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What is the point of relationships?

waloshin said:
There are psychological reasons for relationships especially in the adolscenct year.

I do not eant to look for my notes so I am sure someone could elaborate .
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Psychological eh? I mean I want to be in a relationship but when I weigh the risk to benefit, I just see no point so I've always shyed away from them. I know I'm over analyzing the situation at hand, but in the past, I've always tried to think with my head and not my "heart". I don't know if this is inherently wrong or something but I just never felt it was worth it to think with my emotions in the equation.
 
wywern209 said:
The title says it all. I really don't see the point in them. It just usually ends 99 times out of 100 in one or both parties involved hurt.
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You're really optimistic. They end 100 times out of 100; I heard people only live for a finite amount of time. Never knew you could have a relationship with a deceased person. ;)
 
wywern209 said:
Psychological eh? I mean I want to be in a relationship but when I weigh the risk to benefit, I just see no point so I've always shyed away from them. I know I'm over analyzing the situation at hand, but in the past, I've always tried to think with my head and not my "heart". I don't know if this is inherently wrong or something but I just never felt it was worth it to think with my emotions in the equation.
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Depending on how old you are, I'm pretty sure you will at some point figure this out on your own terms, especially if you find the one you want to share your life with.
 
andalusia said:
Depending on how old you are, I'm pretty sure you will at some point figure this out on your own terms, especially if you find the one you want to share your life with.
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I sure hope so. it truly sucks there isn't a book on how to lead one's life. i suppose it would be a rather tough book to write though.
 
wywern209 said:
I sure hope so. it truly sucks there isn't a book on how to lead one's life. i suppose it would be a rather tough book to write though.
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Just checked your profile, and if correct, you're only 18! You have plenty of time to find the right relationship. I'm pretty certain you have nothing to worry about at this stage of your life :) My advice would be to stop worrying, and just enjoy your life as much as you can.
 
Wirelessly posted (iPod Touch 2G (MC))

Sheldon Cooper, you get off of MR and go back to work right now. You don't even like macs!
 
Because once you find the person that you would be willing to do anything for, give up your life for, the person that fulfills you, etc is an amazing feeling to have. You may have to go through some heartbreaks or people that end up being nothing to you, but once you do find that one special person, it will all be worth it.
 
You need to take a chance.

I am like you...mostly very cautious..maybe also with some unrealistic expectations. But once you take that chance, you'll come to find out that life isn't always about having the best of everything.

Also, sometimes you will experience "heartbreaks" in relationships but don't give up on these relationships because not all those heartbreaks are caused by the other person. Sometimes, we initiate it. Sometimes, it is our problem. Also, practice forgiveness. This is for me as well. We are perfectly imperfect :)
 
bchen1977 said:
u think you're just bitter that's all! XD no offence, but that's all that i see in you. you see, people are made to find a partner. it's a natural process. it's nature on the move! :) relationships are not that bad bro! try it! you'll see that it's worth the toil and the pain!
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that might be it too.... bitterness sucks. especially when it doesnt want to let go.
 
Because every cynical pessimist needs a naive optimist to tell them to stop being an *******. :p

If you are 18 just live it up and dont worry about relationships.
 
verwon said:
I just don't bother! Haven't since my divorce several years ago, but it has nothing to do with pain and resentment. It is because I accepted my own limitations.

I am not capable of being/giving what most people want/expect and I no longer want to hurt anyone else.

I have someone special in my life that I'm very close to, who is also my best friend and I'm now happier than I've ever been.

What's right for everyone else may not be what's right for you. There is no law saying you have to have a traditional relationship, if you can't handle it, then don't.
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But you're still in a relationship. There's just no way around it.
 
Phil A. said:
Wirelessly posted (iPhone 4)

It's the one time in 100 that makes them worth it ;)
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This ^ or this \/
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Because when you find that one special person it all makes sense, and it's all worth it. A relationship is still work, but it's well worth it.

Shrink said:
If you have to ask, then the issue is larger than can be addressed here.
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Lol.. Maybe he just came through a messy break up and is having doubts. That happens too. I mean, he says he's not, but one never knows what the case is on an anonymous forum. :)
 
Melrose said:
Lol.. Maybe he just came through a messy break up and is having doubts. That happens too. I mean, he says he's not, but one never knows what the case is on an anonymous forum.
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Just a suggestion...you use the data supplied to you. Making up hypothetical scenarios strays too far from the data and are, generally, useless as they have no empirical support.
 
Shrink said:
Just a suggestion...you use the data supplied to you. Making up hypothetical scenarios strays too far from the data and are, generally, useless as they have no empirical support.
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True, true. I'm just feeling optimistic this evening. Give me a an hour or so, it'll pass. :D
 
Even a non-messy break-up is crushing, but discovering that you can indeed succeed as a single entity is priceless.

You answer to no one, save yourself.

After a life of answering to parents, teachers, spouses (bosses & clergy too), it is a metamorphosis.
 
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