Yeah, my gf is brainwashed by her lousy, moron parents. I love her so much its been like 4 years, both in our first year in college by the way. Her mom treats her like an utter piece of crap all the time. I really dont want to go on about that, but talk about some day-to-day emotional abuse. It's probably worse than most of you think. She wants to go to a college far away with me, which i completely agree on. Her parents go behind her back and keep telling people they dont know real well, and it comes back to them. She spends tons of time with me and not with her family, the mom makes the 4-year old daughter say, "why dont you love me, and why are you always with him?" Back to the college thing, her parents said, they would take us to visit because they didnt want us to have sex, but they buy her birth control? Then the day before, "we cant take you, you want to put your dad through 8 hours of driving and your little sister? you told us at the last second."(3 months before is not = to last second). Now she is getting treated like an animal every day since. Threatened to get kicked out, everything. FLASHBACK: when i went on vacation with them i was 16, my parents had to pick me up because of them. She was caught tanning on the beach with me, and got treated like crap for 3 days until i flipped. Exchanged words and got pushed around by her wimpy daddy that cant stand up for himself. Mom has the pants, very very tight in the family, like a military dictatorship lol. Now, she wanted to confront them: "Treat me like a person or I'm out." she was going to be reasonable with them, and now she is backing out and forgiving them again. 4 days ago:"I knew you were right."-says the gf. This has happened an uncountable number of times, try about 30 at least. By the way she would be living with me until we transfer to another college, and my parents treat her like their daughter, unlike hers. I even have gotten in trouble for putting my stuff up in her room. (all by myself, i suppose its sexual, i guess they think i like to play with myself in her room) and in her bathroom with her this time(door open), a month ago. they thought they had established this rule when we got together. Actually our first picture was taken by her mom sitting in the most godforsaken place: My gf's bed. Now you know a little bit of how dumb this lady is. I've somewhat figured that they can't accept that there little girl is growing up. Also one of the reasons holding her back is her little sister, she loves her. little sister > big sister, everything is big sisters fault too, just thought i'd add that. Mom throws a fit everyday, cleans 90% of the time in clean spots, while doing what she does best: gripe. Other 10% is smoking cigarettes. What can i do about this mess and how can i approach this? Do i confront her parents in place of her? How do i convince her to confront them? I'm tired of this girl being abused. Her parents are not fit to be parents. It seems as if she is addicted to emotional abuse. I need her to confront them for them to come clean on their wrongdoings and actions or just bluntly reply with a laugh so she can leave. That basically happens everytime she complains about how they treat her. All of this is basically "my fault", because she spends most of her time with me and her parents say she is selfish. She is clearly not thinking about herself in this situation. How do i get her to think about herself? Thanks for your time reading this or attempting to read this, and thanks to all the MR community. Kinda long, sorry.