?

 

[Hieveryone]

LOL at "mabye I won't" Well, I'm glad you told her so it's out in the clear. Otherwise, that'd be kind of creepy.

 

[CPx]

Eye-opening thread.

 

[firedept]

A dangerous game to play. Some people's partners won't like it, others will. Take the word of your wife, from her point of view she doesn't like it, to her it could mean a lack of trust, and a lack of privacy both are highly valuable to all people.

I'd stop doing it, it could also make you more paranoid. All it takes is you to be following her one day as a joke, you asking her where she has been and her innocently forgetting to mention one place she has been to which you call upon. From then on you could feel a lack of trust and end up tracking her movements for real.

It's a very dangerous game and in my opinion there is a reason as to why it's called "Find my iPhone" and not "Find my wife".

Lastly I find it to be intermittently accurate, sometimes it is spot on to the exact pin point, other times it can be a few hundred yards out making it possible to mistake it's exact location.

You are the voice of reason. I have to agree with you 100%. My wife would not mind, but I certainly would mind. I would feel funny tracking my wife. Either I trust her or leave her. 20+ years married and counting.

 

[Jimmy James]

Jimmy boy, stop trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill. And who is saying that she objects to it other than you. And for your information I didn't start this post for validation like you are falsely claiming. It was just for the humor of my posting!! I am not spying on her to spy, I just found it funny to be able to show her where she has been. It's not such a big deal like you are trying to make it. Have you no humor in your life?

You said she thinks it's eerie and thinks you're spying on her. There is no humor here. Since you're not connecting the dots at an autistic level I'll spell it out for you. If you keep your marriage it won't be a happy one.

 

[sunking101]

I can only see it being of some use if you strongly suspect your wife of having an affair, and need proof for your own peace of mind.

Otherwise, it's just unnecessary and creepy IMO. Trust your partner 100% unless you have reason not to....and don't go hunting for reasons.

 

[I7guy]

I can only see it being of some use if you strongly suspect your wife of having an affair, and need proof for your own peace of mind.

Otherwise, it's just unnecessary and creepy IMO. Trust your partner 100% unless you have reason not to....and don't go hunting for reasons.

I couldn't disagree more with that statement but everybody has their own viewpoint. Bring able to track via iPhone could have saved some lives....

 

[sunking101]

I couldn't disagree more with that statement but everybody has their own viewpoint. Bring able to track via iPhone could have saved some lives....

Well, if there is a NEED to use the feature at some point, such as your wife has been missing for 24hrs and isn't answering her phone, then sure! I don't feel that a permanent tracking of her whereabouts in the interests of 'safety' is at all necessary.

 

[I7guy]

Well, if there is a NEED to use the feature at some point, such as your wife has been missing for 24hrs and isn't answering her phone, then sure! I don't feel that a permanent tracking of her whereabouts in the interests of 'safety' is at all necessary.

Got it. My family does and we can FMF 24 by 7.

 

[Hammie]

My wife and I use FMI to see where one another are, for example if either of us is home and we check to see if the other has left work so we can prepare dinner. I also use it check my wife got to work ok as she's in senior management at her firm and travels between four sites and can't text or call while driving. I log into FMI at my work and can see she got there safe.

We both openly use it to check one another's whereabouts and have no issue with it.

This is exactly how my wife and I use it. Since I work from home, I often use it to see if she has left work. She has used it to see if I am still at the grocery store or wherever. My kids also use it.

I wish you could pick and choose at will which device to track. My youngest sometimes leaves with his iPad and not his iPhone or vice versa. To choose which device to track would be beneficial, IMO.

 

[mlmwalt]

This thread is revealing to say the least.

My wife and I don't use it. It's just weird/creepy to me. If I want to know where my wife is, I ask her. If I were ever to be skeptical, I'd hit Facebook and Instagram to see where she is. Conversely, I hate the idea of being able to be tracked and that there's no way to move about with a cell phone anonymously.

I have used FMI once when I thought my iPhone was at the gym or in the washing machine. Formuately, it was in my car in frnot of my house. the accuracy was spot on.

 

[RebornProphet]

This thread is revealing to say the least.

My wife and I don't use it. It's just weird/creepy to me. If I want to know where my wife is, I ask her. If I were ever to be skeptical, I'd hit Facebook and Instagram to see where she is. Conversely, I hate the idea of being able to be tracked and that there's no way to move about with a cell phone anonymously.

I have used FMI once when I thought my iPhone was at the gym or in the washing machine. Formuately, it was in my car in frnot of my house. the accuracy was spot on.

There's nothing "creepy" about it when used in a consenting manner and in a way which helps you both.

End of the day, neither of us have anything to hide so there's nothing creepy or dishonest about using it in the manner we do.

Is rather my wife text me prior to leaving and then let me check where she is on the road rather than her phone me and cause an accident.

 

[t76turbo]

This thread is revealing to say the least.

My wife and I don't use it. It's just weird/creepy to me. If I want to know where my wife is, I ask her. If I were ever to be skeptical, I'd hit Facebook and Instagram to see where she is. Conversely, I hate the idea of being able to be tracked and that there's no way to move about with a cell phone anonymously.

I have used FMI once when I thought my iPhone was at the gym or in the washing machine. Formuately, it was in my car in frnot of my house. the accuracy was spot on.

It is revealing...! But equally or more scary that if you had to, you could track her down by face book and other social media things. Find my iphone is pretty secure. Thos others arent as secure if I had to guess. I dont like being tracked where I can help it so I cancelled all social media accounts. Never posted on them anyway.

I just dont care where my wife is unless there is something specific I need her for. Maybe if I wanted to find out if she had gotten back to our home side of town and I wanted to get her to run an errand for me instead of me driving out. But I would probably just text her and ask. Only caveat there is her reading a text while driving isnt the safest thing to do so me being able to just know would help.

Maybe if she was kidnapped and had the phone with her, it would help find her. But the likelyhood of that happening and her phone not being ditched is slim.But would be great if possible.

Otherwise I have a huge list of things I can be doing or thinking about before I worry about what store my wife is in or where she is driving on a regular basis.

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There's nothing "creepy" about it when used in a consenting manner and in a way which helps you both.

End of the day, neither of us have anything to hide so there's nothing creepy or dishonest about using it in the manner we do.

Is rather my wife text me prior to leaving and then let me check where she is on the road rather than her phone me and cause an accident.

You must be one of those clingy husbands. Scared she is stepping out on you or out spending money or something.

I have never once had a valid reason to track my wifes progress on her drive home. I think I did call her a couple times when we had a hurricane coming and had tropical storm force winds already in the area.

 

[sunking101]

There's nothing "creepy" about it when used in a consenting manner and in a way which helps you both.

End of the day, neither of us have anything to hide so there's nothing creepy or dishonest about using it in the manner we do.

Is rather my wife text me prior to leaving and then let me check where she is on the road rather than her phone me and cause an accident.

Crikey. She has to text you when she's about to leave for home...and then you sit down and track her progress all the way? If I were her I would accidentally lose my phone and purchase a very basic mobile without GPS just to escape the pressure...

 

[RebornProphet]

Crikey. She has to text you when she's about to leave for home...and then you sit down and track her progress all the way? If I were her I would accidentally lose my phone and purchase a very basic mobile without GPS just to escape the pressure...

Wind your neck in.

She doesn't HAVE to text me, trust me my wife doesn't HAVE to do anything. And she'd enjoy putting you in your place as much as I'd enjoy watching her do so.

She checks where I am, I check where she is. We both know we do it so once again wind your neck.

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It is revealing...! But equally or more scary that if you had to, you could track her down by face book and other social media things. Find my iphone is pretty secure. Thos others arent as secure if I had to guess. I dont like being tracked where I can help it so I cancelled all social media accounts. Never posted on them anyway.

I just dont care where my wife is unless there is something specific I need her for. Maybe if I wanted to find out if she had gotten back to our home side of town and I wanted to get her to run an errand for me instead of me driving out. But I would probably just text her and ask. Only caveat there is her reading a text while driving isnt the safest thing to do so me being able to just know would help.

Maybe if she was kidnapped and had the phone with her, it would help find her. But the likelyhood of that happening and her phone not being ditched is slim.But would be great if possible.

Otherwise I have a huge list of things I can be doing or thinking about before I worry about what store my wife is in or where she is driving on a regular basis.

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You must be one of those clingy husbands. Scared she is stepping out on you or out spending money or something.

I have never once had a valid reason to track my wifes progress on her drive home. I think I did call her a couple times when we had a hurricane coming and had tropical storm force winds already in the area.

Clingy? I like nothing more than time to myself to unwind after work. As I said above we use the app to track one another and know we do so. Keep the assumptions coming guys.

Hilarious.

 

[sunking101]

Wind your neck in.

She doesn't HAVE to text me, trust me my wife doesn't HAVE to do anything. And she'd enjoy putting you in your place as much as I'd enjoy watching her do so.

She checks where I am, I check where she is. We both know we do it so once again wind your neck.

Every single one of my previous girlfriends would have finished with me I'm sure if I'd tracked her like that, or indeed if she had to check in with me at regular intervals via SMS.

Still, if you and your wife love this arrangement then who am I to judge. This thread is kinda crying out for opinions though, and I have given mine.

 

[RebornProphet]

Every single one of my previous girlfriends would have finished with me I'm sure if I'd tracked her like that, or indeed if she had to check in with me at regular intervals via SMS.

Still, if you and your wife love this arrangement then who am I to judge. This thread is kinda crying out for opinions though, and I have given mine.

No, you tried to psycho-analyse my marriage by using terms like "pressure", which is utterly ridiculous. And again there you go, wrongly, using the word "had/have to" ... she doesn't have to do anything. Trust me, my wife isn't a timid stay in the kitchen housewife, she's a successful businesswoman with a ruthless streak.

I don't tell her she "has" to "check in" at any time or on any schedule. We don't sit and watch one another all day, for example I used FMI to check she got to work ok this morning after hearing of an accident on the road she travels.

We don't sit and watch one another's every movement. If you want me to be truly revealing she used it to keep track of my journey home from work so she was "ready & waiting" for me getting home ... if you catch my drift.

Now THAT was a way to unwind after work.