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What is the point of relationships?

wywern209

wywern209

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The title says it all. I really don't see the point in them. It just usually ends 99 times out of 100 in one or both parties involved hurt.
 
Because it's good to have someone to travel through life with. At least that's how I look at it. Friends, family, partner... buckle up and enjoy the ride.
 
Because you may develop a deep relationship and enjoy the company for a very long time.

Companionship is worth it
 
Phil A. said:
Wirelessly posted (iPhone 4)

It's the one time in 100 that makes them worth it 😉
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Absolutely I lost my wife and best friend very early at the age of 45...call that getting hurt? I did for a long time....Now I remember the good times.
 
wywern209 said:
The title says it all. I really don't see the point in them. It just usually ends 99 times out of 100 in one or both parties involved hurt.
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You could replace "relationship" with "life" in your question and both would be valid questions and both would have the same answer.

There probably is no "point" in terms of something permanent or universal. There's no destination, only journey. You are here for a few brief moments, then gone forever. It is a wonderful thing, existence, if you think about it. If you can share some of those few moments with someone you can relate to, someone who gives you a sense of purpose, someone who gives you a feeling that there is more than you, the feeling that things external to you are important, that is a meaningful relationship.

Don't waste the time you have worrying about loss. 100 out of 100 relationships end eventually. Seek out people you can share your life with. When you lose that person, grieve, move on, and start again. When you are lucky enough to have a partner, don't sweat the small stuff. Remember the bigger picture and count your blessings.
 
I just don't bother! Haven't since my divorce several years ago, but it has nothing to do with pain and resentment. It is because I accepted my own limitations.

I am not capable of being/giving what most people want/expect and I no longer want to hurt anyone else.

I have someone special in my life that I'm very close to, who is also my best friend and I'm now happier than I've ever been.

What's right for everyone else may not be what's right for you. There is no law saying you have to have a traditional relationship, if you can't handle it, then don't.
 
obeygiant said:
Well unless you're willing to pay for it, the relationship part kind of helps in the sex department. 🙂
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Ahh I'm not even talking about paying for it.😉

I agree that a relationship at least makes it more likely you'll have a steady supply, but it certainly isn't required.😎
 
mobilehaathi said:
OP, did you perhaps just get out of a relationship?
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no. i'm just very confused.I don't know if it has something to do with my past with bullying etc but i find that while i can easily make friends and enjoy making friends, i find that i don't want to form deeper relationships than that of a friend.I've thought about it for a while and figured out that part of my lack of understanding has to do with my reluctance to let my current relationships have a chance to go sour if i do go through with taking them to a level past that of just a friend.
 
I get to hang out every day with my best friend and do the sex. It's NIIIIIIIIICE!

Your thoughts on the subject will likely change.
 
There are psychological reasons for relationships especially in the adolscenct year.

I do not eant to look for my notes so I am sure someone could elaborate .
 
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