I was and I guess still am in a very similar situation.
My lovely and amazing girlfriend of 2 years told me last fall that she wanted a break, some "time to herself." Now, the circumstances where that I had just started my first year of college, and she was but a junior in high school. Despite a distance of 45 minutes between us, for the first month we saw each other frequently and I felt everything was going fine. All of a sudden, her feelings "changed," and she asked for this. Yet, since last fall, we've never really not talked for a period longer than a week. So really rough patches aside, we remained best friends, and lovers. Now that I'm home, she's warmed back up to me.
I guess it's a tough situation. If you're like me, you really love her and want to be with her. She probably does love you, but is worried about the commitment, or that she's being "spoiled" by a good guy such as yourself. I think if she's someone you really truly love, it's worth trying to win her back, or at least give her the time she asks for. At the same time, you are single and if something comes up, you shouldn't feel like you can't act on it. Over the past 8 months for our ambiguous status, I've never found a girl who measured up to her. Yet, if I did find someone who took my breath away, someone who I truly wanted to get to know, I'd have gone after it, knowing that I was single. If she still loves you and you're with another woman, she'll be furious and have to win you back, leaving you with a decision and some leveraging power in the relationship.
My lovely and amazing girlfriend of 2 years told me last fall that she wanted a break, some "time to herself." Now, the circumstances where that I had just started my first year of college, and she was but a junior in high school. Despite a distance of 45 minutes between us, for the first month we saw each other frequently and I felt everything was going fine. All of a sudden, her feelings "changed," and she asked for this. Yet, since last fall, we've never really not talked for a period longer than a week. So really rough patches aside, we remained best friends, and lovers. Now that I'm home, she's warmed back up to me.
I guess it's a tough situation. If you're like me, you really love her and want to be with her. She probably does love you, but is worried about the commitment, or that she's being "spoiled" by a good guy such as yourself. I think if she's someone you really truly love, it's worth trying to win her back, or at least give her the time she asks for. At the same time, you are single and if something comes up, you shouldn't feel like you can't act on it. Over the past 8 months for our ambiguous status, I've never found a girl who measured up to her. Yet, if I did find someone who took my breath away, someone who I truly wanted to get to know, I'd have gone after it, knowing that I was single. If she still loves you and you're with another woman, she'll be furious and have to win you back, leaving you with a decision and some leveraging power in the relationship.
